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  • Hey it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

  • and life you love. And this is Q&A Tuesday. And I don't even care if it’s not Tuesday

  • when youre watching it. It’s not even Tuesday when I’m recording it. But this

  • is Q&A Tuesday. So let’s rock it. Today’s question comes from Tamaryn and she writes,

  • Hi Marie, I’m based in London and an American acquaintance recommended you to me,

  • and I love, love, love your message. I've just started up my own business and my question

  • is this: How do you deal with self-sabotaging thoughts that make you feel like you are 'winging

  • itand that someone will find you out? I think women in particular suffer from this

  • and we hold ourselves back because we feel like we could get 'busted' any moment for

  • not really being an expert in our field - even if we've got a lot of experience and great

  • ideas.”

  • Awesome question Tamaryn.

  • I agree with you that many of us feel like a fraud, regardless of how much experience

  • we have!

  • And here’s the thing, the idea that we could somehow be a fraud or that were gonna get

  • found is really a kissing cousin to one of the biggest fears that every human being on

  • the planet shares, and it’s this:

  • It’s the fear of not being good enough. We ALL have this fear, people who are brand

  • new at what theyre doing and people who have tons of experience and a lot of accomplishments

  • under their belt.

  • Now where all of us get tripped up is thinking that we need to overcome the fear ofnot

  • being good enoughor get rid of our negative thoughts in order to be successful. Truth

  • is, you don't have to.

  • Here’s the thing, you can’t really get rid of negative thoughts and if youve ever

  • tried you know that I’m right. But what you can do is make them powerless. And here’s

  • how.

  • You know how when you leave your computer idle for a little while a screensaver pops

  • up?

  • Your self-sabotaging thoughts are the same thing: theyre a screensaver that pops up

  • EVERY TIME YOU go idle.

  • Think about it, when youre FULLY immersed in your work, maybe youre creating a marketing

  • campaign or youre writing an email to a client or youre doing any of the 300 things

  • that need to happen in order for your business to run, you have no room to wonder whether

  • or not youre a fraud.

  • Youre too busy getting things done and making a difference!

  • But the moment you go idle ….

  • So how do you get your real screen saver to go away? You tap a key and you get back to

  • work. It’s the same thing with your mental one.

  • So rather than thinking of your negative thoughts asbad”, consider them an automatic,

  • friendly reminder that youve checked out and it’s time to re-engage.

  • Know this: in any given moment, youre EITHER fully engaged. . . OR

  • By the way, just because those words are there, does not mean that they are true. You don't

  • have to analyze the words or try and change them or make them wrong or try and figure

  • out why theyre there in the first place.

  • Tamaryn, the only thing you have control over in life is what you focus on. Where youll

  • direct your attention, your energy, and your emotion in any given moment.

  • And I’ve got a mantra to help you remember this and yes, it’s a tweetable:

  • More present moment engagement = less crappy thoughts.”

  • Look Tamaryn, we all have self sabotaging thoughts. The difference between those who

  • are successful and those who are not, is the amount of attention and energy that we give

  • to them.

  • So that’s my A to your Q. Bye.

  • I’m just kidding. Tamaryn, that wasn’t it. I want to challenge you and everyone to

  • take what I’m calling the 7 Day Screen Saver Challenge.

  • For the next seven days what I want you to do is pay special attention, every time you

  • disengage and you check out and you go into zombieland catch your mental screensaver,

  • tap a little key, and get back into your life. I PROMISE - you do this for 7 days, you don't

  • make your little negative thoughts wrong, you don't worry about self sabotaging anything,

  • you just stay engaged in the present moment as much as possible, it’s gonna have a huge

  • effect on your productivity and, more importantly, your happiness.

  • Now I’d love to hear from you. How do you deal with your self-sabotaging thoughts? Do

  • you think theyre legit OR do you brush them off and get back to work?

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  • leave a comment now.

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  • that only YOU have. Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time

  • on MarieTV!

Hey it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

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