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  • Matt: Have you ever been talking to a girl but it seems a little too nice and friendly

  • and you end up in the friend zone well my friend it's time to step up your

  • flirting game so that she sees you as a potential lover instead of just another

  • nice guy because flirting is one of the most

  • important attraction skills so watch closely and take some good notes my name

  • is matt artisan from the attractive man and this is six ways to flirt with a

  • girl to make her like you

  • we've done all the testing we know what works now most guys think that you have

  • to spend lots of money on the girl buy lots of flowers and gifts to spend weeks

  • and weeks courting her to get the girl that you really want but the reality is

  • that women only care about how you make them feel and one of the best ways to

  • make her feel romantic feelings without spending lots of time and lots and lots

  • of money on her is through flirting the dictionary defines flirting as behaving

  • as though attracted to or trying to attract someone but for amusment rather

  • than with serious intentions and this is great because flirting is basically just

  • showing your interest in her in a fun covert manner it's not telling her how

  • much you like her and how much you're in love with her and telling him how

  • beautiful she is and showering her with compliments that's too direct and that

  • will usually push her away and feel a little creepy instead do it more subtly

  • and more indirectly and playfully with some of the ways that I'm about to show

  • you now without further ado here's my countdown to my six favorite ways to

  • flirt with a girl number 6 is teasing which is poking fun of her but with

  • positive intention it's not meant to make her feel bad it's not meant to be

  • malicious a lot of guys do this wrong because they see the woman as being

  • higher status and more value than him he sees himself down here so he wants to

  • make fun of her tease her and neg her and make her feel bad and bring her down

  • basically show her I'm cooler than you you're down here but Neath me never do

  • that hey it doesn't work that well a high-value woman who is secure in

  • herself is gonna see right past that and she's just gonna dismiss you move on to

  • somebody else instead be an awesome guy be up here be a 10 see yourself as a 10

  • and bring people up to your level bring people up to your status instead of

  • trying to put them down and the key is that it's in the

  • holman it's not some pre-planned line that you intend to say it's just

  • something she does you make fun of her mannerisms or maybe she's walking and

  • she stumbles and you don't tell her she's such a dork and you can't take her

  • anywhere and you're embarrassed by her in that type of negative tonality

  • it's a playful tonality you tease her and say oh I can't take you anywhere or

  • oh you're such a klutz the point is that it's all about the vibe that you're

  • having fun and just enjoying the experience it's how you would treat your

  • friends right your close friends you tease each other about certain things

  • which creates a sense of rapport when you do it to a woman that you meet for

  • the first time because we usually only tease people that we feel very

  • comfortable with so if you tease her in the right way she will feel that rapport

  • and feel closeness to you it's like you're part of her inner circle so it's

  • more about the nonverbal than the actual specific words you say for example you

  • can tease her about almost anything just the way she says something maybe she

  • says like a lot and you accuse her of being a valley girl again it shouldn't

  • be like oh you're a valley girl I could never date you it should be like oh my

  • god you're such a valley girl do you listen to yourself oh my god this is

  • never gonna work out I'm nervous about this because I'm no I know I can't do

  • this oh okay you can and here's a few other examples see this is why we can't

  • have nice things are you just trying to get in my pants

  • you're so bad versus are you just trying to get in my pants number five is role

  • reversal which is great because it flips the script the traditional dating frame

  • is courting the man is chasing the woman so instead you just flip that around and

  • accuse her of trying to get into your pants and accuse her of trying to seduce

  • you you might say stop seducing me with your eyes young lady I see what you're

  • doing so bad or you might misinterpret something she says maybe she says she's

  • gonna go home and go to bed and you turn that into

  • invitation I think I'm gonna go to bed i can't go to bed with you that easily i

  • mean you need to buy me a drink first or something you can also accuse her for

  • you escalating so blame her for being the one that's causing you to make the

  • moves on her so you could say something like if you look at me again like that

  • i'm gonna be forced to kiss you remember it's all in the delivery in the tonality

