Name: what to do when you feel like doing nothing (unmotivated, burnt out, unproductive)
Uploaded: 2024-09-30T15:20:43.000Z
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I think I just want to do nothing and just read.

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Hello my loves, welcome back to Lavendaire.

Let's talk about what to do when you feel like doing nothing, when everything feels exhausting and you have no energy or motivation to do anything.

I know some of you want to hear tips on how to be productive when you're feeling unmotivated, but the truth is, when you're in this low state, the best thing you can do is the opposite of being productive.

You have to slow down, be gentle on yourself, and allow yourself to heal.

Don't even try to get your life together.

If you're feeling this way, it's likely you have high expectations for yourself and you're frustrated because you haven't been able to show up the way you wanted.

Or maybe others have high expectations on you, whether it's your parents or the people around you.

Or maybe you've been pushing yourself too hard, taking too much on your plate and just burning yourself out.

Other times, we might feel this way because we had expectations for what the world should be or what our life should look like.

And when that all fell short, we lost our sense of control and didn't know how to handle it.

Honestly, even the pandemic and seeing the ugly parts of society can be really disheartening and cause many of us to feel hungover, unmotivated, and exhausted.

In terms of energy, we've been operating too much in our masculine, focusing on productivity, achievement, external success, and control.

And now, our body and energy are telling us we need to surrender to our feminine, to go inward, slow down, heal, and love ourselves.

We have to release our feeling of control, release our expectations on ourselves, and accept ourselves as we are right now.

It's both hard and easy at the same time.

It can be so hard to surrender, but on the other hand, it's so easy because all you have to do is let go.

So what should you do when you feel like doing nothing?

Remove any and all pressure to be or do anything.

Stop putting any expectations on yourself, and understand that you probably feel burnt out or depleted.

So just let your body and mind rest and recuperate.

I think it's so ironic and magical that when you're unwell, all you have to do is do nothing, aka rest, because your body is fighting hard for you.

Your immune system is doing the hard work, and your body literally already knows what to do.

Just sit back and allow your body to balance and heal itself.

Be kind and gentle with yourself, no matter what.

Practice unconditional love, meaning give yourself love regardless of anything.

Love is accepting, so accept yourself exactly as you are right now.

Don't force anything and practice self-forgiveness if you've been hard on yourself.

Don't underestimate the power of changing your perspective.

We often feel low because we've been focusing on the wrong or difficult things.

I learned this while doing the Liberation Korea challenge.

When you focus on what is hard, for example, the shoulder pain and shaking arms in that challenge, you feel like giving up because it's such a struggle.

But when you focus on what is easy, like breathing, it makes it easier to get through the tough time.

So instead of focusing on what is hard, try focusing on what is easy.

Instead of focusing on what's going wrong in your life, focus on what is still going right.

Actively choose where you turn your attention to because it matters and it makes a huge difference in how we feel.

If you feel like you need more help, talk to someone in your life that you trust.

We each need a support system in our lives and our mental health suffers if we don't have one.

Another option is to consider online therapy.

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It's really easy since everything is done online and on your own time.

What's great is that it's a minimal commitment.

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The next piece of advice I have for you when you're feeling low is stop consuming content that makes you feel worse.

This includes any content that makes you feel bad about yourself, content that makes you compare yourself to others, and even positive or inspirational content, because sometimes it reminds you of what you're unable to do right now.

Sometimes it can be hard to have a positive mindset about something and that's okay.

Allow yourself to feel whatever it is you're feeling right now.

If you want an instant refresh, you can also go into nature.

Being in nature heals you on a spiritual level.

You're reminded of the stillness and ease in nature and that you're just a small part of this bigger world.

When you're out in nature, you feel small.

Here, you can revive your sense of peace.

Just take a walk outside, go to a nearby park, maybe go to the beach or the mountains, or even your local nursery.

I mean, even going to your local home improvement store where they have that outdoor nursery can make you feel a little better, because I feel like the energy of the plants and flowers can be so healing.

Next, understand that life happens in cycles.

Just like the cycle of the day, our moon, or our four seasons, life also happens in cycles.

This means that life never stays the same and is always going through cycles or seasons.

Have you ever heard of the saying, this too shall pass?

Whatever you're going through, know that it will pass.

You might be going through a tough time right now, but it won't stay like this forever.

Your situation and your feelings will change.

Just stay patient and persevere through this season.

Learn to embrace the cycles and seasons of your life, both the highs and the lows, because without the lows, there wouldn't be highs and vice versa.

It's the depth and the variety that allow you to feel the difference.

If you only knew day, but never knew night, you would take the sun for granted.

It's because you know night, that you can appreciate the day and vice versa.

It's because you've experienced the lows, that you can deeply appreciate the highs.

Once you've given yourself rest and you're ready to take some action, start with baby steps.

Again, release any expectations or pressure you might have for yourself.

Break down your tasks into the smallest, easiest chunks you can.

If you want to start exercising to nurture your health and boost your mood, instead of setting a goal like, I want to work out for an hour every day, set tiny goals like, put on my workout clothes today, put on my shoes, open a workout app, or step outside to walk for five minutes.

Do as much as you feel you can, and congratulate yourself for those small actions.

We tend to want to be ambitious and set these big goals for ourselves, but when we don't meet them, we feel like we've failed and then we feel even worse about ourselves.

The better approach is to start small and give yourself grace.