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Hey guys it's been a while...
So, a lot has happened in the last couple of months that I don't talk about
but I've been thinking about quitting YouTube once and for all
and just being done with it if I'm being honest.
Um... I'm sure some of you have noticed that I'm burnt out
and that I've been burnt out for some time now
Like the stress, the pressure, and the hate
Sometimes I just... I don't know if it's worth it
I feel like I'm walking on eggshells on YouTube
I have to watch every little thing I say
Like something really simple like me enjoying chocolate
or liking chocolate can turn into an eating disorder.
But I'm really proud of our community and what we have built
This channel has given me such a great sense of accomplishment
And look, everyone on social media gets hate
and it's normalized.
But it gets really challenging and hurtful
when some people try to villainize me.
Sometimes I can't block off all the hate you know
And on top of that there are brands that are trying to take advantage of me
There are people selling merch or apps
using my name that has nothing to do with me
and also people trying to hold trademarks over my name
My name
But you know, all that doesn't affect me as much
What affects me the most
is the persistently hurtful content
because it affects my mental health
and I'll get into that in a sec
And yeah, it just gets a little bit too much
and I'm just... losing passion for making content at this point
So I've been quite disconnected for the last couple of months and
some of you have noticed so it's really nice to finally share this with you guys
I can only talk about so many things in a video, so in today's video
I'm gonna talk about the legal proceedings that I filed in court
against 1) the individual from my "Time to Talk" video, and
2) a media company that has published material about me
and said very hurtful things about me
But before we get started I want to be crystal clear...
Hang on, hang on, I need to read this properly. I need to be crystal clear that
Ok, you got it?
Alright, if you have watched an older video of mine
you'll know about this guy that has posted
tons of statements about me.
Statements like I have "no fitness background"
I "know nothing about fitness"
I'm a certified personal trainer and I've put in hours of studying and training
so how can I not have any knowledge in fitness?
I "intentionally mislead people"
Claims that I "promote" eating disorders and body dysmorphia
Insults my content and community
Implying that I'm just "a pretty face in yoga pants"
and so much more...
and I stated in court papers that it was malicious and defamatory
Anyways, most of you guys know about that story
but no one actually knows what happened after
So I'm sure some people are gonna jump into conclusions and think
that Chloe's just escalating matters to court without basis...
No! ...No.
We have reached out to this person multiple times over many, many months
to try to resolve this matter
So after that video, I sent him a concerns notice
which is basically a legal notice saying
that here's a long list of things that you said that are defamatory
and here's your behavior and what are you gonna do about it?
So he responded to my lawyer seemingly apologetic and admitting that he was wrong
but a week later, he reposted everything - made things worse -
and he claimed that his girlfriend "told him to be nice" about it
but he changed his mind
so I guess his intentions were never nice.
Eventually he removed his publications again
and then in another email he seemed apologetic once again
and also weirdly pitched ideas to put me in a better light
and also suggested to come on my channel to make an apology
I don't even know what to say
First, he shits on me and then he pitches ideas?
So anyways, all good, right?
Seems sincere in an email, he then took down all the posts about me
So I thought, "Hmm, this guy deserves a second chance."
Disputes are very draining, okay?
In terms of time, energy and cost
And I don't have time for that.
I'd rather do something else that's more productive
So I offered him a Deed of Settlement
And typically, a settlement involves compensation for damages
From him to me
But I did not insist for any compensation, not a single cent.
In retrospect, I believe I was being way too generous
I didn't wanna make anyone pay for anything even though
he fucked up
I just believed that everyone gets a second chance
but I feel like he took advantage of that
All he needed to do was to give me a sincere apology
that he wanted to give me initially anyway
since he admitted that he was wrong
and to ensure those posts remained taken down
and just to stop! Stop all of this, 'cause it causes people to send me hate.
But long story short
after months of back and forth
he only put up the apology January this year
so at this point in January, it was all done
I was happy to move on even though I was the one that's out of pocket for legal bills
which, by the way, kept increasing because it took such a long time
to reach to a settlement.
He even said to my lawyer that my cost is no concern to him
and it's my choice for pursuing him
I'll be honest, I felt manipulated
and I felt that he took advantage of my kindness
Like, he made it sound like he's really apologetic
and then... he turned around...
Um... I just felt like I was too naive
It's just really confusing when he launched
a whole exposé, as he calls it
and then apologizing for it, wanting to move on but not really
like, he's still dragging on.
Anyways, it should have ended there in January
I let it go
and all he needed to do
as he said he would in the settlement deed
was to apologise and just stop... stop! Like he said he would
and to not dilute the efficacy of his apology
because what's the point of it?
But unfortunately, which is very predictable at this point,
he decided to go back on his words
and I can't go into detail for good reason
but basically, he just... kept going
with an ongoing campaign towards me.
He did this by victimizing himself
saying he was bullied to taking down posts
leaving up posts that he said he was meant to take down
making references to the original defamatory posts
jabs towards my type of content
creating a similar hashtag
claiming people have tried to sue him with no success
and I think all of this is contradictory to his apology
and dilutes the efficacy of it.
So, to me, the settlement to put this behind us was not followed through
I felt like he continues to refer to me directly or indirectly
or continued to act in a way to make me feel like I was being
undermined, bullied and targeted.
I just felt like it never ended.
And, by the way, we informed him of this
but he stopped responding and just kept going with this behavior.
I mean, he said that he even found a girlfriend out of this
and made reference to a lawsuit.
To be clear, there was no lawsuit filed before today,
only emails apologizing with promises that didn't eventuate.
And you can see how, by him saying that there was a lawsuit
it potentially changed his narrative
so some might actually assume that he had a lawsuit that he might not have
he might have won or something.
I don't know, it just seems like he's twisting things again.
So after the "Time to Talk" video, and even until today
people were sending me hate
and people were jumping on this hate bandwagon because
people believed these statements
and I just need to stand up for myself
and protect myself based on what the law allows me to
that's the reason why defamation, cyber-bullying and harassment laws exist.
I've always been the type of person that
lets things go because I don't like to dwell on things
so take this video as you may.
I don't start anything, I don't shit-talk anyone
I mean just look at my channel
like that's not what I do
but if I believe that someone crosses the line and keeps smearing me and my work
and then turns around and says
that he was bullied
when he started all of this...
Who was actually bullying who?
I'm not gonna let that happen. I'm gonna stand up for myself.
I was happy to let it go, but he just wouldn't let it go.
I'm gonna fight for myself
because no