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  • so families come in all shapes and sizes.

  • But let's be honest, none of them are perfect.

  • And yet they seem tohave this invisible structure that keeps our society together and actually makes us all kind of step up and doom or of the right thing.

  • And the reason I know this is because my family is not perfect, you know?

  • And actually, I was never gonna be a family man.

  • Uh, up until about eight years ago when I met my wife, Marianna, and she happened to have a daughter, she was a single mother at the time.

  • I'd never dated a single mother before, and at first my reaction was like, uh, I don't know.

  • I don't know if I want to get into this, but I just went with the flow, and it turned out to be one of the greatest things that ever happened to me because a few years later I would adopt her daughter.

  • We would all moved in together as a family.

  • And a few years after that, um, we ended up having these two beautiful boys of our own, and now we're one big in perfect family together, and this comes from a guy who was gonna be a lifelong bachelor.

  • I was gonna be the guy with the massive apartment and the fancy cars all alone that I was gonna be me and I was gonna be miserable and depressed and disconnected if I had done that.

  • And, sure, there's nothing easy about family life.

  • It means that you have to sacrifice.

  • You have to think of others first, Um, you have tow deal with stressful and, you know, emotional situations.

  • But the pay office so massive and the payoff is even good because I'm proud of the person I have become.

  • You know, when when you're a father, you're always being watched and you've got to step up and make sure you do the right thing every single day.

  • And I'm so glad I had that accountability in the form of a seven year old girl to watch me and make sure I wasn't doing anything stupid.

  • And so that's why I spoke about family in my real deal episode yesterday, and it's live and it's on our website.

  • I think it's London real dot TV forward slash real deal where you can watch all those, and it's an hour I do every week.

  • It's live.

  • And lately I've been talking about many of my policies as your next mayor of London, and I have 12 detailed policies about how I'm going to take the city in a new direction when I am elected on May 6th and when I move into City Hall on May 7th.

  • And if you wanna watch the videos or look at any of those 12 detailed policies, you could go to Brian for mayor dot London and learn about him.

  • But Friday I spoke about family, and I talked about looking at the lens of many of London's problems, uh, through through that a family.

  • And, you know, I've been talking recently about the horrific levels of knife crime that our current mayor has put us in because of promises he didn't deliver.

  • I've talked about the complete lack of affordable housing again because of our current mayor and his broken promises and lies to us, and I've also spoken about the poor state of the education system and the fact that our younger generation have never been so down and depressed about their futures.

  • But I've never looked at all of those problems through the lens of family.

  • And I did that on Friday, and the reason I did that is because two months ago on London real, I had an incredible man on my show.

  • And his name is Lord Michael Farmer.

  • And I know when people hear Lord, sometimes they're like, What is that?

  • And I don't know who he is.

  • And does he own a piece of land or is he in the government?

  • And, you know, he actually explained on the episode what it means to be a Lord and what the House of Lords do, and I actually learned a lot about it, and they're actually ah, parliamentary body that works kind of next to the House of Commons.

  • But when you're in the House of Lords, you're in there for life.

  • They call it a peerage, which means you can focus on long term things.

  • Now.

  • Not all the Lords are active in the House of Lords, but Michael Farmer's very, very active, and he's very serious about trying to help Britain and help London.

  • And he believes that the family structure is something that's right in front of our faces, that if we just invest in it now, uh, it will just pay.

  • So Maney benefits And his mantra is all prevention is better than cure, which is actually very similar.

  • Tow our mantra here at London Real and that of of the Brian for Mayor campaign.

  • We believe that, you know an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.

  • And Lord Farmer believes that if you invest in the family structure again, any type of family structure, it could be two parents, single parents, extended family structure.

  • If you invest in it early, it'll pay dividends later in the fact that the family will stay together, it won't break up, which almost doubles the housing needs.

  • It won't lead to single parent homes, lack of mentorship for young men and women, which can sometimes lead to increases in crime.

  • It doesn't tax the education system like so many times.

