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  • Hi guys. This is Mat Boggs with Cracking the Man Code and I wanted to give you a quick

  • insight into something that just happened to me recently for how to really connect to

  • your man and really, really tap into the love center of his mind. This happened actually

  • just yesterday. I was over at my girlfriend’s house and

  • her dad came in from a long day of work and he was all sweaty and grimy and dirty. And

  • so were getting ready for dinner and were sitting down for dinner and he kind of takes

  • a shower, he goes and gets ready, he comes out and come into the kitchen and his wife

  • (theyre been married 35 years) goesTheyre from Mexico, born and raised, very

  • authentic Mexico culture and she goes, “[Una ey, una ey por Miguel? 00:57].” And the

  • whole family goes, “[ey? 01:00]!” And you could see the look on his face. You know,

  • he really liked it. And ultimately, what she was doing – “[una ey? 01:10]” just means

  • likeatta boyin their family. It’s like their tradition when they say “[una

  • ey? 01:15]” for something – “[Una ey? 01:17]!” “[Ey? 01:18]!” And she was

  • acknowledging him. My best friend and I traveled the country

  • 12,000 miles and interviewed over 300 couples about what makes their marriage last and bar

  • none, the largest, single greatest insight that they all said was respect. See, for a

  • man, that is the single greatest key to being connected in a relationship: when he feels

  • like his thoughts are respected. We want to feel in love, too, but our feelings of love

  • get generated when we feel like were providing for you, when we feel like were doing a

  • good job for you. So I wanted to give you three quick tips for how to ignite this feeling

  • of, “Am I able to make you happy? Am I able to provide for you what it is that you want?”

  • because men literally get a biological boost when we feel like were providing for you.

  • In fact, research shows there’s a serious of questions men go through when deciding

  • whether or not they wat to commit to their woman. And one of the biggest onesyou

  • know, as much as you like to think it’s about you, it’s about how we feel about

  • ourselves when were around you, and one of the biggest questions is: “Do I feel

  • like a man in your presence?” So here’s three quick things that you can

  • implement right now in your relationship or in a dating scenario that will help your man

  • feel more like a man in your presence. The first one is to compliment him. Men don’t

  • do very well with criticism because it strikes our ego. It makes us feel like were not

  • providing for you. So if you want to influence him to do more of something or if you even

  • want to just make him feel like a man, compliment him on something that he did for you, okay?

  • A lot of ties women will use the wordsyou know, you like to acknowledge that you love

  • him so youll say, “I love you.” An even more powerful thing is to tell him that

  • youre proud of him and tell him why youre proud of him. Say, “Honey, you remember

  • when you took me out last week and you took me to that really romantic dinner? God, that

  • was awesome! It made me feel so loved, so cared about. That was just the best when you

  • did that.” Complimenting him on something that he did, telling him that youre proud

  • of him for a particular reason is huge. John Gottman, who’s one of the leading researchers

  • of marriage in the world says that healthy marriages have a 5 to 1 ratio: five compliments

  • for every one criticism, okay? Second thing: Ask for him opinion and then

  • simply listen. Men’s greatest, again, subconscious desire is to have their thoughts respected,

  • so when you ask his opinion about something and then just listen fully to his opinion

  • resist the urge to jump in and share ideas because, women, it’s easy to communicate

  • that way because you feel connected and youre cooperating and collaborating. Men only interrupt

  • each other when were being competitive and when were vying for power. So make

  • sure that when you ask for his opinion, just listen and let him finish.

  • And the third one is to ask for his help with something. Men love to feel like the hero.

  • They love to feel like they can provide you with something. We love to feel needed, so

  • if you can ask for his help with something, that will also give him a biological boost,

  • feel more like a man in your presence and hell want to be in your presence and connect

  • to you on a deeper level more. So I hope you enjoyed this information. Now,

  • if youre in Southern California, I want to personally invite you to a live Cracking

  • the Man Code seminar that I’m doing Wednesday night, June 9. And I’m going to put a link

  • right below this video so you can check it out. If youre not in the area of Southern

  • California, I’m going to put a separate link where you can download the entire seminar

  • and watch it right now, immediately, from the comfort of your own computer. It gives

  • you a ton of insights for how to understand and connect to your man and crack the Man

  • Code. So anyway, thanks for watching, and I’ll talk to you soon.

Hi guys. This is Mat Boggs with Cracking the Man Code and I wanted to give you a quick

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