Are you crazy?

How can I be afraid of intimacy when the Internet calls me the Taylor Swift of YouTube?

I'd like to be excluded from this thread Shut up.

But in working with the dating coach, I know, I know it sounds extra spots, but has been really helpful.

So just to spend your judgment, I've found that most of her principles actually deal with the self.

So you'd think a dating coach is someone who would help you answer texts or work on your online dating profile?

She mostly focuses on all of your bullshit and emphasizes working on yourself to accept love from someone else.

Hey, you.

You're great, right?

Like you.

I love Yeah.

Uh huh.

I love you.

Okay.

Bye.

When the issue of intimacy initially came up, I almost left.

It was like, Oh, no, intimacy is something I deeply grave trust.

May I have no commitment issues.

And then she was like, Oh, really?

Well, do any of these sound like you dismissing someone on the first date?

Because of no chemistry, sleeping with someone too soon, feeling bored when the other person does everything right being nitpicky about small things, feeling intensely about the other person right away and therefore projecting onto them and choosing unavailable men.

You know, maybe, maybe like one of those mhm and these specific symptoms of being afraid of intimacy usually stems from you guessed it.

Children.

A lack of self worth.

When someone is treating us nicely and things are going well to the person with no self worth, it feels unfamiliar and strange.

Pain is what we know.

Abandonment is what we know long and tension, anxiety.

Those are all of our feelings associated with love, not things being easy flowing and joyful.

No, I'm not suffering.

I'm clearly not in love.

Then, if you like me felt personally attacked by these six signs, know that love does not feel like we think it should, because our associations are wrong.

The beginning shouldn't be intense.

That is a red flag that we're buying into our idea of a person and not who they actually are.

Chemistry can develop as you get to know them and dismissing them off the bat, disallows that it takes a while to get to know a person and those nitpicky things that annoy you now may be overshadowed by the amazing qualities the person has to offer and sleeping with.

Someone releases a chemical in women too emotionally, bond.

So if you do that before you really know a person, you shouldn't be surprised when you wake up and discover you're in love with a narcissist.

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Honestly, I was really surprised that I have fearsome intimacy.

I mean, given my history of being like a serial monogamous, I would have guessed that my problems were probably from a lack of self worth, but surprised.

I am afraid of intimacy.

And I have problems with self world, yes, Children.

Yes, I have the best of both worlds, baby.

But the good news is that once you're self aware, like most things, you can actively begin combating these fears.

If intimacy in a real relationship or what you really want, then you can start taking note of all of your actions and your patterns and ask yourself, Am I making these decisions because the other person genuinely isn't right for me?

Or am I afraid of developing an authentic connection with this human being?

So stop sabotaging your love life because as much as we think we don't deserve love way.

Dio keep working on it.

I'm in a Kana and I, uh I'm Anna Kana and Iowa.

I will.

I love myself.

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