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  • Jono: Even though the culture and the practices are so far removed from our modern society,

  • there's still a lot here that is completely timeless and universal,

  • like the quest for individuality, the quest for deciding who you want to be with

  • or what you want to be in your own life.

  • In an era where people very much accepted their place and accepted their role

  • and would let others walk on them, she wouldn't.

  • This sets him on a journey towards growth and self improvement.

  • It's not to win her. Like, he hopes it will, but it's really like, This is what needs to be done.

  • Megan: The name of the movie is Pride and Prejudice.

  • Those are the two kind of defining traits of our main characters.

  • And here you see them come with complete humility and you see such a shift.

  • And that's why this story works.

  • Jono: There's a difference between, It was all for you so that you would be with me

  • and, It was all for you because I love you.

  • And that's what real love is, is I want you to be happy.

  • And whatever form that takes, I want that for you because you matter to me more than myself.

  • It can be unhealthy to put someone instead of yourself, but before yourself can be a very beautiful thing.

  • And there's a difference.

  • Alan: Welcome to Cinema Therapy.

  • I'm Alan Seawright, professional filmmaker who needs therapy.

  • Jono: I'm Jonathan Decker, a licensed therapist who loves movies.

  • And joining us today is our wonderful producer - Megan.

  • Producer / writer. Why is Megan with us today, Alan?

  • Alan: Well, because this is a film about a whole just group of sisters.

  • Jono: Also... Megan: And I have those. Many of them.

  • Jono: You love all things Jane Austen, is my understanding.

  • Megan: Yeah. I'm a big fan of Jane Austen. She's one of my favorite authors.

  • Jono: Awesome.

  • So in... I think, our very first Twilight episode. Alan: Yeah.

  • Megan: You guys mentioned that, like, why does it work for Pride and Prejudice

  • and why does it not work in Twilight. Jono: Yes.

  • Megan: The whole, like, enemies to lovers thing.

  • Jono: And that he's rude to her and puts her down and stuff like that,

  • which is what Edward does to Bella. And we hate Twilight, but we love this.

  • So what's the difference? Yeah. Megan: Yeah. I.

  • Alan: Snooty British accents.

  • Right-oh...

  • Jono: There's a lot here that even though the culture and the practices are so far removed from our modern society,

  • there's still a lot here that is completely timeless and universal. Alan: Yeah.

  • Jono: Like... Like the quest for individuality, the quest for deciding who you want to be with

  • or what you want to be in your own life.

  • Megan: A lot of what she does is social commentary very specific to that time period,

  • but a huge amount of it is just social commentary about human relationships and interactions.

  • Jono: Yeah.

  • Megan: And we can watch Pride and Prejudice and go, Oh, I know someone just like that.

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  • It's White Chocolate because this is the whitest movie ever.

  • Jono: I would say, because it's timeless and elegant.

  • Alan: And white.

  • Jono: In the club.

  • Alan: One of the things that I really love about this adaptation

  • is that I how Joe Wright, the director, shot everything to feel alive

  • because so much of what we get with Regency historical British drama is

  • it's a very staid and proper and boring, and it didn't feel that way to the people at the time.

  • It felt like this. Felt noisy and loud and hot and sweaty and...

  • Megan: Well, you get the chaos, you know, they're not super upper crust,

  • so you get just kind of the chaos of life. Alan: Yeah.

  • Megan: And I love that.

  • Jono: There's a great frame right here. Alan: I love this.

  • This is one of the all time great character introductions ever in film.

  • They come in, they're dark and silhouetted against this light and life and noise.

  • Elizabeth: And the person with the quizzical brow?

  • Megan: It tells you so much about the characters, like the three characters that we're being introduced to

  • and the entire world that they're stepping into by seeing how everyone else reacts to them,

  • and the way they react to everyone else.

  • Alan: And Elizabeth spitting fire lines.

  • Jono: The sister on the left is straight out of Mean Girls. Look at her.

  • Not her, but the... ...Darcy's...

  • Alan: Bigley's... Bingley's sister. Yeah. Jono: Yeah.

  • Alan: All the performances are fantastic.

  • Matthew Macfadyen, looking at Keira Knightley

  • and having the correct response to seeing Keira Knightley in a ballroom full of people.

