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  • - How would my exes describe our relationship?

  • [upbeat music]

  • [whooshes]

  • [whoosh] - So, we met at

  • - Korilla food truck.

  • We used to work there together.

  • - Tinder.

  • [laughs lightly]

  • - At my DJ show in Brooklyn.

  • [whoosh] - Who made the first move?

  • - She did.

  • - She messaged me first.

  • - Gina.

  • [whoosh] - What was the move?

  • - Gina asked me to go out dancing with her.

  • - Something simply like, "Hey, what's up?"

  • - Fire emojis.

  • Some flame emojis.

  • [whoosh]

  • You know, like corny.

  • - She complimented me on my DJ set.

  • - Her first impression of me?

  • - That she was outgoing and down to earth.

  • - Shy and cute.

  • - She has great moves on the dance floor.

  • She can get down.

  • - My type is?

  • - Definitely brown skin, natural hair and femme.

  • [whoosh] - Sexy, goal-oriented.

  • [whoosh] - Creatives.

  • Women who are nurturing.

  • - I like girls that can dance.

  • I like girls who are ambitious.

  • Who are fun.

  • [whoosh] - She was attracted to my?

  • - Lips.

  • - Skin.

  • - She's swaggy and can really get down on the dance floor.

  • - And I was attracted to her?

  • - Butt and my hair.

  • - My eyes.

  • - My hair [laughs lightly] and my taste in music.

  • [whoosh] - They all had nice asses.

  • Definitely like an ass, ass man.

  • - She thought my best physical feature was?

  • - Her lips.

  • [whoosh] - Her lips.

  • [whoosh] - Her stomach.

  • - And I thought her best physical feature was?

  • - My butt.

  • She loves butts.

  • - My eyes.

  • - Her lips, definitely her lips and her tattoos.

  • Her tattoos are dope.

  • - My smile.

  • - She thought I looked like?

  • - She doesn't look like anyone.

  • - No celebrity.

  • - She's one of a kind.

  • - And I thought that she looked like?

  • - She's gonna say I don't look like anyone.

  • - Gabriella kinda looked like

  • Sky from Black Ink. - Sky from Black Ink.

  • - And Edica

  • Chilli from TLC. - Chili from TLC.

  • - Our first date was?

  • - Bembe, like a New York basement party.

  • - At Pearl's in Williamsburg.

  • We flirted a lot.

  • - Interesting.

  • Basically, I was at my friend's house.

  • I was braiding my hair for five hours before the date.

  • She actually ended up knowing my friend,

  • so then she was like, "Oh, okay, you know what,

  • "then I'll just pick you up from there."

  • We went to a Japanese jazz restaurant.

  • - We definitely missed our reservation

  • but it was worth it, she looked good [laughs lightly].

  • - Our first kiss was?

  • - Behind the Korilla food truck, where we worked.

  • [laughs]

  • - Unexpected [laughs].

  • While smoking a cigarette on a doorstep.

  • I made the first move.

  • - Outside of a bar, after dancing all night.

  • It was building up for a while.

  • - She thought my best personality trait was?

  • - That she's outgoing.

  • She's super outgoing.

  • - How understanding she was.

  • - She's very giving and kind.

  • - And I thought her best personality trait was?

  • - That I'm ambitious and I always get things done.

  • - My attitude.

  • - That I'm nurturing.

  • [whoosh] - I would call her?

  • Baby girl. - Baby girl.

  • - Baby mama [laughs lightly].

  • - So annoying sometimes.

  • I'm not a baby.

  • - Babe.

  • - Eddie spaghetti. - Eddie spaghetti.

  • She would call me?

  • - G.

  • Or G-Daddy [laughs].

  • - Mostly babe or baby but sometimes Bubba.

  • - Gin. - Gin.

  • She likes to drink gin.

  • Gin and juice.

  • - She thought I was juicy [laughs].

  • - The best picture of us?

  • - This is my favorite picture of us.

  • She was saying, "I love you" in the picture.

  • It was in my house.

  • And it was my phone background for a while.

  • - We had just come back from eating food.

  • She was sober, as per usual, and I was drunk.

  • - This was the night we took some edibles.

  • - We bonded most over?

  • - Dancing.

