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  • the one thing that really changed my way of thinking when I moved abroad is the fact that I knew Hey, guys, welcome back to my channel.

  • So today I'm going to be discussing something that, um, a lot of people have been wondering about anxiety and change and how that's going to affect your life.

  • And I wrote a block post about this not too long ago.

  • So if you guys want to check it out, it's on my website kelly moody dot com.

  • So if you're interested in reading about it, I'm just gonna give you a brief on what it's about and how moving abroad has helped.

  • My anxiety verse made it worse.

  • So I am going to tell you that, of course, when you moved to another country, there are some concerns and your stresses and things like that.

  • But But the thing is, when you do something out of your comfort zone and when you do something more often and you practice something, for example, if you I want to be a public speaker, but you are nervous to do it or you have anxiety over it, the more you practice it, and the more you push yourself to do something, the easier it is to do and the less anxiety you have.

  • So, of course, in the beginning, when you move to another country, you are gonna have some form of anxiety or some level of anxiety.

  • So I just want to start out by saying that, um, I was diagnosed with G A.

  • D, which is generalized anxiety disorder, and I've had it pretty much all of my life, and it's just something but I've had to work through.

  • The cure for that is non existent.

  • You could take some medication to help your anxiety, but I prefer not to a preferred Teoh less anxiety by working out or eating healthy or just meditating.

  • Now I've been practicing Zen meditation, which is helping a lot.

  • It's a Japanese form of meditation.

  • I'm not perfect at it yet, but it's something that I've been so interested in, and it's starting.

  • Teoh give some sort of awareness to my thoughts in my mind.

  • Anxiety is it.

  • It's Ah, it's a liar.

  • So basically in your head you're thinking you're over thinking you're worried about everything.

  • You're stressed about everything.

  • Anxiety just continues to just whisper in your ear and lie to you.

  • I feed you things that are just not true.

  • And you just constantly have to remind yourself that's that Your thoughts, your negative thoughts and your feelings are not true.

  • And that's why I love.

  • Living in this country is because Japanese lifestyle and the Japanese thought process and, um, mindset methods here really help me to become more aware.

  • They're all about awareness here, and I think that has changed me and helps me out a lot.

  • The one thing that really changed my way of thinking when I moved abroad is the fact that I knew I was starting over.

  • So when you mover when you moved to another country or even another city or another place in your life, you're starting over.

  • You're starting over in a place where people don't know you.

  • They don't know who you are.

  • You have that chance to change your identity and to change who you are for the better and to bring out the best version of yourself.

  • So what?

  • I moved to Japan.

  • I knew that was happening.

  • I knew that I was starting over as making new relationships.

  • I was a new me.

  • I have a clean slate and I had a lot of, you know, problems that I left behind in the States.

  • They were big problems, but like small problems, little problems that just kind of were left behind.

  • And I was able to start a new, and I think that when you do move somewhere else and maybe you may be nervous in the beginning, but constantly reminding yourself that you're going to start over and you're gonna, you know, become the best version of yourself.

  • I think if you remind yourself of that, then it helps a lot.

  • So the second thing that helped a lot Waas pushing myself out of my comfort zone like I said before.

  • So it got worse before it got better.

  • Like I talked about before on my instagram or my social media as I talked about the U curve, which is basically the faces that you go through when you move abroad.

  • So there's the honeymoon phase, and then there's the crisis phase.

  • There's a transformation phase, and then there's adjustment phase.

  • So once you got to the crisis phase that things start to get a little panicky and you start to freak out like Oh my God, I can't do this.

  • There's so much I need to learn.

  • I don't know how to do this.

  • I don't know how to do that.

  • I went through this crisis phase, and the thing is, you have to go through that.

  • It's like that in life in general.

  • So when you go through a crisis, fage phase in a lot of things.

  • If you're trying something new, just know that that's going to happen and things they're going to get worse before they get better.

