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  • I can't take it no more! Another Q&A Tuesday! It's so awesome isn't it?

  • Q: And Joanna writes:

  • No matter how much I try to get motivated, I can't. I feel horrible that I'm falling

  • behind in my career and business. I feel embarrassed to meet friends because I don't want to talk

  • about what I'm doing. I have applied to so many jobs to no avail and I don't seem to

  • be putting enough effort into my business. I'm making a VRY little amount of money and

  • falling deeper into debt. I have time and a very supportive husband...but still I can't

  • seem to get motivated. WHAT"S GOING ON?! What's holding me back?

  • A: Joanna, Joanna, Joanna, Joanna.. First thing I want you to know is you are not alone.

  • Every single person on the planet at some point in their life has experienced including

  • me and it's very, very painful.

  • I want to tell you a story.

  • A few months ago, my friend - we'll call him John was going through a similar situation.

  • John is in his twenties - he's super talented, really cute, really smart - but he was feeling

  • lost in his life and he was embarrassed about it. He'd been stuck in this same retail job

  • for years, and he felt like time was passing him by.

  • I shared a few ideas with him and within a couple weeks - his whole life changed, I mean

  • completely and I'm not kidding you.

  • He got a new job, his relationships got back on track - and most importantly, he's not

  • embarrassed to talk about what he does anymore AND he's really excited to get up and go to

  • work everyday!!

  • When you're stuck in a rut and embarrassed about your life - there are steps you can

  • take to get back on track. Here's what my buddy John did, that you can do too.

  • 1. Be honest.

  • Most of us have the tendency to hide our true feelings or pretend that everything is OK

  • when the truth is, it's not.

  • You know how they say the truth will set you free? Well, it's totally true. Whenever you're

  • not honest with yourself, or others - you're just gonna stay stuck.

  • The first step that John took was being honest with me. Now being honest doesn't mean you're

  • a Debbie Downer OR that you're a burden. Especially if you stick to the facts and stay out of

  • victim mode.

  • For example, if you're talking to a friend and they ask how you're doing, don't lie.

  • Just say, “You know, I'm going through a really tough time right now.”

  • Remember, your hiding isn't fooling anyone - it's just keeping you stuck.

  • Speaking of hiding - that brings me to step #2.

  • 2. Is to Get Out and Be Around People.

  • Don't be a hermit until you get all this figured out. Most people think that they're not a

  • good company if they're going through a rough patch and that's not the truth!

  • My friend John came to stay with us for the weekend. Even though he was going through

  • a rough time, he didn't bail on his social life.

  • Start making plans with friends. Fill up that calendar. Just being around people will help

  • get you out of your rut.

  • 3. THE MOST important - you have got to take Action

  • Once John told me what was up - I KNEW he had to read my book - Make Every Man Want

  • You while on the surface it seems like a relationship book but really truth be told- it is a book

  • for kickin' ass in life and I knew he had to read it.

  • I gave him a copy and he started digging in immediately. Key point: He DID something.

  • May seem obvious, but most people whine and wallow in their misery rather than doing something

  • about it.

  • You could read a book (like mine!) or take some personal development workshop or maybe

  • you can go see a therapist. Or maybe how about this, maybe you should see a doctor and get

  • a whole round of blood work done to make sure your health is on track.

  • And, get things done. Call back a friend you've been meaning to talk to, clean out a drawer,

  • Or maybe take up a class you've been meaning to take forever. Start with one thing, even

  • if you think it has no relevance to the big life problem that you've trying to solve.

  • You know my mantra - EVERYTHING is Figureoutable. But you won't figure this one out in your

  • head ? you need to get out and take action.

  • Step 4. And I love this step: Forget about motivation.

  • And this is a tweetable:

  • Losers wait for motivation. Winners just get sh*t done.”

  • So many people wait to feel motivated before they do anythings. Here's a news flash - happy,

  • productive people do not wait for motivation - they just get on with it.

  • Rather than trying to be motivated, try my "bring the party" technique.

  • This is the thing John got from my book that worked like a charm.

  • In John's case, "bring the party" meant get really into his job -- the job he already

  • had. He decided to throw himself into every little task, and you know what? He started

  • having a good time.

  • No matter what he was doing, he had fun doing it.

  • Pretty soon all kinds of cool things opened up for him - more clarity, money, opportunities,

  • you name it.

  • Wouldn't you know it - he's totally clear on what he wants to do in his life and he's

  • already booked gigs in that field.

  • Do NOT underestimate how powerful this "bring the party" technique is.

  • And you kinda do the shoulder shake like this..

  • When you BRING fun and passion to everything you that do - you literally become a magnet

  • for great stuff to start happening to you.

  • That is what I got Joanna I hope you enjoyed it. Don't forget to let us know how it goes.

  • Now here's what I want to know from YOU: What do you do when you're feeling like your stuck

  • in a rut? Do you have felt embarrassed like your not ahead or you should be in life? Tell

  • me in the comments below. I know you've been through it, give us some of your wisdom.

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  • Thank you so much! thank you for watching! I love you! I can't wait to see you next time!

  • That's right, next video, right here, you and me, let's do it.

I can't take it no more! Another Q&A Tuesday! It's so awesome isn't it?

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