  • Reggae, especially old reggae, that's my favorite.

  • - Afro beats.

  • - I think our past and growing up queer

  • and our family and their culture.

  • - We loved to?

  • - Dance.

  • - Go to museums.

  • - Listen to music and eat.

  • - Our go-to date restaurant was?

  • - Lucy's Kitchen.

  • - Definitely the ramen place on 125th,

  • it's called Jin Ramen.

  • - Samurai Papa.

  • - Our song was?

  • - Tory Lanez, "Say It".

  • - Oof, I'm not into that.

  • I don't do the whole like, "That's our song" thing.

  • - All Rihanna songs.

  • - We liked to dance to?

  • - Caribbean music, reggae.

  • - Well, everything.

  • She likes to dance and I like to dance,

  • so we would dance to reggae, dance hall, even Spanish music.

  • - Rihanna songs.

  • - I introduced her to?

  • - Korean food.

  • - A lot of new music mixes.

  • - Korean food and noodles.

  • - And she introduced me to?

  • - My crazy ass Dominican family.

  • - Nina, I thought she introduced me to gay life

  • but that's where my gay life started.

  • Gabriella introduced me to

  • the strip club. - The strip club.

  • [laughing]

  • - Kinese food.

  • - The world of dub, a lot of music things.

  • Our sex life was?

  • - Fire.

  • - To her future girl, you got nothing to worry about.

  • - Hot and steamy.

  • - Magical.

  • - In the morning I would always?

  • - Give morning kisses.

  • - Ask for coffee.

  • I don't drink coffee but I would always make her coffee.

  • - Have a cup of tea.

  • - I got her?

  • - A holiday Barbie collectable because I collect Barbies.

  • - Flowers.

  • - Stuffed animals.

  • - She got me?

  • - Her name chain.

  • - Vinyl records.

  • - Love and affection [giggles].

  • - The most embarrassing thing that I did was?

  • - Just like PDA.

  • It would kind of make me cringe a little bit.

  • I'll give you a little tab kiss

  • but don't be slapping my butt in front of people.

  • - Probably for her it's like pass gas or something

  • but I don't care about that stuff, so.

  • - Maybe get too high and [beep] fall asleep.

  • - She got super high and just passed out

  • at the bar [laughs lightly].

  • - Is that embarrassing?

  • Things could be worse.

  • The most embarrassing thing that she did was?

  • - Be sassy.

  • I think that used to annoy her.

  • - Not remember being drunk or something

  • and talking too much.

  • - I tripped and fell on the way home.

  • - You know, Scarlett takes a tumble, like with the heels.

  • Like eat [beep], like I gotta catch you,

  • like I don't know you, I don't know.

  • [whoosh] The best thing

  • she did for me was?

  • - Come into her life and love her [laughs lightly].

  • - Set up a dinner at home, cook for her.

  • - Take care of her when she was really sick.

  • - The best thing I did for her was?

  • - Come into my life and love me.

  • She always knew when I needed her the most,

  • without me having to say anything.

  • - She would always plan out a date for us.

  • That is something that I hadn't done before.

  • - Cuddles and massages.

  • - Who takes longer to get ready?

  • - Definitely me.

  • - I do.

  • - Me.

  • - Definitely she does, 100%.

  • - But it's only because I walk around the house and BS,

  • like dancing for 10 minutes straight,

  • even though I have to be there in 20 minutes.

  • - Two hours sometimes.

  • But they looked good.

  • In a relationship, I'm really good at?

  • - Communication.

  • - Listening.

  • - Being affectionate.

  • - I could be better at?

  • - Being mean and putting her foot down.

  • - Communicating her real feelings.

  • - Her patience.

  • - Did we say, "I love you."

  • - I can't say I remember the first time we said it.

  • - I think she said it first.

  • - But I know it was definitely early in our relationship,

  • maybe like two months in or something.

  • - We did but only after we broke up.

  • - No, not in that way.

  • - My birthday is?

  • - July...

  • Twenty?

  • - I honestly don't know [laughs].

  • I can't remember.

  • - July 19th.

  • - July 19th.

  • - July 19th, I'm a Cancer.

  • Gang-gang-gang-gang.

  • [fingers snapping]

  • - I know my friend [laughs lightly].

