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Bam, bam, bam, bam.
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I loves Thanksgiving.
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I love Thanksgiving.
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I love, I love, I love Thanksgiving.
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Love Thanksgiving.
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What?
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Love Thanksgiving.
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Love it, love it, love.
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I love Thanksgiving.
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That was just a little song.
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Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business
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and life you love.
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Now, this week here in the US we are celebrating one of my favorite holidays, Thanksgiving.
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Come on, guys.
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Can we hear it for some Thanksgiving?
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Now here’s the deal, I love this holiday because it’s not about material gifts.
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It’s about friends, it’s about family, and connection, and food.
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Glorious food.
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Do you guys know how much I love to eat?
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I love to eat.
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Now, as you may know, a typical practice is that people sit around the Thanksgiving dinner
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table and they often take turns sharing what they’re grateful for.
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Well, this season I have got something new for you to try and here’s what’s great.
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It’s something that you can do all year long.
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So instead of saying what we’re grateful for, what we’re gonna do is say what we
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appreciate.
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Now, you might be thinking, “Hold up, Marie.
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Aren’t those really the same thing?”
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And my response to you is not really.
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So for our purposes I want you to think about gratitude as the quality of being thankful.
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Now, most of the time when we talk about things that we’re grateful for we’re referring
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to things we have in our life like, I don't know.
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“I’m grateful for my job” or “I’m grateful for my husband.”
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Now there’s nothing wrong with that.
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Gratitude is a very transformative force.
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But appreciation is different.
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It’s about recognizing something great in someone else and letting them know about it.
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And as Steven Covey taught us, “the greatest need of a human being is to be understood,
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validated, and appreciated.”
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So this year, why not go around the holiday table and publicly appreciate each person?
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So talk about something specific that you love or admire about them.
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I want you to brag on them.
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Just give them a shout out.
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Kind of like this:
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“Zach, I appreciate how creative you are, how thoughtful you are, how much you juje
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the set of MarieTV, and, most importantly, how you are willing to do the Flashdance solo
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anytime, anyplace.”
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“Jams, I appreciate your sense of humor, your laughter.
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And you, my friend, are a snazzy dresser.
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I appreciate how you laugh at my jokes when nobody else does, and that’s the thing I
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care about the most.”
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“Mashed potatoes, I appreciate you.
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I appreciate how creamy and fluffy and light and delicious and salty you are.
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You get better every year and you make me feel so warm and fluffy.”
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Jams, that was really sweet.
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But can you make it to a person?
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Mashed potatoes is my nickname for Eric.
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“Aw.”
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Now, I think you get the idea, right?
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And if you’re not used to giving people compliments, here is an appreciation template
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to get your creative juices flowing:
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“First name, I so appreciate your BLANK,” and here you’re gonna insert a quality like
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courage or tenacity or thoughtfulness or sense of humor.
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Next you’ll say, “I say that because of BLANK.”
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Then you’re gonna share some specific details and evidence of how they embody that trait
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or how they make people feel.
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If you put some thought into this, I promise you will find truth in this here tweetable:
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What you appreciate appreciates.
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Now, even though I love that statement, I did not make that one up.
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You know, it’s one of those classic bits of wisdom that’s almost impossible to trace
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back to a single source.
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But I do know that Lynn Twist, the author of one of my favorite books called The Soul
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of Money, has done a brilliant job spreading this idea too.
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And here’s what it really means to me.
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You know, the grass is always greener where you water it, and this is especially true
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in our relationships.
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The more you can express genuine appreciation for people in your life, the stronger your
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relationships will become, and the more fulfilling your life will be.
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And now I would love to hear from you.
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Let us get this appreciation party started right now.
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In the comments below, tell me at least one person in your life that you appreciate and
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why.
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And please be specific.
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And if you really want to blow their minds, send them a link to this post so they can
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see all those kind words you said about them publicly and in print.
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Now, as always, the very best conversations happen after the episode over at the wonderful
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land of MarieForleo.com, so head on over and leave a comment now.
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And once you’re there, be sure to subscribe to our email list and become an MF Insider.
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You will get instant access to a powerful audio training we created called How To Get
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Anything You Want.
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You’ll also get some exclusive content and special giveaways and personal updates from
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me that frankly, I don't share anywhere else.
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And one last thing.
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I want you to know something.
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I appreciate you.
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I appreciate you for watching our show, for sharing our show, and for allowing us to be
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a part of your world.
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So stay on your game and keep going for your dreams, because the world needs that very
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special gift that only you have.
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Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time on MarieTV.
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I’m feeling it.
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I’m feeling it.
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Bro.
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Broski.
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Jams, I want you to know.
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I appreciate you, your laughter, your sense of humor, and your ability to make love.
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I meant to say – sorry that was a flub.
