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  • Hey, it's Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

  • and life you love, and this is Q&A Tuesday, and today's question comes from a lovely lady

  • named Tammy and she writes:

  • "Hey, Marie, thank you for doing what you do. I am grateful for your Q&A Tuesdays. Here

  • is my Q. I find myself growing by leaps and bounds but it seems that I have the urge to

  • share it with everyone around me. I seem to feel as if everyone should listen to me and

  • learn with me. This is not always appreciated and it seems to be alienating some people,

  • so my question is 'how do I resist the urge to make everyone around me see the light?'"

  • Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Hold on Tammy. You want to help everybody seem the light?

  • Have you never seen "Poltergeist," girl? The light is bad.

  • Tammy, Tammy, Tammy, this is an awesome question. I've certainly experienced this first hand.

  • When you first start learning about personal development and all these cool philosophies,

  • of course you want to share it with everybody you know.

  • Hey Papa Smurf, did you know that if you were more in the moment, your whole life would

  • transform?

  • Grouchy, you're using your grouchiness to hide your brilliance. I really think you're

  • dialing an upset.

  • Smurfette, you really need to claim your feminine power and really own your divine goddessness.

  • But as you're seeing this approach doesn't always go over so well.  I mean think about

  • it. You're trying to push self help on people and it may actually tick them off because

  • essentially what you're saying is they don't know how to do their life, they're pretty

  • screwed up and they need you to come help them out. Essentially, they're going to say

  • to themselves "who asked you?"

  • Here's what you need to do: don't talk about it, be about it. As the saying goes, and this

  • is a pretty good tweetable:

  • "Others will follow your footsteps easier than they will your advice."

  • What that means is to be an example of what you're learning. Really embody the ideas and

  • the principles. You want to be a living demonstration of all the good stuff. You want to be a role

  • model; you don't want to preach. What you'll find is that people in your life are really

  • going to take notice and they're going to ask you "what's your secret" or if they're

  • really into it they'll say "yes, yes, yes, yes, yes," and that becomes the perfect opportunity

  • to share and see if they want to learn more.

  • Next you got to find your PDP, or your personal development posse. Tammy, you really need

  • to hang out with some like minded people who love talking about this stuff just as much

  • as you do because here's the thing: people who like personal development tend to be really

  • into it. We're like personal development zombies; we're insatiable and we gobble up books and

  • audios and programs kinda like zombies gobble up brains. Here's the best part: there are

  • tons of us around. We hang out on blogs like this and book clubs and seminars and we're

  • always signing up for another program. We may be an odd bunch but we're out there and

  • our numbers are growing every day, just like zombies. Once you find people who actually

  • want to talk about this stuff, you'll feel less compelled to force it on people who don't.

  • Tammy, that is my A to your Q. thank you so much for asking and of course let us know

  • how it goes. Now I would love to hear from you. Have you ever tried to show people the

  • light? How did it go? Did they resist you or did you need to change your approach and

  • try something different? As always, the best stuff happens after the episode in the comments

  • over at MarieForleo.com so go there and leave a comment now.

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  • Thank you so much for watching and I'll see you next time on MarieTV.

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