  • - My celebrity crush is?

  • - Rihanna?

  • - Rihanna, I think.

  • - Rihanna.

  • - I mean, she's a queen [laughs].

  • My favorite move is?

  • - I don't know that one.

  • - I don't know.

  • - I don't know.

  • - I'm gonna say "Harry Potter".

  • I love "Harry Potter".

  • You love "Harry Potter".

  • I'm a Hufflepuff.

  • [whoosh] My favorite musician is?

  • - I don't know that one [laughs lightly].

  • - I'm just gonna go back to Rihanna.

  • - Rihanna.

  • - Rihanna.

  • [whoosh] My favorite sports team is?

  • - She does not rock with sports at all.

  • - Oh, she doesn't like sports.

  • - She doesn't watch sports.

  • - I don't follow sports.

  • [whoosh] My favorite flower is?

  • - Probably weed [laughs].

  • - I don't know, a rose?

  • - She likes plants.

  • - I like funky looking flowers but I appreciate all flowers.

  • Hydrangeas, lilies, birds of paradise, I like them all.

  • [whoosh] She knows I love

  • to travel to?

  • - Anywhere that has a beach and is tropical,

  • that's her thing.

  • - She likes warm places.

  • - Mexico.

  • - Anywhere warm with a beach.

  • [whoosh]

  • Mexico.

  • [whoosh] Brazil.

  • She knows I always wanted to visit?

  • - She wants to go everywhere.

  • - Somewhere warm, where she hasn't been yet.

  • - Barbados.

  • - Everywhere really.

  • [whoosh] She knows I'm

  • really proud of my?

  • - Body.

  • - Confidence.

  • - Work out sessions.

  • - I'm really proud of my sense of style,

  • my music interests and my hair.

  • [whoosh] She knows I hate?

  • - Liars.

  • Oh, no.

  • She hates shoes in her house.

  • - Dishonest people.

  • - Oh, she doesn't like cheese.

  • - Dishonesty and cheese.

  • You gotta keep your shoes at the door.

  • The city is filthy.

  • Did Nina say that?

  • She likes to wear her shoes in the house.

  • Yeah, no.

  • [whoosh] If I were a candy bar,

  • I'd be?

  • - Chocolate.

  • Anything chocolate.

  • - A Take 5 because she's sweet and salty

  • and until you really get inside,

  • you don't actually really know her like that.

  • She's pretty shy.

  • - Maybe the little Pocky sticks.

  • [whoosh] She's lean

  • and sweet.

  • - Snickers.

  • Like, if you're hungry, grab a Snickers, obviously.

  • [whoosh] My favorite food is?

  • - Anything Korean, anything Mexican.

  • - I think Ramen?

  • - Korean food, noodles.

  • - Korean food, noodles, all day, every day.

  • [whoosh] I always wanted to?

  • - Travel all the time.

  • - Travel the world.

  • - Travel the entire world.

  • - Travel the world.

  • [whoosh] My most cherished item is?

  • - She's not one of those [soft music]

  • people that's ungrateful.

  • So I think that anything that she has,

  • she just really treasures it.

  • [upbeat music]

  • - I don't know.

  • - Her stuffed animals.

  • - Maybe my stuffed animals?

  • Yeah, probably my stuffed animals.

  • [whoosh] She knew I always

  • dreamed I would?

  • - Make money off of being creative.

  • - Possibly be a signed model.

  • - Model for a huge agency.

  • - Walk more shows.

  • Do it for a New York Fashion Week.

  • [whoosh] My mantra is?

  • - Oh, she always says, "You got this."

  • Like that, "You got this."

  • - No.

  • - Live happy and eat good.

  • - Live good, eat good.

  • Food is life.

  • Health is wealth.

  • [whoosh] My favorite hobby is?

  • - Eating and working out.

  • - Working out.

  • - Working out.

  • - Probably working out and going out to eat.

  • [whoosh] I'm most afraid of?

  • - She's fearless.

  • I don't think she lets anybody put fear into her heart.

  • - Spiders?

  • - Not being able to travel.

  • [soft music] - Heights.

  • And things that go fast.

  • [whoosh] Something that always

  • makes me happy is?

  • - Music.

