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So I'm here to talk about something which has gained a very bad reputation over time, something that's very unpopular.
Failure.
Let me paint a couple of scenarios for you.
Scenario number one.
You have a question.
You think about it.
You get an answer.
It's the right answer.
Boom Success scenario number two.
You have a question.
You think about it.
You come up with an answer.
It's the wrong answer failure.
So you go back thinking you study research, ask your teachers and you come up with another Bronson.
Still the wrong answer, and you go back thinking you keep trying to try 100 times until you finally get it right.
Success.
In which scenario do you feel you've been more successful in those few who feel It's Inari number one.
Come raise your hands resigns.
Yeah, okay.
And those a few who feel it's scenario number to raise your hands.
Oh, wow, Well done.
I agree with you.
Seen my lifespan?
I have experienced that scenario.
Number two is the more successful one, because in my quest to find the right answer, I've come up with 99 wrong answers.
They might be wrong to that question, but there's still 99 answers.
I just haven't asked the right questions for them yet.
See failures Lead to wisdom.
Meet any successful man or a woman today.
And when you dissect their journey, I got into you.
It's made of a Farmall.
Failures and successes.
You're remembered for your successes, yes, but it's those important failures in the lessons learnt in failure, along with repeated attempts that have got in you to succeed.
I ride motorcycles big, heavy, loud motorcycle and in off road training.
They teach you tell the bike low, really low, so low that we fall down most of the times.
And the lesson is intended for us to fall down because only once you fall do we really know our limits.
We only know them howto how much we can push this 250 kill a motorcycle before I finally drop it.
So now in life I've learned not to be afraid or anxious or fearful of failure, but accept it because only once I failed.
I know my limit.
Only once I know my limit Can I push a little more?
Can I get a little better?
Can I work a little harder on.
11 years ago, I did a movie.
It was a dance film and I worked really hard at it.
And I truly believe in this film comes out.
I'm gonna be the next Riddick Roshan.
But actually I would want to romance me in the next room.
The film came out and was a complete flop in six days of his out of theaters.
I was great in it, but despite my greatest efforts and all my hard work, the movie flock.
So I got depressed, really depressed.
I'm talking with a kind of depression that makes you question every decision you've ever come over here to your point of your life.
So I packed my buys gold on my motorcycle, and I rode off to a friend stud farm, farm for horses.
This one morning I was psyching and feeling very side for myself.
We all do that.
My friend Roland, he comes to me and he said, Hey, do you want to see a pony?
Give book?
And I was like, While not only do I get to see a little horsey, but I get to see a tiny always come out from a tiny horse are like, of course, here.
Forget this depression.
I'll come back to it.
Let's check this out.
So we lined up at this small little bond and there I see this most beautiful little pony.
She's about that high, and the name is injured.
By the time we got there, Angel was halfway into hospital.
The fall.
The horse baby was having difficulty coming out off pony because the Falls father was a bigger horse when you're right over there, many as it passed and Angel had lost lot of blood and energy.
My friend Rohan quickly got into action.
He put a saline drip on Angel to give us some energy and we go to work.
I was standing around there.
I don't know what to do.
So asked him, What do I do to help?
And he said, Do anything you can to take her through this time so I go up ahead to Angel.
I must admit that was a little scared.
Then I look at her and I see her big brown, beautiful round eyes.
But when I look into them, I see pain in them and she's there standing very calmly, quietly taking all the pain in like all mothers do silently, gracefully.
It broke my heart to see her like that.
So I went and I hugged her and I started talking to and I said, Angela, I'm here for you.
We will get through this.
If you wantto share this pain with me, I'm here to take it.
Let's let's get through this, Do this.
And you know what happened then?
She heard me because the moment I said that she lifted a front left foot and she slammed it on my foot.
You're the cold morning I was wearing only slip within that hook.
But I took it as a sign and I said, All right, I'm here and I comforted her even more.
It was a complicated operation.
Angel by this time had given up pushing.
