Name: 10 WAYS TO NOT GET NERVOUS AROUND GIRLS | How to TALK to GIRLS
Uploaded: 2017-06-28T08:52:14.000Z
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You're probably standing there feeling like a ducking bad*** James Bond *******, right?

You're probably nervous as ****, your heart is starting to beat faster, you realize your

heart is starting to beat faster so you start thinking "oh ****," then you start talking

and you realize you're blushing and you start thinking "god dangit! stop being nervous!

stop! stop!" and at that point, you start acting really awkward, and the girl looks

So today I'm gonna teach you a TON of ways to not get nervous around girls EVER AGAIN.

If you're going on a date, and you go over to HER house, and then you go to HER favorite

restaurant, and HER friends are there and listen to music SHE likes, that is NOT what

Go to a place where you're already really comfortable.

Wear an outfit that you wear all the time and that you love.

If other people are gonna be there, they should be YOUR friends, not hers.

If you're in an atmosphere that you're already used to, and that you already like, you're

Before you talk to a girl, decide you're not gonna pursue her NO MATTER WHAT.

If you're out somewhere and you see a girl you want to talk to, but you're nervous, just

decide ahead of time that no matter how well the interaction goes, you're never gonna see

Even if she's really into you, you're not gonna ask for her number and you're not gonna

Now there's no pressure, because whether she's impressed by you or not is irrelevant, since

you've already decided she's just a practice run and you'll never see her again anyway.

Now, obviously you don't do this with every girl, but it's a good technique if you're

just starting out, or trying to get warmed up before going for the girls you really care

This is an interesting technique that you can use with girls or in any situation that

Visualize a very specific image, for example, a piece of your favorite fruit.

The human brain finds it very difficult to focus on multiple things at the same time,

so if you're really focusing on one specific thing, it's gonna be really hard for you to

also focus on the fact that you're inexperienced and nervous.

Laughing is proven to lighten you up and make you less nervous.

It can be anything from watching a funny TV show before a date, to reading some funny

stuff on reddit from your phone right before you approach a girl (note: I recommend "old

people facebook," I'll have a link to it in the description).

Visualize ahead of time exactly what you plan to do.

Not how you want the girl to react, but what YOU will do.

What you'll look like, how you'll walk up to her, how you'll be standing or sitting,

what your smile will look like, what you'll say.

Also, this is very important: visualize the EMOTION you'll feel as well, like happiness,

or excitement, or intrigue, or whatever it is you WANT to feel.

If you're already with her and you start feeling nervous, don't fight it.

Thinking "oh ---- I'm getting nervous," and trying to fight it, actually just makes you

If you don't believe me, notice it next time, as soon as you start thinking "----, my heart

is beating fast, stop beating fast, cut it out heart!" all it does it make you EVEN MORE

If you start feeling nervous sensations in your body, just feel them.

What part of the body do you feel them in?

Alternatively, when you visualize, you can also include that nervousness in your visualization.

Visualize your heart beating faster, for example, and then you're more prepared for it, so when

it happens it just happens and then it passes, and you don't go through the process of thinking

"oh! here we go!" because you already expect it and it isn't a surprise.

If you already have a really positive lifestyle and you're happy with your life, you're not

gonna be as nervous when you talk to girls, because no matter what happens with the girl,

you still have a bad--- life to go back to anyway.

If James Bond hits on a girl and she shoots him down, he doesn't give a ----, he still

has a really fun job and he still drives an Aston Martin.

But, if your life sucks, and you've placed all your energy on getting a girl and you

think your entire happiness is dependent on whether you get a girl or not, then of course

Build up your own life, your health, hobbies, goals, relationships with family, things like

If you're out with a girl, don't be there thinking about --- the entire time.

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