  • - Food.

  • - Being with her friends.

  • - Listening to music, cuddles, food.

  • [laughs]

  • My favorite TV show is?

  • - I don't know that one.

  • - I don't know.

  • - She doesn't really watch that much TV.

  • - Probably "Survivor".

  • Winners out war.

  • Actually, I've always wanted to be on that show.

  • [whoosh] One word that

  • describes me best is?

  • - Organized.

  • - Charismatic.

  • - Love.

  • - Lover.

  • Compassionate.

  • Indecisive.

  • [whoosh] My most used emoji is?

  • - Purple heart.

  • - The kissy face or the winky.

  • - The crying laughing face.

  • - The laughing and crying one or the tongue out.

  • Like the angel with the halo.

  • One of those.

  • [whoosh] Who is more likely to win

  • in an argument?

  • - Me.

  • For sure.

  • Everybody says I should just be a lawyer.

  • I'm just so good at it.

  • But, in my defense, I don't argue anymore.

  • I just smile.

  • Like this.

  • - Definitely me.

  • - I am.

  • - She is.

  • - [Producer] Did you have a she in mind when you?

  • - All of them, all of them.

  • [laughs]

  • We dated for?

  • - About nine months.

  • - Six months.

  • - Four months.

  • - We broke up because?

  • - It was mutual and there was a lack of passion.

  • And I just felt like I was dating one of my friends.

  • - I didn't want a monogamous relationship and Gina did.

  • - I wanted something more monogamous and serious.

  • - So, it just goes to show how everything is relative.

  • [whoosh] My worst habit was?

  • - She does this weird thing with her cuticles.

  • - Being impulsive.

  • - Well, this isn't really like a bad habit

  • but I didn't really like that she didn't drink

  • because I don't like drinking alone.

  • She was just too serious sometimes.

  • - And her worst habit was?

  • - She didn't like that I farted in my sleep.

  • - Oh yeah.

  • Oh my God. [laughter]

  • Nah, she would take the covers over and then trap it.

  • It's evil.

  • - That I drink [chuckles].

  • And that I have a job that I'm out late.

  • - I don't drink at all, so that was like [hands clap].

  • You know.

  • - Wanting to stay home and be a homebody.

  • - Kind of felt like pulling teeth sometimes

  • to get her to open up.

  • [whoosh] We would always discuss?

  • - Music, food,

  • food and dancing.

  • - We would always talk about not working

  • on the food truck anymore.

  • - We would always discuss or talk about

  • the status of our relationship.

  • - We smoked a lot.

  • Like, I don't know, we just smoked a lot.

  • - She liked to talk about the places she's been

  • and the places she wants to go.

  • - We would always talk about music.

  • I hated her?

  • - Hair color decisions.

  • - She could get quite loud sometimes.

  • I mean, that comes along with the drinking, I think.

  • - My tendency to close off after an argument.

  • - I feel like we wouldn't end up going out

  • to our night plans a lot

  • because she's so much of a homebody.

  • - I was always late for everything.

  • - She's a little bit of a diva.

  • I wouldn't say that she's high maintenance

  • but she has her moments.

  • [whoosh] The worst thing

  • she did to me was?

  • - Probably that I was always late.

  • - Make out with someone else.

  • - I ignored her calls all day after a fight.

  • - I don't really like to dwell on the negative parts.

  • I tend to romanticize and idealize a relationship.

  • So all I have are really good memories

  • from our relationships.

  • And the worst thing I did to her was?

  • - She was actually late for my birthday

  • and this was after we broke up.

  • - I don't know, sometimes she was just too serious for me.

  • And it just felt like I was being yelled at by my mom.

  • - Not taking my needs seriously.

  • - We always fought about?

  • - Food and me always being late.

  • - About monogamy.

  • More because she believes in it completely and I do not.

  • - Me wanting to stay in and her wanting to go out.

  • - How did things end?

  • - We just had a conversation about it.

  • I brought it up.

  • I felt like maybe we needed some space to figure things out.

  • - I sat her down and just told her

  • that being with one person wasn't for me.

  • - She was flirting with some other girls.

  • We were arguing on the phone

  • and I just said I needed a break

  • and that break turned into a breakup.

  • - I don't do breaks, I just do breakups.