Ron had his hand inside of belly and he was going to take the fall out.
A lot of time had gone by.
Ron and his assistant board got tired by this time.
So Don calls upon me and he says, Come on, I need your help tomorrow.
By this time I'm all in.
I said yes.
What can I do when he says, Well, all those hours in the gym, building your muscles, we need them now instead.
Of course, What do you need me to do?
What can I carry?
And he says, Well, I need you to put your hand into the pony and bring this baby out.
I mean, I've never even seen something like this happen.
And now you want me to put my hand up behind a pony and bring a baby out?
And the moment I said, this angel lifted ahead up from the ground, look back at me and with those round beautiful brown eyes, looked at me and said, and I was like, Okay, can't say no to that.
So I went in, I went all the way and I'll, I'll spare you the gory details.
But 15 minutes later, my forearms were jammed.
I was tired.
I couldn't go any further.
So Ron John back in and two hours later, he finally got the fallout and saved angels life.
When I was coming back and I was processing all of this, I couldn't fathom how ruin could go for four hours in this operation, going beyond his physical pain, his mental stamina, but as I could only do 15 minutes.
So I asked him, How did you manage to do it?
And he simply look It looked at me and he said, Once you decide to stock, never give up, you see failure is very common.
We all come across it.
And in the process of failure, it's important to take a break.
Take a vacation if you have to.
You tackle the problem with a fresh mind.
You see, I wasn't a hero of that story.
Roan was He needed those 15 minutes to rest to reevaluate and then come back to the situation.
You all have exams, right?
Every three months.
Four months, I'm told.
Every day.
Yeah, While teachers relax, she has an actor Every audition.
Every assignment for me is also like an exam.
I study for it really hard.
I give the audition and I hope and pray to all the guards.
I know that I pass it and unlike you, find students who passed most of the lift off The times, if not all, the times I feel most of the time.
And even if I have created done really well in my previous movie TV project, assignment.
I still have to go through the entire process all over again.
I have to face failure again, have to face rejection again.
But now because I know that failure is required for success, I take it in my strike.
All I need to do is put some more work into it and the work that I have to put into it is only something I enjoy doing.
So it's a win situation, but that's not enough for me.
What I like is what they call ah win win situation.
Thank you.
You can clap after I tell you what this win win situation is.
I have an audition.
I get ready for it.
Look good.
Do my lines give the script?
It's a big audition.
If I get through great Priyanka Chopra has it be in the next room?
If I don't, I set up another situation.
A bike, right?
Something that I'm looking forward to, something that's productive of workshop, anything that will make my journey in this long run more successful.
So if I don't get the big project, I'm still utilizing my time.
So it's a win win situation, but I haven't always been a winner in my fourth standard.
I feel I failed my ear, and I remember it to be one of the most shameful experiences I've ever endured in my life.
I was embarrassed and I was ashamed for my parents.
I was embarrassed about what my friends would think of me.
It was horrific to think how my classmates would make fun of me.
I remember crawling on the side of my bed on the floor because I didn't even feel worthy enough to be on top of my own bed.
All these intense emotions I felt as a nine year old.
Seven days ago, my college awarded me with an illustrious alumni award from that nine year old boy who failed his class to this 36 year old boy who excelled in his class.
What changed?
What's the difference?
Nothing.
Nothing makes me more special than Emir.
If you I just never gave up doesn't mean I never failed.
I failed more times and have succeeded, and that's just the journey of life.
See, I realized then that life is going to be hard.
It's gonna be more difficult than easy.
They're going to be more setbacks than winds But if you stick to it, if you perceive you, you will find success.
But, hey, if failure is so good sedan, why don't we see it everywhere?
Why don't we hear of it more often?
Because failure is ugly.
It's not beautiful.
It's not attractive like successes.
See it for yourself or an instagram post of yourself with an award and one with admitting your failure, you'll get more likes in the award and being successful.
Why is that?
Because we don't know how to react to failure.