  • But when you push yourself to do those things and when you break yourself out of that bubble, then your anxiety starts to get better and better.

  • Every single day you just learn and you you grow and you're never gonna get better at something if you don't practice it or if you don't keep going with it.

  • So it's good to remind yourself again is old.

  • It's always about awareness and reminding yourself that things are going to get better.

  • So the thing that helped me through that crisis phase I know a lot of people asked about this and I will make another video about the u curve of trance transformation and transitioning abroad.

  • But that crisis phase I found a community.

  • I found people that were going through similar things or people that were more knowledgeable than me.

  • Nowadays we have so much technology, we have Facebook, we have instagram, we have communities and meet up APS and things like that.

  • So I started searching for community and people that I could resonate with, and that helped a lot.

  • But reminding yourself that it's gonna get better and going back to your why you moved to this particular country in the first place is a good thing to get you through that, and that helps my anxiety and ease my anxiety.

  • So the next thing kind of goes hand in hand with the last thing, and that's getting in touch with your surroundings.

  • So when you move to another country, yes, you have a clean slate, but you wanna build yourself up in a more positive way and become the person that you always wanted to be.

  • So I started studying things like, you know, mindset techniques, and right now, like I said I was studying, I'm studying like dozen meditation, so try to teach yourself skills that you don't have that you wish that you had.

  • It doesn't have to be, you know, self development skills.

  • But it can be something that you've always wanted toe learn and never had the time to dio.

  • And I think it's important to find a hobby or, you know, connect with nature.

  • Take more walks, move your body more, do things that are going to benefit you as a person.

  • When I moved to Japan, I tried to build myself up that way.

  • Of course, I still had bumps in the road and challenges and things that I had to overcome.

  • But when you overcome those things, you learn how to overcome those same types of situations in the future.

  • And it's just life is a whole learning process.

  • So when you start over, find those things that are going to help build you up to be that person that you envision yourself to be.

  • So I just wanna say another thing that helped me out a lot when it comes to living in Japan is the fact that Japan it's such an amazing place for people that have anxiety in Japan.

  • Things are much more orderly and organized and people are so kind and help you out so much in love that about this country is that they're very interested in you.

  • Also, the fact that people in Japan really value their personal space.

  • And you know, coming to Japan is an introvert and becoming more of an expert extroverts that I am now.

  • I was very shy and I kept to myself a lot, but that's how Japanese people are in general.

  • So I just felt like I fit in so well.

  • So I was just there.

  • It was very easy.

  • Get on a train and not be bothered by people or you're walking down the street.

  • Nobody really pays too much attention unless you really need help, which they do help if you need it.

  • Japan loves to show off their culture and make you a part of it.

  • And I think that made me feel so welcome and less stressed and worried.

  • And I always have some kind of guidance from my Japanese co workers or other people in Japan, and it just helped out so, so much.

  • There's something new that I learned every single day, so I'm constantly thinking I'm very busy all the time.

  • My mind is constantly busy and surprised and excited.

  • I feel very protected here and at ease and comfortable and, you know, most of the time at peace.

  • But, you know, even when you lived here for a long time, you still are learning things, and you're still going through some challenges.

  • And I feel like that's how life is in general, so it's never gonna end.

  • But I just know how to react to things, and I know how to interact with people now.

  • And I think that's the best thing that I learned while living here.

  • I've rewired my brain toe, live here, so that's what happens when I visit.

  • America, in my mind, is so much more anxious than it was than it is living here.

  • Because I'm so used to living here that my brain isn't rewired toe live in the States anymore.

  • So that's basically all I really wanted to talk about in this video.

  • I hope this helps.

  • All of you are trying to decide if you wanted to move to another country order Japan.

  • I hope this helps people in general do things that will help them overcome their anxieties.

  • Don't forget to like and subscribe to this channel and hit the bell icon for notifications.

  • Thank you guys so much.

  • And I'll see you guys next time.

  • Bye.

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    林宜悉 posted on 2020/08/28
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