  • [whoosh] She got over the breakup after

  • - Like a month.

  • I was just sad because I missed her.

  • - Pretty quickly but I think

  • it's because we decided to just remain friends.

  • - A few weeks as well.

  • - I got over the breakup after?

  • - Like two weeks [laughs lightly].

  • 'Cause we were still friends.

  • - Probably not long [laughs lightly].

  • - A few weeks.

  • We just needed to cool off a little bit.

  • - A couple weeks maybe.

  • [whoosh] Were we in love?

  • - I'm still in love with her and her spirit

  • but not romantically.

  • - I was definitely in love with Nina.

  • - No, I think we loved each other more as friends.

  • - Ah, with Gabriella it was probably more lust than love.

  • Edica?

  • - No.

  • [upbeat music]

  • - I feel like we had more of a love

  • in a friendship afterwards.

  • [whoosh] Are we still on good terms?

  • - We're on great terms.

  • She's one of my best friends.

  • - Yes, we are.

  • We're good friends.

  • - Yes, we're good friends.

  • - The best thing to come out of the relationship?

  • - Our friendship.

  • And just like our love and our bond.

  • - With Nina, I think I gained a lifelong friend.

  • - She still is there for me and listens.

  • And vice versa.

  • - I definitely gained a new perspective,

  • just from our differences.

  • - Learning about ourselves and growing.

  • - My music library has expanded like ten-fold.

  • [whoosh] We stayed friend because?

  • - 'Cause we can't live without each other [laughs].

  • She helped me throughout a lot of healing

  • and just helped me find myself.

  • She was just one of my soulmates.

  • She's always gonna be my friend.

  • - Because we didn't have a reason not to be.

  • We still care about each other.

  • - We had a great conversation about our relationship

  • and we were able to sort of put our differences aside

  • and move forward in a positive way.

  • - She would say she misses my?

  • - I miss her company.

  • - Her cuddles.

  • - Going out to eat.

  • - And I would say I miss her?

  • - Definitely my cooking.

  • - Nina was like the perfect cuddle partner,

  • so I definitely miss her cuddles.

  • - My cooking.

  • - I miss her cooking.

  • She threw down in the kitchen.

  • - My lips.

  • [giggles].

  • - The best memory of our relationship?

  • - I would say eating and dancing together, all the time.

  • - My best memory with Nina probably

  • is falling in love with her.

  • She's one of my first loves

  • and she definitely showed me how to be a great partner

  • and to be supportive and all of that.

  • [whoosh] - Walking the Brooklyn Bridge

  • and seeing the sunset.

  • It was very romantic.

  • - Going out with her is definitely a lot of fun.

  • She definitely turns up [laughs].

  • [whoosh] - We had a night in

  • and we took a bunch of edibles

  • and we were just literally laughing the whole night.

  • - We went to a lot of music shows,

  • taking edibles and vibin' out.

  • [whoosh] Would we date again?

  • - No, we wouldn't date again.

  • We crossed those paths.

  • - I would probably just prefer to be friends

  • and keep that friendship.

  • - Only time will tell.

  • - I don't really revisit exes.

  • I'm a firm believer that there's plenty of fish in the sea

  • and to keep moving forward, onward and upward.

  • I think she would tell my future partner?

  • - That she's definitely a keeper

  • and that she's definitely gonna speak your love language.

  • Take care of her.

  • - Be honest with her.

  • Communicate.

  • And remember that friendship is most important.

  • - Have a lot of patience

  • but know that she's a really great time

  • and you'll enjoy every little bit of it.

  • - What is our relationship like now?

  • - We're best friends.

  • She's so important and she's so supportive.

  • And I'm never gonna not need her to be around.

  • - She still is always there for me

  • and she's a great listener.

  • - We're good friends.

  • [whoosh] What am I looking for?

  • - Someone that she can probably travel with

  • and that's on her level mentally and spiritually.

  • - Loyalty.

  • Just someone that's gonna really stick by her side.

  • - Someone who's caring and kind but also provides her

  • with an experience that she hasn't had before.

  • - I'm looking for love, whether that's with someone else,

  • but I think it really means at this point in my life,

  • with myself.

- How would my exes describe our relationship?

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