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  • - I live in a world where most of the people

  • that I see have arms that are longer than me.

  • - At least you got some. (person giggles)

  • (playful music)

  • - [Interviewer] Hi!

  • - Hello! (giggles) I'm Jordan.

  • - I'm Lou.

  • My pronouns are they, them,

  • and I'm a photographer designer.

  • - [Interviewer] What makes you qualified

  • to know if someone was born with disability or not?

  • - I've watched enough crime shows, medical dramas.

  • - I don't know that I am qualified at all.

  • - Is anyone qualified to do that?

  • I don't think so.

  • - [Interviewer] What's disability,

  • how would you define it?

  • - Disability is a social construct.

  • - It is something physical that affects

  • the way that one interacts with the world

  • and the spaces around them.

  • - [Interviewer] What's your relationship to disability?

  • - I know and love a lot of people that are disabled.

  • I myself have a chronic illness.

  • - [Interviewer] Is there a difference

  • between people who were born with that

  • and people who weren't?

  • - I would imagine that there is

  • a certain mental component that comes along with that.

  • "This is how it was, and I've never known another."

  • Versus "This is was me before, this is me after."

  • - [Interviewer] Let's freaking do this.

  • - Okay.

  • - Hi, hi.

  • - 'Sup, dude? (laughs)

  • - Hi, y'all!

  • - Hello. (giggles)

  • - Hi! How you feeling?

  • - Sweaty.

  • - Yeah, I feel like my stomach is...

  • - I can sense the nervousness.

  • Ever stood next to anyone without any arms?

  • - Uh...

  • - What do you do for fun?

  • - I'm a dancer.

  • So I like to stay very active.

  • I feel like in my free time I'm always moving.

  • - What kind of style of dance?

  • - So I trained in tap and ballet.

  • - You do tap dance? I need to learn how to tap dance.

  • Can you please just show me?

  • - You do like a shuffle, where you hop on one leg

  • and then you make the flap sound.

  • (shoe stomps)

  • - Yeah. (chuckles)

  • - They wanna know what your dating life is like.

  • - I've been in a relationship

  • for two and a half years.

  • It's actually quite interesting.

  • 'Cause it's, like, a able bodied person.

  • - How has your perspective about disability

  • changed with dating an able bodied partner?

  • - I had to realize that not everyone

  • is ready to learn, like, at the speed

  • that I want to teach at.

  • - I am going to guess that you

  • were born with a disability.

  • - Congratulations, you got the answer right. (laughs)

  • (group laughs) - I got the first.

  • Thank you!

  • - I think that you were born disabled

  • because able bodied is, like, a perspective

  • that you don't seem to have had.

  • Yeah.

  • - You were born with a disability.

  • - [Interviewer] If you saw each other

  • crossing from the street, would there be a nod?

  • - I think I would give a nod, actually.

  • I live in a world where most of the people

  • that I see, have arms that are longer than me.

  • And...

  • - At least you got some.

  • (group giggles)

  • - I would say "What's up?"

  • - [Interviewer] Theresa?

  • - No way.

  • - No? (laughs) (group laughs)

  • - [Interviewer] Theresa! You made him cry!

  • - Oh my God! (laughs)

  • - I'd probably just, like, smile at you.

  • - All right.

  • - What's up? - Hey.

  • - I see Godsmack, you know, I see hand tattoos.

  • - I wheelchair circuit.

  • - Oh, hell yeah.

  • This is a rock-and-roll.

  • - What do you do?

  • - Security.

  • - You're security?

  • - People don't think that I can do the job.

  • - Do you find that that is

  • to your benefit that they, you know?

  • - Yeah, I love it.

  • - Yeah. (laughs)

  • - How would you say your disability

  • has affected your life?

  • - I have wheels, it makes me faster than you. (laughs)

  • Because the only thing I can't do is walk.

  • - You seem like a big dude.

  • Have you, like, always been really into fitness?

  • - Yeah, I love sports, especially basketball.

  • Yeah. - Very nice! Basketball.

  • - I've been playing for 25 years.

  • - Oh, wow. - Or so, yeah.

  • - Hey, are you on a team?

  • - Yeah.

  • - Is it like a triple A? What are you major league?

  • - I'm on the division one team.

  • - Okay.

  • - So we're the elite of the elite in the United States.

