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  • but the minute you think you know everything at that moment you know

  • nothing and so I was in India and I was teaching a course on leadership in India

  • and I had gone into this university and I spoke there and after I left I got

  • back to the hotel I realized I didn't have my wallet and so

  • I called the hotel and I said can you please bring the car back they have my

  • wallet and they said I'm sorry sir we don't have a car that was a taxi we used and

  • so they tried calling the taxi company nobody answered the phone they tried

  • again and nobody answered the phone and I became a little cynical

  • I went from hopeful to skeptical to cynical I started thinking the worst of

  • people and of course I said with my my wallet is gone by midnight they called

  • and said we're still trying he's not answering the phone the taxi cab driver

  • but at 2:00 in the morning he called and said he answered his phone his phone was

  • off he's coming back to your hotel with your wallet so I get dressed and I run

  • downstairs and a man meets me and the bellman translates for me in Indian in

  • the dialect and I answer and I get my wallet and everything is in my

  • wallet everything my passport my money my credit cards is all there and I reach

  • into my wallet and there's $70 U.S. I asked the man through a translator what do you

  • make a month he says about 2500 rupees which about what that time which is

  • about $70 U.S. so I reach out and I say let me give this $70 to you this is my

  • way of saying thank you and the man says no I said no I don't think you

  • understand I have one month's salary for you I want to say thank you here 70

  • dollars and the man says to the translator no and I said there must be a

  • translation problem here I'm talking about paying you I'm talking about

  • giving you a month's worth of your salary one more time he said and this

  • time he became a little visibly angry he said I told you no

  • I didn't bring you your wallet because I wanted a reward

  • I brought you your wallet because it's your wallet now this may not sound like

  • an incredible story but think what would have happened if I had lost my wallet in a

  • taxi in New York City or a big city anywhere in the world think about what

  • the chances of me getting my wallet back think about it and be honest with

  • yourself now this is a slum so they call it in India so I said in the man what

  • can I do to be thankful to you what can I do to say thank you he said well the

  • next time you're in India come to my house and have tea be my friend

  • sometimes when you give you get sometimes whatever goes around comes

  • around and so you gain more by giving you get more by building you learn more

  • by listening we have a chance and an opportunity to change the world because

  • nobody changes in good times people only change in bad times no one changes when

  • they're comfortable they change when they're uncomfortable we have a chance

  • now to change the world like yesterday I ran I did an hour and it was you know 92

  • or 93 degrees outside it was hot right like and but I

  • didn't say like hey do I is this gonna be enjoyable or not I said look this is

  • what I do and come hell or high water I'm gonna do it you know and

  • it was enjoyable I got it wasn't enjoyable at first but I

  • but I pushed through that it's like on the other side of that resistance is

  • often that thing and so I think that's the problem with people who are like you

  • know I'll just sort of go with the flow I'll take it as it happens that can work

  • but you know it's often on the other side of what you're afraid of that you

  • experience really great things and you have to have the power to push through

  • that your life would feel better and richer if you

  • had a goal you chased that goal you accomplished some things and you would

  • get this boost of confidence you'd get this boost of self-esteem like whatever

  • it is that you're going to do and maybe you're in a drawing comic books maybe

  • you're into nah but making pottery or sculptures or but find whatever that is

  • and pursue that instead of doing nothing like the people that are doing nothing

  • those are the real people look doing something might be as simple as like

  • that Alex Honnold guy he just climbs rocks but he's world-class rock climber

  • it's something turn your wounds into wisdom you will be wounded many times in

  • your life you'll make mistakes some people will call them failures but I

  • have learned that failure is really God's way of saying excuse me you're

  • moving in the wrong direction it's just an experience

  • just an experience just an experience I remember being taken off the air in

  • Baltimore being told that I was no longer being fit for television and

  • that I could not anchor the news because I used to go out on the stories and my