  • [Darcy status: 102 - processing]

  • Sorry, Megan. She's very pretty.

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  • Jono: Watch more movies...

  • Alan: Watch more movies.

  • Jono: Alan and I, we were roommates in college, as you all know.

  • Gasp, I never would have guessed.

  • Jono: We would go see action movies and we would watch 24 with Jack Bauer

  • and we'd go see The Transporter with Jason Statham. And then this comes out.

  • And it's kind of like in Tommy Boy when that song comes on

  • and it's this sweet, romantic song and they're like...

  • Richard: Talk about lame.

  • Totally: Totally.

  • ♬♬ Far away ♬♬

  • Totally: You can change it if you want.

  • Richard: I don't care. It's up to you.

  • Totally: I can live with it if you can.

  • Richard: Suit yourself.

  • ♬♬ I'm in love with you ♬♬

  • The boys: ♬♬ Don't you remember ♬♬

  • ♬♬ You told me you loved me, baby ♬♬

  • And I don't know how we got there, but it was like very gently testing the waters

  • because I wanted to see it and I think... but I didn't want Alan to think I was lame.

  • I was totally playing it like, This is going to be just a way to score points with women. Alan: Right.

  • Jono: And then I think we couldn't get dates.

  • Alan: We couldn't get dates that weekend and we're like, So we're just going to go anyway, right? Jono: Yeah.

  • We're just two dudes.

  • Alan: The theater was like 75-80% women.

  • Jono: When you and I went to see Pride and Prejudice,

  • and then afterwards just, like, talked about it for a couple of hours.

  • Alan: When we were walking out, we were the most effusive.

  • You know, all the women in the theater were like, Oh, I enjoyed that. That was a nice adaptation.

  • We're like, Are you kidding? It was so great! What an amazing film!

  • And like the performances and the music and, like, did you see...

  • Oh. The adaptation was so good, too! Remember this part in the book?

  • I know they didn't have that, but they had this.

  • Alan: And we're just like freaking out. Jono: We were just like, I love love, love is the best.

  • And so at that point, I'm like, Yeah...

  • I think this is more than just your standard, like, two guys being friends.

  • Alan: Yeah, this is definitely a movie bromance.

  • Elizabeth: Do you dance, Mr. Darcy?

  • Darcy: Not if I can help it.

  • [Elizabeth error 417: Expectation failed]

  • Megan: Her look, oh my gosh...

  • Alan: This 100% mirrors Megan and my first meeting,

  • except I was Elizabeth Bennet.

  • Megan: And I was definitely Darcy in this situation.

  • Mrs. Bennet: [...] and so much in love with her that I was sure he would make her an offer.

  • However, he did write her some very pretty verse...

  • Elizabeth: And that put paid to it.

  • I wonder who first discovered the power of poetry in driving away love?

  • Darcy: I thought the poetry was the food of love.

  • Elizabeth: Of a fine, stout love, it may.

  • But if it is only a vague inclination, I'm convinced one poor sonnet will kill it stone dead.

  • Darcy: So what do you recommend to encourage affection?

  • Elizabeth: Dancing.

  • Even if one's partner is barely tolerable.

  • Megan: So I love that they really lean into her sarcasm and kind of cutting wit.

  • Alan: And just this... The shot where she walks away and it carries her all the way out the room. Oh!

  • Jono: He's following her, he's still watching her.

  • Alan: Still watching her the whole time.

  • Megan: And you see her facial expression change because she can be sarcastic and cutting to him.

  • Jono: Yeah.

  • Megan: But then when she walks away, you see her kind of change to like,

  • Oh, that was, like, that hurt a little bit. There's,

  • Alan: There's the little smile, and then there's the, Maybe that was too much.

  • Megan: Her pride was wounded by what he did.

  • And so you just get a little hint of both of those things coming out as she's walking away.

  • Jono: Well, one thing I love about Elizabeth Bennet that I think really speaks to people today is

  • her family is looked down on for, you know, not having as much wealth

  • or because her mom is extremely eccentric, maybe...

  • Alan: Her dad's eccentric in a different way. Jono: Yeah.

  • Alan: And none of these are proper... the proper ways for the gentle folk to behave.

