Name: 15 Things I Wish I Knew in My 20s ?
Uploaded: 2022-07-02T03:22:04.000Z
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Hi, my loves. Welcome back to Lavendaire. It's Aileen. 

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Today, I wanted to make a video for those of you  who are in your twenties. 

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Maybe you're feeling lost, you don't have a direction in life,

or you're just not feeling the most on point.

These are things that I wish I knew when I was in my twenties.

I don't feel like it though. I feel like I'm still 26, maybe.

But anyway, I'm very excited to share  some pieces of advice for you,

whether you're in your twenties or any age.

But we are here to learn how we can understand ourselves,

tap into our fullest potential, and create the life of our dreams.

Without further ado, let's get into the tips.

First things first, nobody knows what they're doing.

It's okay to feel lost. It's okay to not have everything figured out.

So don't feel like you are the only one that's going through this,

or that you have to have things figured out right away,

I know when you've been in school all your life,

This is your homework. We're learning this lesson this week.”

Life is not like that. Life is not that clear cut.

And nobody's giving you a step-by-step  guidebook on how to live life.

And that could be a scary thing, or it can be a beautiful thing.

Think of this as a beautiful opportunity  to figure out who you are,

and start to put the first baby steps in motion.

This is your time to explore, try new things,

and even make mistakes and be okay with that process.

I understand that this is much easier said than done.

And thinking back to how I felt when I was 20 and 21, 

I just could not be okay with not having things figured out,

It was all that pressure that I had to succeed and all –

And so, I'm just saying that I understand  what you're going through.

I feel you, and if you feel like it's too dark in your mind

then definitely reach out to your loved ones

At this point, I wanna thank BetterHelp for sponsoring today's video,

a very fitting sponsor for this topic and this era in your life,

because it's not easy going through your twenties

and feeling lost and dealing with the pressure  from your parents or society.

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BetterHelp will assess your needs and match you  with your own licensed professional therapist.

There's a broad range of expertise in  BetterHelp's counselor network,

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Their service is available for clients worldwide.

The way it works is: You can log in anytime  and message your counselor,

or you can also schedule phone or video calls as well.

I prefer phone calls because I don't like to show my face,

but I know a lot of people love video calls with their therapist.

BetterHelp also makes it easy and free to change counselors  if you don't like yours

and you can cancel anytime if you don't like it.

It's more affordable than traditional therapy  and financial aid is also available.

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Lesson #2: Take your biggest risks while you're young.

This is hands-down one of the best pieces of advice  I actually got in college,

You don't have a mortgage or kids to take care of.

You don't have many obligations or responsibilities  outside of maybe paying student loans.

But for the most part, you're pretty carefree,

and so it's easier to take risks because you have less to lose.

It's also good because when you are young,

you have so much time, so much life ahead of you that,

you have plenty of time to pick yourself back up.

And the reason why I encourage taking risks in the first place is

because higher risks usually equals high reward.

Any age, it's okay to fail, but when you're young,

it's easier to fail because like I mentioned,  you don't have much to lose.

So in your twenties you should actually  aim to make mistakes and aim to fail.

because it really is part of the process of learning and growing.

Tip #3 is to: Think long term and have a big picture goal.

I think it's so, so important to have at least an idea

of where you wanna be in the big picture

because I've seen people not have a big picture goal.

They kind of live life taking things step by step.

and although that can lead you to some great opportunities,

not knowing where you're actually going, not going anywhere,

you know, just staying in the same place.

And then maybe five, ten years later, you're like,

“What the heck am I doing? This is not the life I wanted to live.”

and lay out your vision of your ideal life,

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