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  • Welcome back to TLC Thursday.

  • My name is Christal Fuentes, the founder of the The Ladies Coach.com, and your host and coach for today.

  • Today we are going to talk about attention seekers.

  • You might have one or two attention seekers in your life, right?

  • Well, it's easier to call out others on their shit, but the truth is you might have engaged in attention seeking behavior yourself.

  • What?

  • Oh yes, it's a thing.

  • And too often it's the attention seekers I hear complaining about how annoying other attention seekers are.

  • But they don't realize that they do the same damn thing.

  • Why is this topic so important?

  • Well, what I often say is, when you do things for the sake of attention, you do a disservice to your soul.

  • Seeking attention is kind of like whoring yourself out for validation, regardless of how you do it.

  • In some way shape or form, we all have participated in attention seeking behavior.

  • But how do we know we're doing it?

  • Right now, I'm going to give you seven signs of attention seeking behavior.

  • Because doing things for the wrong reasons ain't cute anymore and worse it continues leaving us feeling like we aren't good enough.

  • [7 signs of attention seeking behavior]

  • Number One: Anxiety often creeps in, and you worry about if something you do will be received well by others.

  • Number Two: You are more susceptible to feeling lonely, so you do think to draw connection.

  • An example of this we see, is oversharing on social media.

  • Number Three: Insecurity often creeps in, causing you to compare your worth to others.

  • Number Four: You are too attached to praise.

  • Attachment to praise makes criticism crippling.

  • Number Five: You always feel the need to prove yourself.

  • Whether it's overly explaining yourself, one-upping, or using knowledge against people.

  • Number Six: You do things for the applause of it.

  • The likes, the following, and the recognition.

  • Number Seven: You try too hard to be unique.

  • You already are unique, there's no reason to go overboard trying to make others see it.

  • There you have it, seven signs you almost definitely are doing things for the applause, attention, and validation of it all.

  • In other words, "the wrong reasons".

  • You are more than enough, and there is no reason why we should be seeking validation from external sources, in ways that dishonor our soul.

  • There's no one in the world that is going to make you feel enough, other than you.

  • Does this all make sense?

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