Name: 3 Ways To Build Connection With Your Man
Uploaded: 2016-07-08T09:14:45.000Z
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Hi guys. This is Mat Boggs with Cracking the Man Code and I wanted to give you a quick

Past simple

insight into something that just happened to me recently for how to really connect to

The imperative

your man and really, really tap into the love center of his mind. This happened actually

just yesterday. I was over at my girlfriend’s house and

her dad came in from a long day of work and he was all sweaty and grimy and dirty. And

so we’re getting ready for dinner and we’re sitting down for dinner and he kind of takes

a shower, he goes and gets ready, he comes out and come into the kitchen and his wife

(they’re been married 35 years) goes – They’re from Mexico, born and raised, very

authentic Mexico culture and she goes, “[Una ey, una ey por Miguel? 00:57].” And the

whole family goes, “[ey? 01:00]!” And you could see the look on his face. You know,

he really liked it. And ultimately, what she was doing – “[una ey? 01:10]” just means

like “atta boy” in their family. It’s like their tradition when they say “[una

ey? 01:15]” for something – “[Una ey? 01:17]!” “[Ey? 01:18]!” And she was

acknowledging him. My best friend and I traveled the country

12,000 miles and interviewed over 300 couples about what makes their marriage last and bar

none, the largest, single greatest insight that they all said was respect. See, for a

man, that is the single greatest key to being connected in a relationship: when he feels

like his thoughts are respected. We want to feel in love, too, but our feelings of love

get generated when we feel like we’re providing for you, when we feel like we’re doing a

good job for you. So I wanted to give you three quick tips for how to ignite this feeling

of, “Am I able to make you happy? Am I able to provide for you what it is that you want?”

because men literally get a biological boost when we feel like we’re providing for you.

In fact, research shows there’s a serious of questions men go through when deciding

whether or not they wat to commit to their woman. And one of the biggest ones –you

know, as much as you like to think it’s about you, it’s about how we feel about

ourselves when we’re around you, and one of the biggest questions is: “Do I feel

like a man in your presence?” So here’s three quick things that you can

implement right now in your relationship or in a dating scenario that will help your man

feel more like a man in your presence. The first one is to compliment him. Men don’t

do very well with criticism because it strikes our ego. It makes us feel like we’re not

providing for you. So if you want to influence him to do more of something or if you even

want to just make him feel like a man, compliment him on something that he did for you, okay?

A lot of ties women will use the words – you know, you like to acknowledge that you love

him so you’ll say, “I love you.” An even more powerful thing is to tell him that

you’re proud of him and tell him why you’re proud of him. Say, “Honey, you remember

when you took me out last week and you took me to that really romantic dinner? God, that

was awesome! It made me feel so loved, so cared about. That was just the best when you

did that.” Complimenting him on something that he did, telling him that you’re proud

of him for a particular reason is huge. John Gottman, who’s one of the leading researchers

of marriage in the world says that healthy marriages have a 5 to 1 ratio: five compliments

for every one criticism, okay? Second thing: Ask for him opinion and then

simply listen. Men’s greatest, again, subconscious desire is to have their thoughts respected,

so when you ask his opinion about something and then just listen fully to his opinion

– resist the urge to jump in and share ideas because, women, it’s easy to communicate

that way because you feel connected and you’re cooperating and collaborating. Men only interrupt

each other when we’re being competitive and when we’re vying for power. So make

sure that when you ask for his opinion, just listen and let him finish.

And the third one is to ask for his help with something. Men love to feel like the hero.

They love to feel like they can provide you with something. We love to feel needed, so

if you can ask for his help with something, that will also give him a biological boost,

feel more like a man in your presence and he’ll want to be in your presence and connect

to you on a deeper level more. So I hope you enjoyed this information. Now,

if you’re in Southern California, I want to personally invite you to a live Cracking

the Man Code seminar that I’m doing Wednesday night, June 9. And I’m going to put a link

right below this video so you can check it out. If you’re not in the area of Southern

California, I’m going to put a separate link where you can download the entire seminar

and watch it right now, immediately, from the comfort of your own computer. It gives

you a ton of insights for how to understand and connect to your man and crack the Man

Code. So anyway, thanks for watching, and I’ll talk to you soon.