  • Jono: They're a rowdy family.

  • I mean, they actually remind me quite a bit of my family and what it sounds like your family.

  • And so people look down upon them. And what I love about Elizabeth is she's not having it.

  • You know, that in a in an era where people very much accepted their place

  • and accepted their role and would let others walk on them, she wouldn't.

  • Which for Darcy is intriguing because on the one hand,

  • he's repulsed by where she comes from because of his breeding.

  • Breeding.

  • Jono: And propriety and manners and all these things. Alan: Yeah.

  • Jono: But on the other hand, he can't help but be drawn to her spirit

  • because he's never met a woman like that.

  • Alan: I do really quickly want to tell the story of how Megan and I met.

  • There was... there was a little gathering. I had just moved into a new apartment.

  • You had just gotten back from... Megan: My study abroad.

  • Alan: A study abroad in Austria. I spot Darcy from across the room and I go...

  • You were sitting on the couch.

  • And I go plunk down next to you and like try and chat you up.

  • I don't even remember what I said. Megan: I don't either.

  • Alan: But you know, I try to say something and she turns and looks at me.

  • And do you remember what you said to me? Megan: I have no idea.

  • Alan: She turned and looked at me and said,

  • Well, nice to meet you. My friends are over there. I'm going to go talk to them.

  • She got up and walked away and after enjoying the view of her walking away, I...

  • I promptly just went, Well, that was interesting.

  • Megan: And I'm not trying to be rude, but it's just like I'm just shy.

  • And so that's how I came across.

  • Jono: Did it... Did it register to you as shyness or did it register to you...

  • Alan: To me? Jono: Yeah.

  • Alan: It registered to me as her taking the gantlet off and slapping me in the face with it.

  • I demand satisfaction. Ow...

  • Darcy: Do you talk, as a rule, while dancing?

  • Elizabeth: No.

  • No. I prefer to be unsociable and taciturn.

  • Makes it all so much more enjoyable, don't you think.

  • Alan: The dialog is so great. But just the way this is shot, this is one long shot.

  • With incredible camera choreography, focus choreography,

  • because they're moving backwards and forwards, towards the camera.

  • In fact when you met us, we just had the pleasure of forming a new acquaintance.

  • Darcy: Why do you ask such a question?

  • Elizabeth: To make out your character, Mr. Darcy.

  • Darcy: And what have you discovered?

  • Elizabeth: Very little. I hear such different accounts of you [...]

  • Alan: Slow pushing.

  • Darcy: I hope to afford you more clarity in the future.

  • Megan: The first cut in the whole scene.

  • First cut in the whole scene. And...

  • Pride and Prejudice did it better than Twilight, kids.

  • Because here you have the combination of an obvious level of attraction,

  • but also they don't know what to make of each other.

  • And so they're just caught in this moment together trying to sort out everything they're feeling and thinking. And...

  • Jono: So, one reason why this works better than Twilight.

  • When Darcy is rude and standoffish to Elizabeth, she doesn't just pursue him all doe eyed. Alan: Right.

  • Jono: She's she gives... Alan: She gives as good or better than she gets.

  • Jono: Yes. And... Megan: She calls him out.

  • Jono: Yes. Megan: She calls him out when he's being a jerk.

  • Jono: And whereas Bella is pretty much instantly on board with, I'm in love with him

  • and I'm going to make this happen. Elizabeth is like, What's this guy's deal?

  • Darcy: Why do you ask such a question?

  • Elizabeth: To make out your character, Mr. Darcy.

  • Darcy: And what have you discovered? Elizabeth: Very little.

  • Jono: And part of the reason she stays in his orbit, like, only a small part, I would say, is attraction.

  • I mean, it's definitely there.

  • But the larger part is because she's not going to be bested by him verbally,

  • which I'm not saying is a great way to run your life or relationships in real life.

  • It's far better to not worry about having the last word and just to let things simmer down.

  • But I do like the backbone of Elizabeth,

  • where one of the reasons she sticks around is he's more like a puzzle box, you know?

  • Megan: Well, at the very start, she's talking about, like, basically her perception of men, but he's not quite that.

  • He fits into some of her perception, but not all of it. And so she's trying to figure out.

