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  • like I did nothing about it.

  • That was the time where I was just really naive and I didn't know what to do and I was just in shock and I was scared.

  • Mhm.

  • Hey guys, welcome back to my channel.

  • This is a long time coming.

  • This video.

  • I get a lot of messages about being a woman in Japan and how safe it is to walk alone, go places by yourself, get on the trains and all of that stuff.

  • I've gotten a lot of comments from people who have not lived in Japan and are saying things like isn't it like the safest country in the world.

  • I don't know how to explain it but there's not a lot of P.

  • D.

  • A.

  • There's not a lot of people who are making out or doing anything very sexual in public.

  • It's just very discreet when it comes to that.

  • But then you go to a convenience store and you'll see porn laid out everywhere or you walk down the street and there's love hotels and sex shops.

  • It's just kind of like there's two different sides to Japan in my opinion, the lack of affection between couples has given Japan this issue with groping and stalking and all that stuff and I feel like because of the work culture and there's not a lot of spending time with loved ones because of that.

  • I feel like there's a lack of a sex life with men and women in Japan.

  • There's a lot of cafes for men to go to talk to women and to flirt with women and it's just a really odd, slightly dark side of Japan that people don't really discuss or talk about.

  • I feel like sometimes even nowadays Japan is so behind on this, but women don't really have a voice as much as they do in the states for example, or in Western countries.

  • Think that's a big problem still in Japan and because of that, women tend to not go to police when they've been touched.

  • They tend to not do anything about it when it does happen.

  • I think that needs to really change because if it doesn't, it's just going to keep happening.

  • It doesn't fury.

  • It's me sometimes because a lot of people that haven't lived here or have only traveled for a short time don't realize that this does happen.

  • Maybe it doesn't happen to everybody.

  • But as a foreigner, I'm just telling you that these things do happen to foreigners.

  • It's not just Japanese people.

  • I've been approached, I've been touched.

  • I've been groped.

  • It's reality.

  • I'm going to just put it out there.

  • I'm not afraid to say it.

  • It has happened.

  • Getting on a pack train is like pTSd central for me.

  • It's scary.

  • It's given me this trigger in my head when I'm near or close to somebody that I don't know on a train.

  • I've had old men or just men in general just stare and they don't look away and it's very uncomfortable.

  • I've had men stare at me and say under their breath, oh, she's so cute.

  • She's so beautiful.

  • You would think like, oh that's so flattering, you should be happy about those compliments.

  • But it's not, it's creepy.

  • It's weird.

  • I don't know that person and the fact that that person is saying those things out loud where I can hear them is very creepy and I don't like it and I don't think that it should be a thing.

  • It's very rude and very triggering in my mind.

  • I can vouch for other girls who have had similar experiences even when they're with guys, These things happen with their boyfriends.

  • It's really insane.

  • Like it's really insane.

  • This honestly has to be addressed.

  • There's a lot of videos on Youtube about is Japan safe.

  • My experiences, blah blah, blah, blah blah.

  • I have gotten messages.

  • There was one girl who messaged me and said, I just got hired at a school.

  • I'm not sure if I'm going to go through with the job because I have to close the school at 10 PM by myself and go home alone in the dark by myself and lock up by myself.

  • And she asked is this normal and will I be okay?

  • My answer was like, I don't know, I don't, I wouldn't do it personally.

  • I would never be the last one out the door at night.

  • Japan, I'm going to say yes.

  • Japan is a very safe country compared to the states or you know, anywhere else that I've ever been, I feel very comfortable.

  • I even walk home at night in the dark by myself, but I walk, you know on well lit paths and I'm well aware of my surroundings and I walk where there's people, you're going to have situations where you do have to walk by yourself at night or going home in the dark, that's completely normal.

  • Everybody does it.

  • If you're walking around at like three a.m. In the morning by yourself, then that's a little more dangerous.

  • Just because you're in Japan, it doesn't mean that you can't be harmed.

  • You need to protect yourself.

  • You're in a foreign country, you're a woman.

