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  • How to Not Get Nervous Around Girls

  • So you're talking to a girl.

  • You're probably standing there feeling like a ducking bad*** James Bond *******, right?

  • Wrong!

  • You're probably nervous as ****, your heart is starting to beat faster, you realize your

  • heart is starting to beat faster so you start thinking "oh ****," then you start talking

  • and you realize you're blushing and you start thinking "god dangit! stop being nervous!

  • stop! stop!" and at that point, you start acting really awkward, and the girl looks

  • like she's ready to get out of there.

  • Sound familiar?

  • So today I'm gonna teach you a TON of ways to not get nervous around girls EVER AGAIN.

  • #1.

  • Be in your own element.

  • If you're going on a date, and you go over to HER house, and then you go to HER favorite

  • restaurant, and HER friends are there and listen to music SHE likes, that is NOT what

  • you want to do.

  • Bring her into YOUR world.

  • Go to a place where you're already really comfortable.

  • Wear an outfit that you wear all the time and that you love.

  • Listen to music that you like.

  • If other people are gonna be there, they should be YOUR friends, not hers.

  • Things like that.

  • If you're in an atmosphere that you're already used to, and that you already like, you're

  • gonna be a lot more comfortable.

  • #2.

  • Before you talk to a girl, decide you're not gonna pursue her NO MATTER WHAT.

  • If you're out somewhere and you see a girl you want to talk to, but you're nervous, just

  • decide ahead of time that no matter how well the interaction goes, you're never gonna see

  • her again.

  • Even if she's really into you, you're not gonna ask for her number and you're not gonna

  • invite her out.

  • It's already decided.

  • Then go talk to her.

  • Now there's no pressure, because whether she's impressed by you or not is irrelevant, since

  • you've already decided she's just a practice run and you'll never see her again anyway.

  • Now, obviously you don't do this with every girl, but it's a good technique if you're

  • just starting out, or trying to get warmed up before going for the girls you really care

  • about.

  • #3.

  • Concentrate on a specific image.

  • This is an interesting technique that you can use with girls or in any situation that

  • makes you uncomfortable.

  • Visualize a very specific image, for example, a piece of your favorite fruit.

  • What does it look like?

  • What shades of color are in it?

  • What is its texture?

  • How does the light hit it?

  • What shadows are on it?

  • What does it smell like?

  • Pick a thing, and focus your mind on it.

  • The human brain finds it very difficult to focus on multiple things at the same time,

  • so if you're really focusing on one specific thing, it's gonna be really hard for you to

  • also focus on the fact that you're inexperienced and nervous.

  • #4.

  • Comedy.

  • Laughing is proven to lighten you up and make you less nervous.

  • It can be anything from watching a funny TV show before a date, to reading some funny

  • stuff on reddit from your phone right before you approach a girl (note: I recommend "old

  • people facebook," I'll have a link to it in the description).

  • #5.

  • Visualization.

  • Visualize ahead of time exactly what you plan to do.

  • Not how you want the girl to react, but what YOU will do.

  • What you'll look like, how you'll walk up to her, how you'll be standing or sitting,

  • what your smile will look like, what you'll say.

  • Also, this is very important: visualize the EMOTION you'll feel as well, like happiness,

  • or excitement, or intrigue, or whatever it is you WANT to feel.

  • #6.

  • Don't fight your nerves.

  • If you're already with her and you start feeling nervous, don't fight it.

  • Thinking "oh ---- I'm getting nervous," and trying to fight it, actually just makes you

  • even more nervous.

  • If you don't believe me, notice it next time, as soon as you start thinking "----, my heart

  • is beating fast, stop beating fast, cut it out heart!" all it does it make you EVEN MORE

  • nervous.

  • So don't do that.

  • If you start feeling nervous sensations in your body, just feel them.

  • See what it feels like.

  • What part of the body do you feel them in?

  • Then just let it pass.

  • Alternatively, when you visualize, you can also include that nervousness in your visualization.

  • Visualize your heart beating faster, for example, and then you're more prepared for it, so when

  • it happens it just happens and then it passes, and you don't go through the process of thinking

  • "oh! here we go!" because you already expect it and it isn't a surprise.

  • #7.

  • Have a positive lifestyle.

  • If you already have a really positive lifestyle and you're happy with your life, you're not

  • gonna be as nervous when you talk to girls, because no matter what happens with the girl,

  • you still have a bad--- life to go back to anyway.

  • If James Bond hits on a girl and she shoots him down, he doesn't give a ----, he still

  • has a really fun job and he still drives an Aston Martin.

  • So he doesn't care.

  • But, if your life sucks, and you've placed all your energy on getting a girl and you

  • think your entire happiness is dependent on whether you get a girl or not, then of course

  • you're gonna be really nervous.

  • Build up your own life, your health, hobbies, goals, relationships with family, things like

  • that.

  • #8.

  • Use it as a learning experience.

  • If you're out with a girl, don't be there thinking about --- the entire time.

  • "How do I impress this girl?

  • How do I get her to like me?

  • How do I get her to have --- with me?" because let's be honest, that's usually what you do,

  • isn't it?

  • Don't be ashamed, it's what a lot of guys do, even I've done it.

  • But that's not the best thing to do.

  • What I like to do now, is see what I can learn from the experience.

  • Does she have anything interesting to say, that I can learn from?

  • Are there any specific activities I've been wanting to try, that I invite her to join

  • me for?

  • If you're inexperienced in dating, see how you can improve your own skills through the

  • experience, for example by paying more attention to the girl's body language and trying to

  • identify what she's thinking, not as a way to have --- with her, but as a way for you

  • to improve your skills of perception.

  • #9.

  • Go out with more interesting girls.

  • If you're going out with generic girls and bimbos then it can actually be a little harder

  • because you always have to control the conversation and play off what they say in order to keep

  • it interesting.

  • On the other hand, if you go out with a more interesting girl, she's gonna be bringing

  • up cool topics to talk about, and asking you questions that you guys can have fun discussing,

  • and things like that.

  • Then instead of seeing her as just an interchangeable hole to put your ---- in, you'll see her as

  • more of an actual person and you'll just be there having fun.

  • #10.

  • Act as if you are who you want to be.

  • You probably have goals and dreams, and you probably haven't achieved all of them yet.

  • But imagine you have.

  • Maybe your goal is to live in a beach house in the Bahamas after selling your company

  • for 30 million dollars.

  • Maybe your goal is to have a fun job as a racecar driver and a family that you have

  • a great relationship with.

  • Maybe your goal is to learn how to fly around in the air like a Greek god.

  • When you're out somewhere, imagine that you're already that guy.

  • Imagine how you'd act if you were already there.

  • Then act like that.

  • If you just learned how to fly, are you really gonna be nervous about talking to a girl?

  • no!

  • YOU CAN FLY!

  • You don't care AT ALL whether she likes you or not because at the end of the day, YOU

  • CAN FLY!

  • Whatever your goal is, imagine that you're already there, and then act how you would

  • act.

  • Try it out.

  • So those are my 10 tips.

  • You might have heard some of them, you might not have, they're all things that I personally

  • learned or invented myself over the years and that I've used with a lot of success.

  • Start trying em out right now, then come back and leave a comment and tell me which ones

  • you liked the best!

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How to Not Get Nervous Around Girls

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