  • - I believe you were born with the disability

  • because it makes me think of my friends

  • who have gone into play professional sports

  • or play at that level, have done it their whole life.

  • - I'm gonna guess that you were born disabled.

  • - How did you know?

  • - I was right for you? - Yeah.

  • - The sports that you're talking about doing

  • could have all been done, being disabled.

  • - Sure? - I think so.

  • Yeah. (laughs)

  • - I love your whole outfit.

  • - Thank you. (giggles)

  • - I see you plant pants, the boots.

  • - What do you do for a living?

  • - I design clothes for a skateboarding company.

  • - Oh, sick! - Yeah! (giggles)

  • - Very cool.

  • - And then my passion project

  • is I teach group fitness classes.

  • - Whoa! - Yeah. (giggles)

  • - There are a lot of disabled people

  • that come to my group fitness classes.

  • We do a lot of cardio strength training

  • and then we have some normies as well,

  • which is really fun.

  • - Normies. - [Person In Black] Yeah.

  • - How have your family, your friends,

  • their perspective changed in general.

  • Do you have those kind of conversations with them?

  • - I think with the friends,

  • it's surprisingly easier to explain things.

  • Dealing with a family has been a little bit difficult.

  • - [Man With Glasses] Okay. - For certain reasons.

  • - With family. Okay.

  • - I'm gonna say you were not born with the disability.

  • - I'll say you became disabled.

  • - From the experiences that you had with your family.

  • It seemed like maybe there was some

  • coming to terms or grappling with changes.

  • You were not born with disability.

  • - You got me wrong.

  • - I got you wrong? - Yeah. (chuckles)

  • - I was born with it, and my symptoms

  • didn't show up 'till I was six.

  • It's like very dynamic and it progresses over time.

  • Like, I identify as being disabled my whole life

  • but my family pretend it didn't existed.

  • - Yeah, yeah. - So.

  • I didn't really come to terms with it

  • until I was a lot older and then

  • getting a diagnosis officially

  • when I was, like, mid twenties.

  • - Wow, that's when it finally happened?

  • - [Person In Black] Yeah.

  • - Oh, what?

  • The gas lighting that happens, - Yes!

  • - From the medical industry it's just, like, the worst.

  • So I'm so glad that you got a diagnosis.

  • It's a big deal.

  • - Look good, dude. (laughs)

  • - Hello, Jordan.

  • - [Interviewer] Do you guys know each other?

  • - Well, we're both artists bumping into each other.

  • It's like 2006, but I'm, like,

  • thinking about it and I'm like, dang,

  • I, like, know nothing about your life.

  • Like... - Yeah, yeah.

  • - Well, so what do you like to do on a day to day basis?

  • - I like to sleep in, I'm a painter.

  • - Painter! I started to gather.

  • - Yeah, I can see you're, like, splattered with paint.

  • - Yeah, yeah.

  • - What kind of art do you do?

  • - Mostly representational.

  • Been a lot of animals in the past portraits.

  • - What made you start painting?

  • - I did graffiti when I was a kid

  • I'd skateboard during the day,

  • and then at night I'd, like, drink and do graffiti.

  • - Tell me about your dating life.

  • - Yeah, I'm relatively single.

  • (group laughs)

  • - I'm also relatively single. - Yeah. Yeah.

  • - I feel like I'm blushing right now.

  • Yeah, nice. I like it.

  • - I'm gonna say you were born with a disability.

  • 'Cause I've been seeing you around

  • for probably most of my life. (laughs)

  • And you've always been the same way.

  • - Based on graffiti and skateboarding,

  • I would say that you became disabled.

  • - You're very perceptive.

  • - I was right. - Yeah, you're right.

  • - Can I ask what happened?

  • - I fell off a bridge and it was, like, in 2005.

  • - Holy shit. - Yeah.

  • Me and some friends were riding graffiti

  • and I was drunk, and broke my back,

  • and lost my right arm.

  • - Wow.

  • - How did it change your relationship to art?

  • - I got more into art after that.

  • I was in the hospital and I started, like,

  • painting immediately, and that perspective changed,

  • my hobbies changed, that kind of

  • became focus in my life.

  • - Yeah.

  • - I still do, like, art illegally.

  • Like I'll put up art in the streets and stuff like that.

  • - Do you feel that you have

  • any more ability to get away with it

  • because.... - Oh, 100%.

