Name: 【TEDx】Is Casual Sex Bad For You? | Dr. Zhana Vrangalova | TEDxCollegeofWilliam&Mary
Uploaded: 2016-07-19T04:10:20.000Z
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Hi, so our world today is a far more sexually permissive place

These days, for most people, premarital sex is okay,

In this post-"50 Shades of Grey" era, even kinky sex is okay.

But we're still very conflicted as a society and as individuals

over whether it's acceptable and healthy to have casual sex;

sex outside the confines of long-term, romantic relationships.

yet we are often told it's bad for us, we shouldn't be doing it.

By the time we are 25, 70% of us will have hooked up at least once,

and yet most of us will worry we shouldn't really be doing it.

But there's something that doesn't make sense here to me

about this love-hate relationship we have with casual sex.

We all seem to agree that sex with a romantic partner

to better relationships and greater happiness.

if our partner is a stranger or a friend?

only because of the love and commitment we feel for our partners?

it automatically turns into a destructive force?

Isn't there something good in just, you know, sex?

When I started my PhD in Developmental Psychology,

Or is this just another grossly over-exaggerated moral sex panic

In the 10 years since, we've learned a great deal

about casual sex from social science research

but virtually 90% of that knowledge is based on US undergrads.

And trust me, you are not the only people hooking up.

So to supplement our knowledge and understanding of this phenomenon,

I started this website, called "The Casual Sex Project."

It's an online space for people of all demographic backgrounds

My hope was to give people a chance to tell their stories,

make sense of their experiences through this process of storytelling,

but also, to paint a more diverse, richer picture

what it means to people, what it feels like, what its aftermath may be.

In the 10 months since the website's been up,

Over 1200 stories have been shared by people from all over the world,

and it's been written about on six continents.

So what have all these stories and studies taught us about casual sex and well-being?

Well, here are a few things that you may not have been aware of.

First of all, casual sex has many potential benefits.

Perhaps the most obvious one is sexual pleasure.

Then there are things like learning new sexual skills,

Then there are collecting fun stories and memories

to tell your friends at the senior citizens' home, many years later,

There's even experiencing that deep, emotional,

spiritual, intellectual connection with another human being

that sometimes happens even though no romantic feelings are involved.

But casual sex has yet another powerful pull on us.

humans have this fundamental need for adventure,

Some more than others, but it's there in our DNA.

And that is a need that casual sex satisfies effortlessly

and it's a need that's much more difficult, if not impossible, to meet

in the long-term part of long-term relationships.

Now, people fear that most of the time these cons outweigh the pros.

for how people feel following their hook ups.

For both men and women alike, positive post-hook-up reactions

are much stronger than negative hook up reactions;

Other studies show that casual sex has little to no impact

Things like self-esteem, life satisfaction, depression, anxiety.

Now, of course, this doesn't mean that all hook ups follow this pattern,

or that this pattern is typical of everybody who hooks up,

and that no one's well-being is ever affected.

When you look more closely at the people and the experiences

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