  • Jono: It reminds me of a line in Firefly.

  • Inara: Why are you so fascinated by him?

  • Shepherd: Because he's something of a mystery.

  • Why are you?

  • Inara: Because so few men are.

  • Jono: I think Elizabeth's just trying to figure this guy out.

  • Darcy: I have struggled in vain, and I can bear it no longer.

  • These past months have been a torment.

  • I came to Rosings with a single object of seeing you. I had to see you.

  • I fought against my better judgment, my family's expectation,

  • the inferiority of your birth, my rank and circumstance,

  • all these things that I'm willing to put them aside and ask you to end my agony.

  • Elizabeth: I don't understand. Darcy: I love you.

  • [Elizabeth error 422: Unprocessable entity]

  • Darcy: Most ardently.

  • Please do me the honor of accepting my hand.

  • Elizabeth: Sir, I... I appreciate the struggle you have been through

  • and I am very sorry to have caused you pain. Believe me, it was unconsciously done.

  • Darcy: Is this your reply?

  • Elizabeth: Yes, sir.

  • Darcy: Are you... Are you laughing at me?: Elizabeth: No.

  • Darcy: Are you rejecting me?

  • Elizabeth: I'm sure that the feelings, which, as you've told me, have hindered your regard

  • will help you in overcoming it.

  • Darcy: Might I ask why, with so little endeavor at civility, I'm thus repulsed?

  • Elizabeth: And I might as well inquire why, with so evident a design of insulting me,

  • you chose to tell me that you like me against your better judgment?

  • Darcy: No, believe me, I didn't mean... Elizabeth: If I was uncivil, then that is some excuse!

  • But I have other reasons, you know I have.

  • Darcy: What reasons?

  • Elizabeth: Do you think of anything might temp me to accept a man who has ruined, perhaps forever,

  • the happiness of a most beloved sister?

  • Do you deny it, Mr. Darcy?

  • Megan: You can see he didn't even realize...

  • Elizabeth: You separated a young couple, who loved each other,

  • exposing your friend to the center of the world for caprice,

  • and my sister to its derision for disappointed hopes.

  • And involving them both in misery of the acutest kind.

  • Darcy: I do not deny it.

  • Elizabeth: How could you do it?

  • Darcy: Because I believed your sister indifferent to him.

  • Elizabeth: Indifferent?

  • Darcy: I watched them most carefully and realized his attachment was deeper than hers.

  • Elizabeth: That's because she's shy.

  • Darcy: Bingley, too, is modest and was persuaded she didn't feel strongly for him.

  • Elizabeth: Because you suggested it. Darcy: I did it for his own good.

  • Elizabeth: My sister hardly shows her true feelings to me.

  • I suppose you suspect that his...

  • Alan: Plays it so small, but it's so evident

  • Darcy: [I wouldn't] do your sister the dishonor, though it was suggested... Elizabeth: What was?

  • Darcy: It was made perfectly clear that an advantageous marriage...

  • Elizabeth: Did my sister gave that impression?! Darcy: No.

  • No, there was, however, I have to admit, the matter of your family.

  • Elizabeth: Our want of connection?

  • Mr. Bingley didn't seem to vex himself about that. Darcy: No, it was more than that.

  • Elizabeth: How, sir?

  • Darcy: It was the lack of propriety shown by your mother,

  • your three younger sisters, even, on occasion, your father.

  • Alan: Thunder...

  • Darcy: Forgive me.

  • You and your sister I must exclude from this.

  • Elizabeth: And what about Mr. Wickham?

  • Darcy: Mr. Wickham?

  • Elizabeth: What excuse can you give for your behavior towards him?

  • Darcy: You take an eager interest in that gentleman's concerns.

  • Elizabeth: He told me of his misfortunes.

  • Darcy: Oh, yes, his misfortunes have been very great indeed.

  • Elizabeth: You ruined his chances, and yet you treat him with sarcasm.

  • Megan: It's interesting that this is the first time they push in that close on their faces.

  • Darcy: Thank you for explaining so fully.

  • Perhaps these offenses might have been overlooked had not your pride been hurt... Elizabeth: My pride?

  • Darcy: ...by my honesty in admitting scruples about our relationship.