  • saying if you look at me again like that i'm gonna be forced to kiss you stop

  • stop looking at me like that is not flirting

  • number four is role playing this one is awesome because it creates this context

  • in this frame of a fantasy world which means you can flirt with her you can

  • tell her how much you are in love with her even but it's just a joke it's not

  • real because it's a role play for example if you roleplay that you're

  • getting married or that you're role-playing that your boyfriend and

  • girlfriend or it's like one of those epic romances where you're so in love

  • then she could go to the bathroom and you could say darling don't leave me

  • you're gonna be gone for so long what am I gonna do I know that sounds a little

  • cheesy but it's fun it's playful it's so different than what other guys would do

  • in the bar whether just let her so how's your night going you come here often

  • what do you do for work and in a marriage role play which is one of my

  • favorites you can get away with talking about so much talk about your future

  • relationships where you would travel together painting these pictures in her

  • mind of you and her together you know what I like you we're so gonna get

  • married instead of having a long engagement we should just find my friend

  • actually it's right over there he's an ordained minister come on and you can

  • also talk about very risque things because you're a married couple now in

  • fact a few times I've taken my dates into adult bookstores after we've done

  • this marriage roleplay and I'm just like come on honey we need to spice up our

  • romance and I start whipping her with some of the whips and pick out some toys

  • for her and it's really fun and really ramps things up to the next level

  • another roleplay I like is the mini relationship where you just have like a

  • five minute rule a ship with a girl as boyfriend and

  • girlfriend I have a fear of commitment so we can just do this for five minutes

  • you could be my girl five minutes that's all I can commit to it creates that

  • sense of closeness that you're in a relationship right away but it takes

  • away the pressure because you're gonna break up in five minutes in fact I use

  • this as an opener going up to girls and saying hey can I be your boyfriend or

  • will you be my girlfriend and if you want to know how well it worked it

  • actually quite surprised me check out the video the links to the videos I'll

  • put them down in the description by the way remember if you haven't downloaded

  • my free conversation cheat sheet that's packed with other flirty examples make

  • sure to download that right now there's a link down in the description for that

  • as well next is touching which is a great way to

  • flirt as long as you don't overdo it if you're touching her too much too soon

  • then it's no longer covert it's very obvious what you're doing and to

  • everybody around you they can tell you really liked this girl and it can

  • definitely creep her out so you must make sure to balance your interest and

  • this actually applies to every one of these concepts that you balance the

  • showing interest by taking it away you're saying hey I like you but I'm not

  • sure about you or with touching it's oh you touch but then you take it away you

  • should never be like I like you I like you I like you I like you touch touch

  • touch you need to do a little bit and then take it away two steps forward one

  • step back and touching works so well because it releases oxytocin which is a

  • feel-good hormone that is also released during orgasm but the key is that the

  • touching is in context if you're completely touching her out of nowhere

  • and it's not relevant to the situation then it's going to seem creepy so here's

  • a few ways to touch her where it is in context

  • first there's greeting touch where you shake her hands but to make it

  • flirtatious shake her hand and hold it longer than normal while looking into

  • her eyes or give her a kiss on the then there's also games like thumb

  • wrestling or slap hands there's also observational touch where

  • you noticed something about her like she's wearing a cool necklace or she has

  • a ring on her finger or a watch also leaving her from one place to another

  • place you can go arm in arm or hand in hand

  • and there's also conversational touching to emphasize a point when you want to

  • make something you're talking about seem more dramatic you can also do correcting

  • touch which I love to do which is when you fix her outfit or you take something

  • out of her hair or you can even fix her posture and get

  • her to stand up straight bad posture is a huge pet peeve of mine number two I

  • call the look of desire which is using your eyes to flirt with her

  • which can be really covert and have a huge impact as they say the eyes are the

  • window to the soul and they can really create a lot of tension and on the flip

  • side you can actually make the interaction very platonic by breaking

  • the eye contact by looking down which is very submissive and shy and can make her

  • feel like you're a weak man if you want her to feel like you're a strong

  • powerful alpha male then hold the eye contact longer than normal but don't

  • just look at her bug-eyed like this or like this

  • that's not flirtatious you need to look at her with desire you need to

  • appreciate her beauty and allow yourself to feel that feminine energy we'll call

