with some of your relationships?

It's no secret that maintaining a healthy relationship

is challenging.

It takes effort and time.

You have to find the balance

between establishing rules for your relationship

and allowing space for changes to occur.

So to help you out here are a few unspoken rules

that can help you create and maintain

a healthy relationship.

Number one, learn to love yourself.

We all give the love we have learned to accept.

So to love someone

you must first learn how to love yourself.

It seems a bit silly, but most of us show love

based on how we have received love.

In loving yourself,

you learn how to care about your wellbeing

and how to demonstrate acts of love

that are not obligatory or reciprocal.

You learn to love for the sake of loving.

And that's the kind of love you should cultivate

in all your healthy relationships.

Number two, red flags.

Have you ever gone out with someone you really liked

only to end it because of a red flag?

While sometimes it's good to be wary of ignoring red flags

especially when you idealize the person

you're with too much.

The opposite of exaggerating a red flag too much

can happen too.

This can mean thinking too much

or over worrying about their flaw that you end up

sabotaging a possible good thing.

Instead, realize that a red flag isn't the end of the world.

If it's something that really the concerns you,

you can try to bring it up with them and talk about it.

Number three, have the uncomfortable conversations.

Are you always running away from having to talk about

serious and important matters?

While it may be uncomfortable,

it's important to have difficult conversations

when you have concerns and issues in your relationship.

Talk things through and compromise.

Do whatever you both need to do

to confront the uncomfortable topic, but do it together.

Number four, acknowledge and support each other.

You cheer each other on.

When things get tough, it's important to have people

to support and push you on,

whether it's just acknowledging that your work is hard

or supporting them when they wanna make career change.

Being each other's pillar of support

is crucial for a healthy relationship.

Number five, be loyal to each other.

Being loyal to your partner is a given

in a healthy relationship.

The reason loyalty is important is because it denotes trust

which is the foundation of every healthy relationship.

Number six, keep your promises.

Another unspoken rule for a healthy relationship

is to keep your promises.

Whether they're promises you make to yourself

or to your partner.

Keeping and following through with your promises,

shows that you have a strong sense of responsibility,

are trustworthy, and are committed to them.

Number seven, be friends.

Did you start out as friends

before becoming romantically involved?

Sometimes being friends first can help build

a good foundation of trust, communication and companionship.

Of course, it's fine

if you didn't start out as friends, either

since you can still build a friendship

while in a romantic relationship.

You may actually find that it helps you

both be more intimate and understanding with each other.

And finally, number eight,

always say good morning and good night.

Do you make it a habit to greet each other in the morning?

Not only is it courteous, but saying good morning

and good night is a good way to show them

that you're thinking about them.

Even a quick message to them

especially when you're busy shows them that you care.

How do you feel about these rules?

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