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  • - [Narrator] Hey, Psych2Goers, welcome back

  • to our channel.

  • Have you ever thought about all the lies

  • your parents told you?

  • Some may be pretty serious.

  • Others may seem not so harmful.

  • Well, here at Psych2Go,

  • we're about to reveal the truth

  • behind these seemingly harmless lies.

  • Here are some lies your parents probably told you.

  • Number one, I don't have a favorite child.

  • You may have heard your parents say

  • they don't have a favorite child

  • but according to sociologist Katherine Conger,

  • it's likely they may have lied to you.

  • Ouch.

  • 384 families participated in Conger's research study.

  • 74% of mothers and 70% of fathers admitted

  • to giving preferential treatment

  • to one child over another.

  • And it wasn't always the oldest child

  • that was the favorite as many suspect.

  • Number two, lying about serious situations.

  • Have you ever found out your parents held the truth

  • from you about something very serious?

  • Maybe your parents told you they were fine

  • when they clearly were not.

  • Some parents prefer to shield their kids

  • from the harsh truth of reality

  • but instead of explaining the truth in an easy way

  • for a child to understand,

  • they avoid the truth

  • or choose to lie in order to protect you.

  • Well, according to psychologist Kate Roberts,

  • that may not always be the best idea.

  • Roberts explains that it's more reassuring for parents

  • to admit the situation in terms that the child can grasp.

  • Parents can then talk the child

  • through their feelings about it,

  • while they process the hard reality, whatever it is.

  • They could have negative side effects as well,

  • according to Roberts.

  • She explains if children are repeatedly lied to

  • by their parents,

  • then they may begin to doubt and distrust

  • even the simplest realities.

  • Number three, Santa values being nice.

  • Okay, well, we all know Santa isn't real.

  • Sorry, kids.

  • As a child, we often hear phrases

  • like Santa values nice kids only.

  • Or Santa gives coal to naughty kids.

  • But did you know that according to a 2015,

  • 94% of parents in America admit

  • to bribing their children

  • in exchange for good behavior?

  • 23% admitted that they would act unethically

  • to snag the last popular holiday gift in stores.

  • And 17% of parents revealed they would indeed lie

  • to their fellow shoppers in order to get that new toy

  • for their child.

  • 8% would knock down another person's child

  • and 7% would even knock down a senior citizen

  • just so they could fulfill their child's holiday wish list.

  • What is happening to humanity?

  • It looks like Santa rewards bad behaviors

  • in adults with the best holiday gifts.

  • Number four, denying their child's feelings.

  • You may have heard your parents tell you

  • to not cry or maybe they've insisted

  • that you don't actually feel that way.

  • Denying your child's feelings isn't a great option

  • and it's also a form of gaslighting.

  • According to psychologist Kate Roberts,

  • these denials are invalidating

  • and leave the child feeling alone and misunderstood.

  • And number five, I'm only acting

  • in your best interest.

  • Did your parents often say this to you

  • when you expressed how you felt

  • about their decisions?

  • For example, let's say you just wanna get a cute puppy

  • as a pet but your parents refuse,

  • only to spend money on their own desires,

  • a brand new car.

  • Even though they already have more cars than they need.

  • You express your feelings to them

  • but instead of telling you the real reasons

  • why they lied to you

  • with excuses such as it's because of your allergies

  • or it's for your own good

  • just to avoid the discussion.

  • This may make you feel

  • like your opinions, thoughts and desires

  • don't actually matter.

  • Have your parents told you any of these lies?

  • Let us know in the comments down below.

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    Allen posted on 2021/06/23
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