  • We see when we look at our schools to almost be our, um, our baby sitters, our parents for our kids.

  • And so Lord Farmer talked about this ideas of the family, and it really got me inspired.

  • And it was really the basis of my family first policy.

  • And so Friday I spoke about some of the things that we could do to strengthen the family.

  • And, um, he actually supports something called Family Hubs, which has been around since 2009.

  • And it's a really innovative group of people that's try to strengthen families through virtual and sometimes physical locations, working with different cities and boroughs.

  • And in London, about five boroughs have actually adopted this and have family hubs, places like Westminster, uh, Kensington and Chelsea Dagon him, um, to some really great success and another six or seven boroughs air in the process and again, what they are is there their hubs, not just for kids, because a lot of times the parents get for gotten about.

  • And it's the dads that needs sometimes emotional support and the moms that need emotional support and the Children.

  • And sometimes they have questions about health and education and further employment.

  • The family hubs do all of that, and I spoke ah lot about these organizations, and how is as your next mayor of London I wanna see if we can get these hubs incorporated into various boroughs in a way that's bespoke to the borough in a way that the local councils think might be the best for them working with local community centers or local athletic groups or local churches or whatever it takes to do the best thing we can to give those families early help before the unit gets destroyed.

  • And, uh, you know, my mom was a single mother.

  • She raised 33 kids herself.

  • She took us all over the world.

  • She she God is great education.

  • But the truth is, she could have used more help.

  • She really could use more help.

  • And I was one of these last two kids.

  • I got home at three o'clock and I had five hours alone with myself to My mom got home because she was working.

  • Ah, job to pay for all of us and so on.

  • My wife was doing the same thing.

  • She usedto, you know, work really long hours in retail.

  • Why, while her daughter would have to have someone else care for her, And so it's all about giving single mothers and single fathers and other family structures just more help.

  • And I think thes family hubs are an incredible way to do it.

  • So again, if you want to know about more about this.

  • Watch my real deal Episode.

  • I'm curious for your thoughts below.

  • Do you think that strengthening the family and using prevention early on might help us down the line?

  • Because the problem is when these structures break down, kids go into foster care.

  • Single parent homes, Kids aren't looked after.

  • And I spoke Thio Ah, woman named Alina in Tower Hamlets two weeks ago when I was out there speaking.

  • And by the way, I'm coming to every single borough in London, the Brian Battle Busses being built as we speak.

  • And I'm literally gonna drive this bus to every single borough so I could talk to every single one of you.

  • I'm gonna talk to try to talk to every Londoner.

  • That's nine million conversations.

  • I'm ready.

  • Eso all you gotta do is come meet me.

  • And, uh, I spoke Thio Alicia and she works with young girls in Tower Hamlets and she said, Brian from 3.

  • 30 to 8.

  • 30 there's nothing for them to do.

  • The parents, not their school, is over, she said.

  • That's where kids get into trouble, she said.

  • That's what we need to help these parents.

  • And so I couldn't agree with him or and I want to offer more solutions and put these ideas out there.

  • So please leave your comments below.

  • Tell me, do you think that by investing early in the family structure, we could save, you know, tons of money that might come out later in the in the form of crime and housing and education and just, you know, breakdowns in the community?

  • I'm curious for your thoughts, and I just want to say thank you, the Lord Farmer.

  • He's a really incredible guy who's literally giving the rest of his life to try to help people in Britain and Londoners and families.

  • And he's doing some incredible work.

  • So thank you so much.

  • I appreciate you hope to see you out the battle Busses running in January again.

  • I wanna meet every single Londoner.

  • So come out and see me shake my hand.

  • I'll give you a hug, you take a picture and I wanna listen toe what your challenges are so we can fix them together.

  • We're gonna take London in a new direction.

  • We're gonna fix all this nonsense you see around us with simple science based decisions.

  • Ah, proportional response to the virus and really leadership for a change.

  • Let's make London a world class city again, huh?

  • Shall we?

  • Let's do this.

so families come in all shapes and sizes.

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