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  • Heya playa, be honest with me for a second here, are you being bullied? It's ok if you

  • are and I know you've heard the advice "just ignore them" so many times that it goes in

  • one ear and out the other, but today I want to teach you something different. Today you're

  • gonna learn how to fight back. This is The Josh Speaks. You're watching The Josh Speaks.

  • Bullying comes in many different kinds of forms. It can be peopling calling you names,

  • others giving you wet willies or even people shoving you around in front of others just

  • because they feel like it. And what I want you to know is that there are a number of

  • ways to dismantle a bully once you understand why they're picking on you. Most bullies lack

  • self esteem and feel the need to pick on others so that at least someone can pay attention

  • to them. They're often focused on the drama surrounding the bullying process. Their ultimate

  • goal is to get you to react excessively so they can point fingers at you so that no one

  • is looking at them. That's why the way to beat most bullies is to not play into their

  • head games. The majority of the time, they're aiming to damage you psychologically but if

  • you focus on building the necessary self confidence and self worth that you need, their comments

  • won't even affect you. If you wanna learn more tips on building self confidence, check

  • out my video right here because your ultimate goal is to learn how to stare them down, not

  • be phased by what they say, look them in the eyes and say "Man, you're really pathetic".

  • But if you find yourself getting hurt or shaken up by the things that they say, then they're

  • only going to strike back harder until that hole in your tolerance shield grows and grows.

  • And even if you have to pretend, fake it till you make it, don't let them see that their

  • verbal comments and attacks are affecting you in any way. They don't care what your

  • insult back to them is, all they care about is gaining satisfaction from breaking you

  • down, so don't give that to them. But the time has come, you're standing there, one

  • on one with the bully in front of a crowd of people waiting to see if you're gonna put

  • up or shut up, what do you do? Your goal should be to incapacitate them for the rest of the

  • fight so that you can walk away with the least amount of damage done to you as possible.

  • Bullies love to make a show which is why they'll do little things to try to instigate you like

  • shoving you, talking right in front of your face or even throwing things at you. They'll

  • do anything they can to get you to respond and if this is the case, remember to revert

  • back to the psychological mental game. If you see them trying to put on a show for attention,

  • laugh at first and see if you can shrug it off and walk away. But, if you see this isn't

  • working and they're continuing to press on you, always make sure to get that first strike.

  • This might be with a punch or a grab but try your best to lay in a hold move which is either

  • an arm lock or a headlock just so that you can pin them down and hold them there so that

  • they don't do any damage to you. If you can keep them at bay and hold them down, try to

  • get the crowd around you to contact an adult. They'll either be bored that there's no fight

  • or they'll just see that you won, you got him, this thing is over. Another thing to

  • remember is that bullies generally are weak. So if their friends see the main guy getting

  • beat up, they may feel the need to jump in so always make sure your back is closest to

  • the wall so that none of them can attack you from behind. What do you think, did you ever

  • get into a fight with a bully? How did you handle it? Leave your comment below so we

  • can talk about it. This is actually my second video about bullying, if you want to check

  • out my first, click on the video right here where the thug Jose will teach you how to

  • deal with bullying. Defense is the key word here. Always aim to defend yourself, and never

  • be the aggressor unless it's absolutely necessary. Because the key to winning a fight is to avoid

  • it all together. As always guys, love and peace. Hey thanks for watching! If you're

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  • well. Now go watch the second video about my man Jose talking about bullying.

Heya playa, be honest with me for a second here, are you being bullied? It's ok if you

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