  • Could you expect me to rejoice in the inferiority of your circumstances?

  • And those are the words of a gentleman.

  • From the first moment I met you, your arrogance and conceit,

  • your selfish disdain for the feelings of others,

  • made me realize that you were the last man in the world I could ever be prevailed upon to marry.

  • Alan: More thunder.

  • [Connection error]

  • They're both... I love the way they play that!

  • Darcy: Forgive me, madam, for taking up so much of your time.

  • Jono: She's like, What am I feeling?

  • Alan: Even at the end of all that, wait...

  • Megan: The beginning of the scene is the first time that he appears vulnerable in any way.

  • He's let his guard down. He's always been so aloof, so removed.

  • And here he comes.

  • And just even his facial expression, the fact that his hair's all messy.

  • Alan: They're both sopping wet, like they've had, you know, the protective armor of their breeding.

  • Breeding

  • Alan: And the coiffure and everything is, like, stripped away and it's just the two of them raw.

  • Jono: We get locked in our own perspective as the perspective.

  • And so his thinking is inferior birth, inferior family, yet I can't help but love her.

  • She's probably going to be delighted that I would stoop lower than my station

  • and that I would pull her up to mine.

  • Alan: Yeah. she's going to be thrilled.

  • Jono: She's going to be so excited.

  • Turns out when you insult her family and tell her that she's from an inferior class

  • and you're going to condescend to be with her, she doesn't take that as a compliment.

  • Darcy: Could you expect me to rejoice in the inferiority of your circumstances?

  • Elizabeth: And those are the words of a gentleman.

  • Megan: She'll be the first to recognize it, Yeah. My mom does stuff she shouldn't.

  • My younger sisters are ridiculous, but especially when he says something about her dad.

  • You can see her face, like, that is too far. That is too much.

  • And she's going to jump in and defend her family.

  • And you can see her get defensive there.

  • Jono: Yeah, absolutely. I don't know the exact words, but basically you got offended because I was honest.

  • Your pride caused you to become offended by my honesty.

  • Megan: You can be honest in a way that's not insulting.

  • He was very insulting to her in the way that he he said those things to her.

  • Jono: Speaking whatever you're thinking isn't a virtue if what you're thinking needs to be checked.

  • Here's another big reason why this works and Twilight doesn't,

  • is because Edward really doesn't come out of his own perspective

  • until maybe like almost towards the very end of the last story.

  • You get a tiny little bit of that.

  • But almost the entire time Edward is just locked into my way of doing things.

  • I'm going to protect you. I'm going to lie to you. I'm going to own you and I'm going to control you.

  • And here she pushes back. And you see this... You see, like you were saying, Alan,

  • in the acting, you see paradigm shifts happening.

  • Jono: You see like four in the scene. Alan: Sure. Yeah.

  • Jono: Right? Where these pivots are happening.

  • Alan: They're big, yeah. And they're usually punctuated by thunderclaps.

  • Jono: Yeah. Alan: Good job, Joe wright.

  • Megan: But also their facial expressions, like, you can see when they've said something that really hits

  • and they're go, Oh I didn't know that about myself. Alan: They have... they have very clearly...

  • Jono: Yeah.

  • Alan: Yeah. And the actors and the director have very, very clearly put in the work

  • to get that scene on its feet and find those beats,

  • is generally what we call them, like, emotional beats in a scene.

  • I don't know if you guys notice this, there are two shots in that entire scene. Jono: Yeah.

  • Alan: There is one shot on Darcy and there is one shot on Elizabeth Bennet. Jono: Yeah.

  • Alan: And he gets close.

  • It's not a different shot, they just walk the cameras in.

  • Jono: The paradigm shifts happen, especially in Darcy,

  • where he's thinking, My actions are justified. My intentions were to protect my friend.

  • Your sister didn't seem like she was that into him, so I basically split them up

  • and Elizabeth's like, No, she was super into him and she would have been happy and now she's miserable.

  • And like you were saying, Megan, like, you could see in his face, I made a mistake. Alan: Oh no, I did a terrible thing.

  • Jono: When he sees that his words, how they land with her so differently than he anticipated.

