Name: How to spot a toxic friendship
Uploaded: 2022-08-05T17:11:18.000Z
Duration: 5 min 40 s
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about some struggles that she's been having,

- Well, let's review our conversation, shall we?

- Any time I try and tell her that she's hurt my feelings,

She kept putting me down the whole night,

And any time it's a big life event for me,

And she was like, "Oh, when did he send you the DM?"

And was like, "Oh, he sent me a DM 20 minutes earlier,"

and I was like, "Girl, why are you competing with me?

You know I like this guy, and you're married."

- I'm not speculating here, I'm just mirroring back

what you shared about your experience with her.

And what I've heard is that she consistently puts you down,

crosses your boundaries, refuses to take accountability

and you self-betray in order to appease her.

And according to you, this behavior is a pattern.

or compliments you, or doesn't ruin your night with drama

is enough to make you stay inside of the friendship

- It's harder to spot a toxic friendship when you're in one,

and I feel like it takes me at least a year or so

to stop thinking up excuses for the other person's

bad behavior and actually start communicating,

like, "Hey, this is an underlying problem

we need to solve, otherwise the friendship needs to end."

And don't get me wrong, I have been the toxic one before,

"Oh, I'm being awful because of feelings of jealousy,

or insecurity, or because I'm emotionally immature

There are also, in addition to all this stuff,

much more subtle signs that someone is toxic

- Oh (Anna laughs) I totally forgot you had it.

- Yeah, well, I met this person in high school, so.

You're in an entirely different phase of your life now,

- I think you should cancel and come to dinner with me.

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How to spot a toxic friendship

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