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  • I like to kind of think of our inner world

  • as

  • having different components. And I think the better we get at understanding

  • what's goes on in our inner space, the better we get at understanding how to navigate through it

  • and take care of all the parts properly, and

  • align ourselves with a deeper truth, and not get caught up in kind of a

  • chatter and nonsense that kind of comes from different parts.

  • I kind of see us as having

  • these two extremes. One is fear-based and one is love-based. So, on the fear side

  • is kind of all these negative, difficult emotions, right? So we've got

  • pain, sadness, hurt, frustration, anger.

  • If you really get to the core of all those difficult emotions there's usually some

  • sort of fear,

  • fear that you're not gonna be liked, fear that you're not good enough, fear that you're gonna mess up.

  • There's usually a fear that

  • elicits these uncomfortable, negative emotions. "Negative."

  • And, on this other side

  • are love-based experiences, right? Joy, happiness, playful, you know

  • all the yummy, delicious stuff.

  • And, so, oftentimes

  • when we can understand our inner space,

  • we get a sense of where different parts of us are coming from

  • in a particular moment.

  • And, I think that ultimately, when we talk about mindfulness, or consciousness,

  • we're not trying to hang out in "A"

  • right? If this is "A" and this is "B," we're not trying to hang out here, we're trying to hang out

  • and see. Which is kind of like the mama bear that hugs and takes care of all of it,

  • that's not attached to making it always have to be happy and wonderful,

  • but isn't avoidant, and getting rid of,

  • and hating on all that difficult stuff.

  • It's hanging out in a space that really encompasses and allows

  • all of these to be part of us,

  • and takes care of them properly. All of these difficult things are where we

  • learn, are where we grow.

  • If we didn't have these parts of us,

  • life would always be great, and happy, and everything's wonderful.

  • But there would be no

  • challenge, there would be no opportunity for growth, we wouldn't get better. Whenever you hear an

  • inspirational story, it always comes from the fact that there is this really dark,

  • difficult, horrible situation

  • that you learned from, and overcame. That's where the learning comes from,

  • and oftentimes we don't see these difficult parts of us

  • as this beautiful opportunity for growth. We're often frustrated and hate on all these parts

  • of ourselves.

  • So, ultimately

  • it's a matter of learning how to take care of these parts

  • and embrace

  • all of it. And the more that we kind of enter into this "see" part, this "mama bear,"

  • this loving acceptance of everything, the more we actually end up experiencing

  • all this joy, and this beauty and these experiences. Because we've taken care of these

  • parts of us, our "see" parts enough to let them pass through, and this kind of

  • starts to fill up even more. But, it's not a matter of trying to be there. It's

  • actually lovingly embracing all of it

  • which ultimately allows us to spend more time here than we expect.

I like to kind of think of our inner world

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