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  • (both laughing)

  • - I really like you.

  • - Wait, you do? - Yeah.

  • - Ooh, I'm gonna have to pull back a bit.

  • - Wait, what?

  • - You reciprocating my feelings just freaks me out a little,

  • so I'm just gonna pull back a little bit

  • just to get a breather.

  • - Well, I mean, if you step back

  • then I'm gonna have to take a step back,

  • 'cause I don't wanna get hurt here.

  • - Wait, now you're pulling back?

  • - Yeah. - Ooh, well you pulling back

  • because I'm pulling back, it's definitely

  • going to ignite abandonment and self-worth issues

  • and I have to chase you to prove that I'm worthy of love.

  • - Okay, you're chasing me now? - Yeah.

  • - Well that kind of activates my fear

  • of engulfment and my commitment issues

  • so actually I'm gonna need to pull back

  • even more. - Even more?

  • - Even more. - Ooh, okay.

  • Well now you seem emotionally unavailable

  • and that means I just have to like chase, chase

  • chase until I can't chase anymore

  • because I'm gonna feel like a worthless piece of shit.

  • So I think I'm just gonna back off for good now.

  • - Well now that you're backing off

  • my fear has kind of subsided, so, I'm back in.

  • - Okay. - Okay.

  • - So do you want a committed relationship?

  • Hello? Michelle?

  • Michelle,

  • why are you just moving your eyes around?

  • Michelle...

  • Okay.

  • I'm gonna take that as a no,

  • and I guess we'll just give up and go away.

  • - Well. - Yeah?

  • What where you gonna say?

  • Michelle? - Look, I really like you.

  • - I really like you.

  • - I just don't know if I'm ready for something serious.

  • You know? - No I don't know.

  • - Like, I don't know if I should be in a relationship,

  • it might distract me from my career.

  • - No, it doesn't have to, it shouldn't have to.

  • It should be great for your career.

  • - Well, now I feel like you're asking too much of me

  • so I think I gotta go. - Okay.

  • - You're not gonna chase me? - What?

  • - You're not chasing me.

  • - Yeah, I wanna chase you.

  • Like, obviously I wanna chase you.

  • That's all I know how to do.

  • But, I've been on this merry-go-round

  • like all my teens and my 20s, I'm 30 now.

  • I'm tired of this kitty ride.

  • I wanna go into like a different, more adult ride,

  • like a drive, like a road trip.

  • - A road trip? - Yeah.

  • Aren't you tired of going around and around and around

  • and just wasting time for years on end with partners

  • who give you just enough to hang on to

  • but have no intention of showing

  • up as a serious life partner?

  • Don't you wanna know what it's like to thrive

  • in a healthy relationship?

  • - I don't know.

  • I've only ever known this circle, this dance

  • the eternal push and pull ingrained

  • into my subconscious from years of my own unique traumas.

  • - Well, why don't we break that cycle

  • and give this a real shot?

  • - Oh, shit.

  • Oh my God, I totally forgot,

  • actually, I have another date.

  • - Wait, what?

  • - Anyway, you're really cool,

  • I'm rooting for you and I hope we can be friends.

  • - Huh? - Bye.

  • - There you have it.

  • Every dating experience I've had in the last three years

  • whittled down to one sketch.

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(both laughing)

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