  • And this is one thing I love about Darcy is for all the pride that he has,

  • I mean, they both have a lot of pride, there's humility there as well,

  • because when he gets called out on his stuff, not immediately. He doesn't immediately...

  • I mean, he apologizes, but...

  • Megan: But in that scene, they both get pretty defensive and worked up about it. But...

  • Jono: But they don't fall into each other's arms, even though the sexual chemistry is there.

  • But this sets him on a journey towards growth and self improvement.

  • Yeah, he spends the next year making everything right behind the scenes

  • without telling anybody about it. Yeah.

  • Alan: It's awesome. Jono: Yeah.

  • Megan: And without any expectation. Alan: Yeah.

  • Megan: It's just he took to heart what she said and went, I'm not the man I thought I was. Jono: Yes.

  • Megan: And I need to fix that.

  • Jono: And like you're saying, it's not to win her. Like he hopes it will,

  • but it's really like, This is what needs to be done.

  • Alan: Well, he very explicitly, constantly is trying to have her not find out that he's doing it.

  • Lydia: Don't tell anyone. He told me not to tell

  • Elizabeth: Mr. Darcy? Lydia: Stop it, Lizzy.

  • Jono: Yeah. Alan: Which that's... That's integrity. That's great.

  • Jono: Yeah. So this is after he's spent the past year being better and fixing everything.

  • And she's so happy for her sister and happy for her life.

  • And everything is a lot better. And she's realized that he was doing it.

  • Alan: This looks like confidence and swagger from an actor,

  • but this is confidence and swagger from a filmmaker and a composer. Megan: Yeah.

  • Alan: I'm going to sit on this long ass, boring shot,

  • and I'm going to let Dario Marinelli make you fall in love with this man.

  • Megan: Well, I don't think we even have the whole thing. I don't think we started at the very beginning, did we?

  • Alan: I cut off a few seconds of it, maybe.

  • Megan: But it is... it is a long, long shot.

  • The score is just phenomenal.

  • Elizabeth: I couldn't sleep.

  • Megan: And then he gets to her, and he looks so humble after that, like, swagger walk.

  • Darcy: How could I ever make amends for such behavior?

  • Elizabeth: After what you have done for Lydia, and I suspect for Jane also,

  • it is I who should be making amends.

  • Darcy: You must know. Surely you must know it was all for you.

  • You are too generous to trifle with me.

  • I believe you spoke with my aunt last night and has taught me to hope

  • as I had scarcely allowed myself before.

  • If your feelings are still what they were last April, tell me so at once.

  • My affections and wishes have not changed.

  • But one word from you will silence me forever.

  • Megan: I love that he's not trying to force it.

  • He says, I'll respect your agency here and what you want.

  • Darcy: If your feelings have changed,

  • I would have to tell you.

  • You have bewitched me, body and soul.

  • And I love, I love, I love you.

  • I never wish to be parted from you from this day on.

  • [Connection established]

  • Elizabeth: Well, then.

  • Your hands are cold.

  • Megan: I love that that's her response.

  • Alan: High iconic shots.

  • Megan: The name of the movie... of the book is Pride and Prejudice.

  • And those are the two kind of defining traits of our main characters

  • throughout a good chunk of the story.

  • And here you see them come with complete humility and say, I'm sorry for the mistakes I've made,

  • like, I'm trying to fix it. Here's how I'm trying to fix it.

  • Just coming to each other, like, both what they're saying and the way they're expressing it to each other.

  • Just complete humility in how they approach each other.

  • And you see such a shift. And that's why this story works.

  • Jono: There's a difference between, It was all for you so that you would be with me

  • and, It was all for you because I love you.

  • And that's what real love is, is I want you to be happy

  • and whatever form that takes, I want that for you

  • because you matter to me more than myself.

  • And people... it can be unhealthy to put someone instead of yourself.

  • But before yourself can be a very beautiful thing. And there's a difference.

  • Alan: This is a good movie. I like it a lot.

  • Mr. Bennet: Good Lord...

  • Jono: She's talking to her dad, who thought that Darcy was a jerk.

  • And now he's confused because...

  • Alan: She's just explained how much he paid to get Lydia kinda...

  • Elizabeth: [You mustn't tell] anyone. He wouldn't want it.