  • I honestly want to give you some tips and share my experiences living here as a woman when it first happened to me, I was very naive and I was terrified and I didn't know what to do and now I do, I have been on dates with Japanese guys where it has gotten to the point where it has become obsessive and it's scary.

  • It's very scary.

  • There's a lot of men here who really genuinely look for foreign women to go on dates with or genuinely look for women who are foreign.

  • That could be their girlfriend as kind of like arm candy.

  • I guess you could say, I'm not saying that everybody is dangerous and you shouldn't go out.

  • I'm not saying all japanese men are like this.

  • My boyfriend is japanese, I'm just simply warning you about the things that do go on and just to be on your guard and be smart.

  • So where do I begin?

  • The first experience that I've had was in a district in Shinjuku when I was 21, I think I came here for an internship.

  • This actually wasn't my very, very first experience.

  • My first experience was in high school when there was a man that was following me and my host sister around universal studios and he was taking pictures of me and she was trying to hide me and I didn't understand why there's a whole culture of men here that have hidden cameras which you also have to be careful and they have them in such a way where they can look up your skirt.

  • So if you're wearing skirts, be careful going on escalators or things like that because there are men who do that and it's very sick.

  • There are men that sit on the train that I've noticed that put up their phone like this and they try to take pictures now on japanese phones, if you take a picture you can hear a click, so watch So you can hear that sound and they made it that way where you can't turn it off because it has become such a problem in Japan that they needed to do that.

  • We were in a sort of red light district when I was 21 and we stayed at a really sketchy hotel, it was kind of, it was an ensign, it was a hot spring.

  • My friend took me here with another friend, so I was just following her and I assumed she knew what she was doing, but she's like at one point this is the worst street in shinjuku and I was like why are we here?

  • It was super early in the morning, I think it was like five a.m. Or something, I think we were going to another hotel and we were going to Disney on that day, we were walking down the street, I was lagging behind, my friends were way up ahead of me and these two men were walking down the streets and they grabbed me and they said let's go, let's go and I said no and I, the adrenaline in my body just push this guy and I ran and I ran after my friends because I was terrified and then they started running and like the most scariest thing in my life when I was in Nagoya, I was living with my ex boyfriend and I wanted to get out of the house so I took the time to go out shopping by myself and I went to the mall by myself, I was going home and I got on the train, it was super empty, there's nobody, there was about six PM, I sat down on the very end of the train seats, so there was nobody sitting next to me and there was a woman that was sitting across from me and she was like the only other person on the train when the train stopped, A man got on the train and he was an older man in his forties or fifties and he sat next to me like directly next to me, like he sat, he's out there.

  • I was like okay, there's like tons of seats why, but in my head I knew what was what was going on and I was in so much shock that I didn't move and I didn't want to get up.

  • I just, I don't know what happened, my body just shut down and he put his arm, his arms like this, like he was kind of like leaning back like this, he kept looking at me out of the corner of his eye and then in a second he took his hand and he grabbed my breast and I freaked out.

  • I did nothing about it.

  • That was the time where I was just really naive and I didn't know what to do and I was just in shock and I was scared and I remember I got up and I took my backpack and I hit him in the face really hard.

  • I think that was like just a reflex of mine after that moment and after I got up, I just got off at the next stop.

  • It wasn't even my stop, I just got off that stop because I was terrified having that happen to you and then you have to carry that through the rest of your experience of living in Japan is just the worst thing ever.

  • So ever since then it kind of caused a little bit of a trigger in my head when I get on trains that this could happen again.

  • Now.

  • I just know, I just know when someone is trying to get next to me, There was a time where I got drunk after a work party and I went home by myself, It was 11 pm and it was a packed train.

  • I had a skirt on and some guy lifted up my skirt and touched me and I was drunk so I didn't have fast enough or fast enough reaction.

  • Eventually I did move, but I did, I knew it was happening, but I was just, I wasn't, I wasn't coherent enough to do anything about it.