  • - I think the cops are like,

  • "I just don't want to deal with it."

  • - Yeah.

  • - "How I get him to the station?"

  • - Oh.

  • Nice to meet you brother.

  • - Yeah, likewise.

  • - Hey. - Hello.

  • - Hi.

  • - What do you like to do for fun?

  • - Well, when it's nice out, like, really nice,

  • I like to go to the naked beach

  • and you know drink the lemonades and vodka

  • and do some swimming.

  • - Sounds like a good day. (chuckles)

  • - Right?

  • - Do you have a partner

  • that you get do these things with?

  • - I'm single right now. - Okay.

  • - Did the wife and kids thing

  • and now I'm, like, dating myself.

  • - Oh, that's cool, yeah.

  • - Been a lot of fun.

  • And I'm also pre-menopausal.

  • - How would you say your perspective

  • on your disability has changed over time?

  • - I'm fully capable of doing things

  • that maybe originally I had to grow

  • and learn that that's the case.

  • - When you were young,

  • what kind of hobbies did you like to do?

  • - Playing in the dirt, bows and arrows, and BB gun.

  • - I think you were born disabled.

  • You mentioned things that sounded

  • like could have been done in a wheelchair

  • when you were a kid.

  • - I'm gonna say you were not born with disability.

  • The way you talked about things

  • seemed like a lot of focus on growth

  • and coming to a fuller idea of who you are as a person.

  • - So you got it right.

  • I was at a car wreck when I was 16.

  • - 16.

  • What do you feel is like one of the things

  • that you go, like, "Oh, this is something

  • that it taught me about myself."

  • - I had goals. - Right.

  • - And those were no longer an option

  • because they really required legs to make those happen.

  • It's such a humbling experience.

  • - Hi, I'm Charles.

  • - Charles, Jared.

  • - Good to meet you.

  • - Nice to meet you.

  • - What do you do for fun?

  • - I skydive.

  • - Oh, shit!

  • - What do you do for a living?

  • - I'm a homemaker.

  • - You're a homemaker?

  • So you're just at home like, like,

  • making the home all day?

  • - Eating bon-bon's on the couch.

  • No, definitely not that. - Oh my God.

  • - I take care of my husband

  • and our homes and three dogs, a horse and a cat.

  • - A horse? - Yeah.

  • She was my Christmas present.

  • - Oh, Christmas present!

  • Did she come with a big red bow on her?

  • - She didn't, but she came with a rainbow halter.

  • - Oh. (laughs)

  • - Do you ride the horse?

  • - Not anymore.

  • - Oh.

  • Did you used to ride your horse?

  • - I used to ride her.

  • - What was life like growing up for you?

  • - I had very supportive parents

  • and I was able to live with pretty normal life.

  • - You were born with a disability.

  • Sounds like you've been comfortable

  • with yourself and your life.

  • - So, you got me wrong.

  • - I'm sorry.

  • - I'm glad, actually.

  • That means I didn't feel like a three year old amputee.

  • - With the little horse clue.

  • - Okay.

  • - Gonna guess that you became disabled.

  • Instead of being born disabled.

  • - You got me, right. - Yeah!

  • - Yeah, so the horse thing, that's how it happened.

  • - Yeah.... Oh, really? - [Charles] Yeah.

  • - Oh my gosh.

  • - She bucked me off and I ended up underneath her

  • and she crushed my leg.

  • - Wow.

  • - You guys still have a healthy relationship?

  • Actually, she's who helped me really recover.

  • I never blamed her that day, I did everything wrong.

  • She was just being a horse.

  • - Wow, okay.

  • (dramatic music)

  • - [Interviewer] How the hell was that?

  • - It was a lot being put on the spot

  • of being like, "Tell me about your disability.

  • I need to know, like, exactly like what it is

  • because of this, like, game that we're playing."

  • Was an interesting and hard thing to do.

  • - [Interviewer] What's some of your biases

  • that were checked today?

  • - Not considering like, "Oh, this was something

  • that I was born with, but didn't present itself

  • 'till later in life."

  • That was not even a part of the situation

  • that I was thinking of.

  • - I learned that if I see someone else

  • with a disability, like, they not want me

  • to give them a nod.

  • - [Interviewer] Do you think Bosso is cute?

  • (Lou laughs)

  • - I think a lot of people here were cuties today. (laughs)

- I live in a world where most of the people

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