Name: When Being “Nice” Means Losing Yourself (Fawning Compilation)
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From a young age, society teaches us to prioritize the needs of others and put our own desires on the back burner.

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We're told that selflessness is a virtue and that taking care of ourselves is selfish.

But in reality, self abandonment can have dire consequences for our well being.

Neglecting our own emotions, opinions and values can lead to a sense of emptiness and disconnection from our true selves.

That's why it's crucial to recognize the signs of self abandonment and make a conscious effort to prioritize self care and self love.

So let's dive into the warning signs that you may be neglecting your own needs.

People Pleasing Ever find yourself saying yes to requests, Taking on more responsibilities than you can handle, or putting your own goals and desires on the back burner to accommodate others?

While it's natural to want to help others, when you constantly prioritize their needs before your own, it can be a sign that you're abandoning yourself.

According to therapist and psychology professor Dr.

Teo Smith, individuals who tend to prioritize the satisfaction of others over their own well being should explore ways of assisting others without causing harm to themselves.

You can do this by setting boundaries and respectfully declining tasks that don't align with your comfort level while still offering your support for the ones that do.

Without a solid foundation of self care, you can't truly be there for others in a sustainable way.

You seek External Validation when you always put the needs of others before your own, you can develop a strong subconscious desire to receive praise, recognition and validation from them as a way to feel good about yourself.

But changing yourself to fit others expectations can result in self hatred, anxiety and stress, especially when they fail to validate you.

In the words of William Shakespeare, self love, my liege, is not so vile a sin as self neglecting.

Remember that there is nothing wrong or shameful about who you truly are.

When you learn to love yourself and stop seeking external validation, you can authentically integrate every part of yourself into everything you do.

This can help you build genuine relationships with others as well as with yourself.

This can look like taking on a job that you don't feel comfortable with.

Being in a friend group that conflicts with your values and prevents you from being your true authentic self or pushing your emotions to the side.

This creates a buildup of anxiety and inner tension.

You may try to find comfort in other ways by venting, getting drunk or eating unhealthily.

However, avoiding your emotions only perpetuates the cycle of neglect.

Ever feel so much better after a good crying session.

According to licensed psychotherapist Sharon Martin, it's important to acknowledge and process your feelings instead of neglecting them.

When you feel emotionally overwhelmed, you can try journaling, meditating, talking to a friend or therapist, or engaging in activities that bring you joy.

If possible, try finding a job or friend group who you feel comfortable and aligned with.

When you allow yourself to feel instead of trying to push your emotions aside, you can breathe, be attentive, and

You don't respect yourself or set boundaries when you lack self respect, you may tend to make choices that conflict with your values, which undermines your happiness and self worth.

Building self respect entails recognizing your worth and establishing healthy boundaries to ensure your needs are met.

Setting boundaries is a crucial component of self care that requires communicating limits to others assertively and clearly.

According to Psychotherapist Jo Nash, Ph.D.

setting boundaries not only fosters positive relationships but also correlates with better emotional and mental health and a stronger sense of identity.

Failing to set boundaries may result in overextending yourself and neglecting your needs.

It's important to communicate your boundaries clearly and assertively, even if it makes you uncomfortable at first.

This can look like saying no to requests that don't align with personal values, taking breaks when necessary, and

communicating needs in a relationship without feeling guilty or ashamed.

Reflect on your situation and ask yourself honest questions.

Is it right for you to hold so much tension at work because you're not being your true self?

Is your partner's acceptance conditional on you behaving in a certain way?

Are your friends expecting you to change to fit in?

With social media, we're often conditioned to seek approval from others and do what they want.

By being truthful with yourself, you can recognize if you're sacrificing your authentic self for others.

Remember Psych 2 goers value yourself for who you are, not who others think you should be.

Set boundaries and say yes only when you truly want to.

If you neglect yourself for too long, you risk feeling anxious, depressed, and tense.

A good sign that you're on the right path is feeling present and relaxed.

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In the realm of human interaction, it is natural to consider the needs and emotions of others.

Empathy and compassion play crucial roles in maintaining healthy relationships.

However, there is a fine line between genuine care for others and self abandonment.

One way this can manifest is through a psychological defense mechanism known as fawning.

This phenomenon was first studied by therapist Pete Walker, who defines fawning as a survival strategy rooted in people pleasing behavior.

It often arises from a deep rooted fear of rejection or a desire to avoid conflict at any cost.

People who engage in fawning tend to prioritize the needs, wants and emotions of others above their own.

They may go to great lengths to please others, sacrificing their own well being and personal boundaries in the process.

With that said, here are six telltale signs that you're abandoning yourself for others, according to experts.

Difficulty Setting Boundaries Struggling to establish and enforce personal boundaries can be a red flag for fawning.

When you struggle to set boundaries, it means you have difficulty defining and communicating with what is acceptable or unacceptable to you in your relationships.

You may fear that asserting your boundaries will lead to conflict or rejection.

As a result, you may allow others to overstep your limits, ignore your own needs, and

This can lead to a general erosion of your sense of self and self worth, says Tranquil.

Difficulty Expressing Opinions if you find it challenging to express your own opinions, preferences or beliefs, it may indicate that you are prioritizing the views of others over your own.

Authentic self expression can be challenging because fear of disagreement or disapproval can lead to self silencing and a loss of your authentic voice.

Asserting yourself and voicing your true thoughts, feelings and opinions can trigger intense guilt or shame because you've internalized the belief that your needs are less important than those of others.

Overextending Yourself Another common behavior among those who abandon themselves for others is taking on more responsibilities and tasks than they can reasonably handle.

This is because people who struggle with fawning often feel obligated to fix or rescue people from their problems, resulting in an excessive amount of commitment.

This overextension can lead to exhaustion, burnout, neglect of self care, and

a lack of time and energy to focus on your own needs and personal growth.

If you found this valuable and helpful, please support our work by leaving a Like comment and subscribe Lack of Reciprocity People who abandon themselves for others often struggle to receive the same level of dedication and emotional support they put into their relationships.

So if this rings true for you, you most likely don't even ask or accept support from others because of an internalized belief that your needs are less important or that you must always be the caretaker.

But by refusing support, you reinforce the pattern of neglecting your own needs and denying yourself the help that could contribute to your own well being.

Tolerating Disrespectful Behavior Continuously tolerating disrespectful or abusive behavior from others without asserting yourself or taking appropriate action is another strong indicator of self abandonment.

Abandoning yourself for others can lead to a tolerance for disrespectful or abusive behavior from others due to a fear of conflict or rejection.

You may find it challenging to assert yourself or establish boundaries when faced with disrespectful treatment.

This tolerance perpetrates the cycle of self abandonment and can have negative consequences on your self esteem and overall well being.

Emotional Exhaustion Engaging in fawning behavior can be emotionally draining.

Constantly catering to the needs of others can leave you feeling overwhelmed, fatigued and emotionally depleted.

And despite your efforts to please others, you may find that you still feel a sense of emptiness or dissatisfaction with yourself.

This lack of fulfillment stems from neglecting your own needs and passions in favor of meeting the expectations of others.

Constantly neglecting your own needs and and feelings can lead to emotional fatigue and potential burnout.

These signs highlight the impact self abandonment can have on various aspects of our lives, including emotional well being, boundaries and support systems.

Recognizing the signs of fawning and its connection to abandoning oneself for others is crucial for personal growth and well being.

By becoming aware of these patterns, you can begin to work towards reclaiming your sense of self, setting healthy boundaries and fostering a sense of balance and self care in your relationships.

So psych two goers, what are your thoughts on this video?

If so, how do you plan to return to yourself today?

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