  • There was one time I was staying with a friend until I moved into my new apartment when I first moved to Nagoya and this was terrifying because I was going to work every day on the same train, same station.

  • Some guy literally jumped out of the bushes, like he was in the bushes.

  • It was like from a movie or like an anime or something, he just jumped out of the bushes, handed me a piece of paper and he's like, you're so beautiful, I've been watching you please call me in Japanese.

  • And I was like and I understood what he said but I couldn't process it.

  • I was like what?

  • What?

  • At first I thought I dropped something and he was giving it back but it wasn't, it was a phone number and he was like please call me.

  • And he bowed his head and I was like no.

  • And I all I said was no.

  • And then I bolted to my friend's apartment and I was terrified because some guy was watching me go to work.

  • Sounds really insane this story but it happened and it's the creepiest thing ever.

  • Do not go with a stranger who offers to take you somewhere don't do it.

  • Remember everything that your mother has taught you about strangers.

  • Okay.

  • I've been approached by a man who kept saying oh I work in the modeling industry, you're very beautiful.

  • And he showed me pictures of models on his phone and I said do you have a business card?

  • Some women come here and they want to be models and they will be approached or scouted.

  • I asked him for his business card and he said nope and then he walked away, he ran away.

  • He's like, oh crap, I'm found out be smart as a woman in Japan so things that you can do to be a little more safe in Japan when I get on trains.

  • I usually try to find women that are standing in line together.

  • Mostly women because I feel more comfortable, especially on days where the train is packed, I try to stand next to women, there are women only cars, but they're very congested and very difficult to get onto.

  • There's so many women that try to get on that car, it's pretty sad actually, but I try to stand next to women if there's a rush hour as a Youtuber, I'm always filming myself so having a camera does help, it kind of keeps people away.

  • If somebody's following me and a whip out of camera then they will probably leave when you're walking by yourself even at night and you have nobody to talk to your nervous, pick up the phone, pretend like you're talking to somebody sometimes I do that when I feel like you know I don't feel safe another tip.

  • Pay attention.

  • Do not wear headphones at night and walk by yourself, have to be aware of your surroundings, you have to look around, can't just be oblivious to everything that's happening around you.

  • A lot of people do walk or bike home so there's a lot of people that are outside so it's not really too scary when you're going home from work.

  • I'm never really afraid of going home by myself at night because everybody is going home from work at this point if you do feel unsafe going to a convenience store or go into a cafe or something, do not get super wasted and go home by yourself like I did because that's like a disaster waiting to happen.

  • I mean I still go home tipsy and I do go out carrot to karaoke with my friends and go home, don't go home super super late, last train drunk.

  • It is dangerous to try to either stay out all night with your friends and go home in the morning or get a hotel nowhere.

  • The police boxes are nowhere to go if you need help and if you can take that path home at night, if you're walking by yourself, know what to do, if you feel uncomfortable, nowhere to go, that's the most important thing, it's like that anywhere in the world, so don't think Japan is any different than any other country.

  • I did buy mace when I was in Nagoya, they did sell it and I think it's illegal, it seems to be legal, it's being sold in shops.

  • So I'm assuming you can still get it, they do have these fake cameras that you can get on amazon dot com and if you do feel completely safe living by yourself or you're just nervous, you can buy these fake cameras and set them up outside your apartment to make it look like there's a security system.

  • If you're getting an apartment, try to find an apartment that has like a sort of lock, like you need to type in a code to get into the apartment, try to find places that are safe that have security systems already.

  • That's just some tips for you.

  • Women who are moving to Japan and are nervous about it.

  • Don't be afraid of Japan, These things can happen anywhere.

  • It's just, it's inevitable.

  • You just have to be aware and you have to be careful and just do your best to keep yourself safe and that's the most important thing.

  • You have any questions please comment down below.

  • I try to answer you guys in the next couple of days after I post the video so please be sure to comment as soon as possible.

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  • If you want more content like this and I will see you guys next time.

  • Bye.

  • Mm hmm.

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    林宜悉 posted on 2021/11/29
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