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  • you keep beating yourself up

  • persistently perseverating on where you

  • went wrong

  • perhaps you steeped in self-loathing and

  • blame or drowning in anger that's

  • directed towards your ex maybe he was

  • too much of a flirt or maybe she was too

  • controlling maybe just maybe there was

  • nothing you could do you too just

  • naturally drifted apart over time

  • there's a ton of reasons that break

  • relationships let's illuminate eight

  • reasons that will provide insight into

  • your current or future relationship lack

  • of trust is one of the leading causes of

  • breakups and divorce trust issues often

  • manifests as jealousy possessiveness

  • emotional or sexual infidelity mind

  • games and unreasonable demands

  • oftentimes insecurity which mainly stems

  • from our internal fears and

  • preconceptions is the root of the

  • problem to prevent these issues from

  • reoccurring people post-breakup try to

  • work on themselves couples with poor

  • communication are equally doomed if you

  • and your partner judge criticize or

  • challenge each other's worth contempt

  • will grow you'll begin taking each other

  • for granted bringing each other down

  • instead of up then when the mutual

  • respect is lost you'll both be less

  • motivated to find a solution and more

  • motivated to point fingers in the end

  • poor communication leads to

  • misunderstandings that can drive

  • partners away when communication is an

  • honest and forthcoming in the beginning

  • then relationships can break due to

  • different expectations and priorities at

  • the beginning you and your partner

  • formed a spark based on common interests

  • and physical attraction that's the easy

  • part the trust test of a relationship

  • occurs when the realities and demands of

  • daily life

  • settle in when your interests don't

  • align your paths begin to diverge maybe

  • you prioritize the relationship while

  • your partner prioritizes work

  • resentfulness can grow when one partner

  • feels like they're sacrificing too many

  • of their needs different expectations

  • and priorities are often the result of

  • growing at different speeds one of you

  • might be excelling in school while the

  • other might be stagnating one might

  • already be willing to settle down

  • if you

  • can't grow together it becomes

  • increasingly difficult to coexist in

  • harmony this is why high school

  • relationships usually don't sustain

  • themselves it's an age where you're

  • still developing maturing and learning

  • about who you are

  • incompatibility is the fourth reason

  • relationships fail did your partner

  • reveal characteristics that inherently

  • clash with yours maybe you're a free

  • spirit and your partner's conservative

  • line of thinking is stifling you perhaps

  • all that's been sustaining the

  • relationship is great sex whatever the

  • case be it personality types

  • intimacy levels or attachment styles

  • couples who can't bond don't last a more

  • extreme cause of relationship failures

  • is abuse which ranges from verbal

  • emotional physical sexual and

  • psychological abuse be on the lookout

  • for manipulative passive-aggressive and

  • excessively dominant behavior unlike in

  • media portrayals abuse is often subtle

  • and insidious sometimes an abusive

  • dynamic is born out of a partner's toxic

  • lifestyle gambling drinking drugs and

  • sex can all lead to addiction which

  • places major strain on relationships

  • have you ever been in a relationship

  • with someone who struggles with some

  • form of addiction it makes it near

  • impossible for the addict to accommodate

  • anything else let alone a lover despite

  • everything the eighth reason

  • relationships break is due to it

  • reaching a dead end have you ever been

  • with your partner for a while

  • stagnation in boredom can grow until it

  • becomes increasingly hard to stay

  • together for example in long-term

  • relationships life obligations can get

  • in the way of connectedness this is why

  • parents can experience empty nest

  • syndrome

  • when their kids grow up and move out

  • they discover that aside from the

  • children there's nothing else between

  • them did we miss anything what are the

  • reasons that your past relationships

  • didn't work out we would love to hear

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8 Things That Break A Relationship

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    luna.chou posted on 2020/06/01
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