  • Alan: ...off the hook.

  • Elizabeth: We misjudged him, Papa.

  • Me more than anyone in every way, not just in this matter.

  • I've been nonsensical.

  • He's been a fool about... about Jane, about so many other things,

  • but then, so have I.

  • You see, he and I are...

  • He and I are so similar.

  • Alan: Such an interesting choice to be on a zoom lens

  • and kind of creeping in and out slightly.

  • Mr. Bennet: You really do love him, don't you?

  • Elizabeth: Very much.

  • Megan: I love how he does the same hand gesture that she just did.

  • You know, in in the book, especially in the movie a bit,

  • we see that they have a really close relationship.

  • Mr. Bennet: It seems I am overruled.

  • So, I heartily give my consent.

  • Jono: In some cultures and in some circles you still ask for the father's blessing.

  • And some would say that's an archaic tradition and sign of the patriarchy and should be done away with.

  • And I'm not going to argue that point, but I will say in this context, it's so beautiful.

  • Alan: It's lovely.

  • Jono: You know, he just wants her to be happy.

  • Megan: And especially if you contrast this scene at the end with the scene earlier

  • where her mom is trying to marry her off to Mr. Cullen.

  • Mr. Bennet: Your Mother will never see you again if you do not marry Mr. Collins.

  • I will never see you again, if you do.

  • Megan: I'm not going to send you off to be miserable for your life

  • because I care too much about you.

  • Jono: One thing that jumped out at me, just as a movie fan,

  • is how gorgeously shot this entire film is.

  • There's a scene where Keira Knightley is just on a on a cliff, just pondering.

  • And, I mean, there's nothing going on there. She's standing on a cliff pondering.

  • And I'm just so swept up in it, you know?

  • Megan: Yeah. A lot of it, I think, is the cinematography, but it's also the music. Alan: Yeah.

  • Jono: The palette in this entire film, everything is so rich, is the word that comes to mind.

  • Maybe I'm so used to seeing sad, depressing modern films with a blue filter on everything.

  • Alan: It's partially a warm color palette. A lot of it is just the richness and life.

  • A lot of that is the art department going to those places and packing them full of things,

  • lots of growing things. There's a lot of plants, there's animals, there's there's life, there's mud.

  • We don't live in pristine palaces where everything is, you know, measured out with a ruler.

  • And people back then didn't either.

  • Jono: Why does this work, when Twilight doesn't?

  • One, in Twilight Edward is supposedly... he's arrived on the scene perfect.

  • And therefore he doesn't really change or evolve throughout the entire series. Alan: Yeah.

  • Jono: And he talks down to Bella and he tries to control Bella.

  • And there are similarities between how Darcy starts and how Edward stays.

  • Alan: Yeah.

  • Jono: But, but the biggest difference is Bella just kind of puts up with it for a lot of the time,

  • and then she pushes back a little bit and her character grows and evolves.

  • But a lot of it is just accepting as wonderful Edward mistreating her,

  • whereas Elizabeth never puts up with it, she always pushes back.

  • And the only time, I mean, she's definitely attracted to Darcy,

  • but she doesn't fall in love with him until he changes. Megan: Yeah.

  • Jono: And their relationship is not going to work

  • until she lets go of her pride and he's going to let go of this prejudice.

  • And they both arrive with humility and it happens over a long period of time.

  • So the changes are realistic and believable.

  • Darcy evolves. That's, that's why it works.

  • Alan: And both of them, their perceptions of each other evolve. Jono: Yeah.

  • Alan: Darcy... Darcy changes, but it's not a huge change.

  • Jono: He has the same values at the beginning and at the end.

  • What he drops is, My perspective is the right perspective. Period. Alan: Yes.

  • Jono: So until next time...

  • Alan: So what do you recommend to encourage affection

  • Megan: Dancing, even if one's partner is barely tolerable.

  • Jono: Which are only to be obtained through intercourse.

  • [thunder]

  • Forgive me.

  • Through the intercourse of friendship or civility.

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  • Bingley: Oh, it's a disaster, isn't it?

  • It's been... It's...

  • Miss Bennett.

  • Darcy: Mr. Bingley.

Jono: Even though the culture and the practices are so far removed from our modern society,

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