  • own truth was even though I'm not a weeper I would cry for the people in the

  • stories and which really wasn't very effective as a news reporter to be

  • covering a fire and crying because the people lost their house and it wasn't

  • until they I was demoted as a on-air anchorwoman and thrown into the

  • talk-show arena to get rid of me that I allowed my own truth to come through and

  • the first day I was on the air doing my first talk show back in 1978 it felt

  • like breathing which is what your true passion should feel like it should be so

  • natural to you and so I took what had been a mistake

  • what had been perceived as a failure with my career as an anchorwoman in the

  • news business and turned it into a talk-show career that's done okay for me

  • don't let your mind become conditioned for mediocrity don't let that change who

  • you really are sometimes people will try to put us in a box tell us things like

  • you can't start that business you don't have the resources you'll never afford a

  • nice place to live never get well never meet the right person because their

  • thinking is limited they'll try to put their limitations on you you have to put

  • your foot down and say I refuse to be mediocre because people around me are

  • mediocre I refuse to be addicted depressed have

  • low expectations I know I'm a barrier breaker I'm gonna set a new standard it

  • starts in our thinking nothing will change until you make up your mind you

  • are not going to accept mediocrity first bit of advice came from Tyler Perry the

  • famous director kind of movie producer that sort of thing you know about two

  • years ago I had the good fortune to interview him one on one in three

  • different cities around the country where he got to speak about his

  • entrepreneurial story to a bunch of small business owners around the country

  • you know Tyler Perry is key you know did his thing he was homeless for a while

  • right now he's like the highest-paid dude in Hollywood right really

  • fascinating story so I'm interviewing them one on one

  • start the Q&A one woman raises her hand stands up she says Mr Perry you know we

  • have to always go through these different trials and tribulations as entrepreneurs

  • like what keeps you going right how do you get back up but just to

  • go right he said the most profound thing that I had ever heard he said the minute

  • he realized that the trials that you go through right and the blessings you

  • receive are the exact same thing like that freed him as an entrepreneur right

  • like just think about that for a second like it I kind of stopped the interview

  • because I had to soak that up for a little bit right like every single kind

  • of trial tribulation all that stuff that you go through it's just a lesson right

  • and that lesson is just an inherent blessing right so as entrepreneurs like

  • this entrepreneur thing is hard right like at times it's amazing at times it's

  • sucks right and I've been very blessed and fortunate to have really good

  • opportunities but it's very very hard right and you don't want to stress

  • yourself out unnecessarily and what that lesson taught me was that I didn't

  • have to be as stressed out right like I'm gonna go through these issues

  • they're just lessons let me treat that as a blessing we're gonna move right and

  • a lot of folks look at me when I start this company like Tristan you're way

  • more calm than you should be and it's like yeah because I fundamentally

  • understand this lesson that I learned and I think that the success is

  • something that is earned and re-earned I think that in life you're climbing up

  • that mountain and you want to take breaks strategically but people think

  • that you can climb up a mountain and just kind of stay there not really I

  • view it like it's like a muddy mountain you climb up and you stay there you

  • start to slide down and there's a number of reasons why that happens I'll talk

  • about them today does that mean you should never take a break

  • no I'm gonna take a little time off when I do my Miami events this year cool you

  • know of course I believe in taking a break I think you should spend time with

  • friends and take breaks but I also believe that success is something that

  • has to be earned and re-earned the world is a dynamic place the world is changing

  • if you're not changing along with it you're probably being left behind think

  • about what's the Holy Grail between somebody taking action or not it's one

  • word certainty when somebody has absolutely certain they you know the

  • common word it believes right but you know you can believe at a general level

  • or you can believe what's certain when you're absolutely certain that if I do

  • this it's gonna get that result and that results gonna change my life you'll do

  • it when you think it absolutely is not gonna work you're never gonna do it the

  • middle no-man's land of maybe it'll work maybe it won't that's the piece that

  • kills people right so if it's a must for you you got to make it work

but the minute you think you know everything at that moment you know

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