Name: 5 Unusual Signs Your Man Is Into You!
Uploaded: 2016-07-10T14:23:56.000Z
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Hey, Mat Boggs here and today we are going to talk about five unusual ways to know if

your man is into you. Now, there's a lot of questions about: Does

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he like me? How do I know? How can I get my man-ray vision going so I can know if he's

into me? And a lot of the advice online is sort of obvious, you know: Is he calling you?

Is her pursuing you? You know, that kind of stuff. So I decided to take a different approach.

Now, you may or may not agree with some of these but it's important to look at these

five things because they are sort of hidden indicators that yes, your man is digging on

you. The first way is this: he is awkward. Now,

I know you might be thinking, Well, awkward. I don't even want a guy who's awkward.

You know, awkward to me is boring. But let me just tell you that the way our brains

are wired up actually makes it more likely that your man is going to be awkward around

you if he likes you. Now for all of us, when we like somebody, it's way more natural

to be awkward and tense and nervous around them. Why? Because we don't want to screw

up. It's something that important to us so we're trying to get it right, we're

trying to be perfect. But especially for a man, it's enhanced and here's why. The

way our brains are wired up, our brains are like giant apartment complexes.

So if he's in the visual apartment looking at you thinking, Man, she is beautiful.

Like look at her, she is gorgeous, and he's trying to have a conversation with

you and he's so enamored with your beauty, the moment you ask him a question, he has

to run over into his conversation apartment and he's in there and he's like, Uh,

what did she ask me? I don't even know. So uh, you come here a lot? And then

he runs back over into his visual apartment and is like, You are so beautiful. And

then you're trying to talk to him again. He runs back over into his conversation apartment

and all he can say is, You're beautiful. You're so attractive. Right? And he's

like completely awkward and stumbling over himself.

Every guy who's watching this video has done this. Every guy who is watching this

video has tongue-tied himself because he's like, Holy shit. Like she is so beautiful.

Right? So if he's awkward, know that that's actually a sign that he is into you. I'm

not talking about boring or I'm not talking about, you know, not having things in common

with you, but if you can sense that he's nervous and he's awkward, that's a good

sign. Way number two that he's into you is when

you notice that he's allowing you to influence him. There's a lot of great marriage research

that shows that one of the ways that happily married couples interact is when we allow

each other to influence us. Honey, try this new food, or, Honey, let's go

to this new restaurant. If you just drop in passing, you know, that you'd like to

try salsa dancing and then you notice that he's game for going salsa dancing or wants

to take you, that's a really good sign. If you notice that you're influencing him

or he's willing to try new things, that's a great sign that he's totally into you.

There was a survey done for little kids where they asked, What is love? and so he's

what one little girl's definition of love is. And she says, Love is when you tell

a guy you like his shirt and then he wears it every day.

Alright, this brings us to number three. The third way to tell if your man is into you

is if he doesn't make a move physically. Now, you might be thinking, Whoa, whoa,

whoa, whoa, whoa. Wait, Matt. I have heard the opposite. If my man's not making a move,

then he obviously doesn't like me or he's keeping me in the friend zone. Well, that's

true part of the time. But there's another part of the time where another factor is

true, and that is if you have a man who is handsome, who is sexy and successful with

women, if he's been able to get women easily into bed, then his strategy is often different.

I have lots of friends where their strategy with the one that they like, the one that

they actually want to create something serious with, is to do the opposite, is to not make

a move right away, is to actually hold off on that, and that can be confusing to a lot

of women. And really what the strategy here for the guy is that he is trying to make you

special. He's not lumping you in between the sheets with all the other women, he's

actually making you different and therefore making you special. He's moving from Mr.

Playeristic to Mr. Partneristic, right? In his own mind he's like, I don't want

this to be a player situation with this girl. I want this to be something special and I

want to be a partner with this girl, so how can I treat her as a partner?

So here's the nuance pay attention. How can you tell if he's keeping you in

the friend zone and cold versus keeping you in the partner zone and just playing a little

bit slow on the physical scale because he wants to progress the relationship forward?

How can you tell the difference? Here's how to tell. Look for his consistency in his

action. Is he moving the relationship forward? Is he progressing the time that you're spending

together? Is he opening up to you emotionally? Is he making slight moves or treating you

in ways that is not just a friend: touching you, holding your hand, having his arm around

you? That kind of stuff, you know that you're not in the friend zone and you know that he's

not cold, he's actually progressing it forward. So if he hasn't made a move yet, don't

worry, it just means he's into you. Let's talk number four. The fourth way you

know he's into you is if he doesn't want you to meet his friends. Now, I know that

that's counterintuitive because as we get more intimate and more emotionally connected

with somebody, we want to share deeper layers of our life with them, deeper circles with

the people that matter the most to us. And your man might be transitioning from an old

lifestyle of partying and going out to a new lifestyle of actually becoming a partner,

right? The kind of man he wants to become, and oftentimes, as you know, when you change

your life, people from old circles don't always come with you and sometimes you need

to sacrifice them. So if he's not introducing you to his friends,

it might be that he doesn't have any friends in this new state of his life. All of his

friends are from the old chapters of his life and he doesn't want to introduce you to

them, fearing that you might get the wrong impression for what kind of guy he is, because

we've all had the friends that are just like embarrassing, right? And we bring our

girls around and they say something dumb and embarrass us. And he likes you, he wants to

protect that connection with you, so he's like, I am not letting you around any of

those old guy. He's either embarrassed or he doesn't want you to get the wrong

impression. And at the same time, that can even go for his family, right? The people

who you think you should be meeting at this point in the relationship but he hasn't

introduced you yet. Notice his vibe on it. He might not come from

a great family or really feel connected with them. So what are you looking for? How do

you tell? If he hasn't introduced you to his friends or his family, what is an indication

he's into you? Again, it comes down to progression. Is he progressing the time he's spending

with you? Is he progressing the emotional connection that he has with you? Is there

consistency in how you guys are moving forward? That's the bigger sign then whether or not

he's introducing you to his family or his friends.

This brings me to number five, the fifth way that you can tell if your man is into you,

and this is if he acts out for you attention. Now, what do I mean by that? What I mean is

that when we want things as human beings, people will err in either going what we call

overs or unders. Over is pouring on too much energy, unders is withtreating, withdrawing

and pulling back the energy. Over is sort of a pushing energy and under is a pulling

energy. Here's what I mean. When I was dating, I would measure how successful my date was

by how many times I could make the woman laugh and by how much fun we were having. So when

I started dating my wife, I really liked her and so my tendency was to go into overs and

I would be super funny and energetic and she was little bit like, Whoa, tiger. Slow