  • it that intoxicating feeling that a beautiful woman gives you when you're in

  • her presence and just soften your gaze just allow yourself to appreciate that

  • beauty and let that appreciation for her attraction come through your eyes not in

  • a creepy way where you're like oh my god damn look at you not like that but where

  • you're just looking at her like you know you could give her the utmost sexual

  • satisfaction you could give her the utmost pleasure in bed if she was so

  • lucky when you give her that look of desire she will melt in front of you and

  • almost every guy on her bootcamps it needs help with their eye contact

  • initially to really ramp up that sexual tension

  • practice not blinking I'm doing it right now I'm gonna seduce you with my eyes

  • but seriously I've noticed this in a lot of Hollywood movies where the

  • interaction is very intense and seductive that there's not a lot of

  • blinking because believe it or not bowling 'king releases the tension also

  • stand a little closer than normal that will increase that flirty vibe and that

  • sexual tension and also practice your smirk when you're looking at her with

  • desire and you're appreciating her attractive beauty just have a little

  • smirk on your face not an ear-to-ear grin because that releases the tension

  • and that just shows that you're nervous but instead just appreciate the beauty

  • I've seen guys on our workshops as well when they first approached a woman it's

  • so serious and they're looking at her like this and they have good eye contact

  • but there's to have a stone-cold face and they're expressionless when you do

  • that she's gonna think you're a serial killer because she can't read you she

  • needs to be able to read that read your intention and feel that you're not a

  • threat and that this is a positive flirtatious vibe so that smooth subtle

  • smile or smirk will really help with that and number one which I considered

  • the foundation of flirting is push-pull which is showing her interest either

  • direct verbally or through your eye contact or non-verbally through touching

  • and then taking it away it's maintaining that balance of I like you but I'm not

  • sure about you yet showing desire yet being the challenge because if you show

  • too much interest too soon she feels like why does this guy like me so much

  • he must be desperate he must not have other women in his life but if you're

  • too much of a challenge and you push her away too much and you're kind of it then

  • she can also lose interest because she's like why bother this guy doesn't even

  • like me the dance of dating is all about showing interest and then taking it away

  • remember two steps forward one step back for example if it's a really

  • girl you could say you know you're really cute but I think you're just too

  • short for me and you can keep this push-pull dynamic going throughout the

  • interaction even when you're physically escalating even when you're kissing her

  • you can pull away okay that's all you get no more it's like you're giving her

  • a little taste right when you show interest especially when you're kissing

  • or touching it feels good but then when you take it away she wants more if you

  • keep going further further further escalate escalate escalate interest

  • interest interest she's gonna pull back when you chase somebody they run away

  • but if you pull back she's gonna start chasing you this works really well when

  • you're escalating because every time you make a move on her

  • you're showing interest so you can balance it out by taking a step back and

  • putting a restriction on it I call it restricted requests for example when

  • you're getting her phone number do you text okay you're not crazy are you or

  • when you invite her back to your place which can seem like a big step in the

  • relationship she knows what's gonna happen to balance that out so it doesn't

  • feel like such a big deal you just put a restriction on it okay we can go back to

  • my place but we have to be good you have to keep your hands above my waist of

  • course all right good let's go and then she's actually more likely to comply and

  • say okay we can go back to your place because you put that restriction on it

  • so we got teasing role reversal role play touching the look of desire and

  • push-pull next time you go out or next time you're on a date use some of these

  • techniques but remember it's all about how you do it your delivery and how you

  • feel internally is everything and is gonna make it either a flirty romantic

  • and sensual interaction versus platonic weird or creepy and remember for more

  • flirty techniques make sure to download my free conversation cheat sheet there's

  • a link down in the description and to the right of the screen that will give

  • you word for word flirty examples to ramp things up

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  • name is matt artisan from the attractive man and i'll see you in the next video

Matt: Have you ever been talking to a girl but it seems a little too nice and friendly

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