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  • Hey, it's Marie and you're watching MarieTV- business and life advice that works.

  • We are here in the east village of New York City and I'm bringing you something different.

  • Not a normal Q&A Tuesday. We've got a very special interview so come on.

  • Marie: Are you only getting a fraction of what you want in your business and life? Are

  • the things that you're looking to achieve taking way too long to come your way? If so,

  • Gabby Bernstein may have your answer. In fact, she says that to manifest anything you want

  • in your business whether it's career goals, maybe it's relationships, your health, your

  • happiness, the real work is an inside job. I am so thrilled today to bring you my dear

  • friend and best selling author Miss Gabby Bernstein. Yay! Can you believe you're on

  • MarieTV?

  • Gabby: I know. I was like, it's like I'm on Oprah today!

  • Marie: Yay!

  • Gabby: It's just like being on Oprah.

  • Marie: This is awesome. So manifesting is such a cool topic. It's something that a lot

  • of people may have some resistance to. If they think it's like a little too woo-woo

  • and it's a little too passive and I know for me and my life, I am such a go-getting kind

  • of driven girl that in the past I used to have my own resistance to it but as I've become

  • older and a little more mature, I've opened my mind and I actually do consider myself

  • quite a good manifester. So for our audience, can you define what exactly is manifesting?

  • Gabby: Manifesting is acquiring the experience of what it is that you want to feel, and being,

  • and living and believing in that experience and then allowing that experience to come

  • into form.

  • Marie: So not only the experience like say wanting to go on a vacation but even if you

  • want something like a new MacBook Air, you can manifest a new computer [Gabby: Absolutely]

  • or being a published author or having your business reach a certain level. So everything

  • falls into that.

  • Gabby: Everything falls into that category. Sometimes we manifest things far beyond our

  • wildest dreams so sometimes if we have a vision of something it happens in a far greater way,

  • so we want to stay open so we can say I want that MacBook Air but maybe we can get that

  • MacBook Air that's a little bit bigger than we thought. Or maybe it comes with an extra

  • little gift. But allowing ourselves to be open, "this or something more."

  • Marie: Cool! So the way that I think about manifesting too, it's also involved in the

  • process of creation or creating. You know I consider myself an artist and a creator.

  • Do you see like a distinction between manifesting and creating?

  • Gabby: Manifesting is very creative. It is the process of using your power energy and

  • being in that presence of your high-powered energy and allowing that energy to co-create

  • with the energy that's around you. So you're vibrating at a high-frequency, I'm vibrating

  • at a high-frequency [Marie: Ooh, girl!], we've done a lot of work, we cleaned up a lot of

  • our own crap, we believe in ourselves today and that act that energy of believing in ourselves

  • has attracted us together today and brought us into this space where we together are co-creating

  • a teaching. If I hadn't cleaned up my side of street, if I hadn't believed in myself

  • the way I do, I would never have manifested being on MarieTV.

  • Marie: That's very true! So I know I like to always believe that I am co-creating with

  • the universe 'cuz I really believe there are no such things as coincidences and I've had

  • too many experiences in my life where I'm like, “Oh my God! That's what I wanted!”

  • and it all seemed to line up and it was incredible so that's really part of what we are talking

  • about here right is our ability to play an active role but almost paradoxically a passive

  • role in helping things that we want come into our life.

  • Gabby: Yeah, there's a really nice line from a Course in Miracles which is the metaphysical

  • text I teach and it isMiracles occur naturally and when they are not occurring, something

  • has gone wrong.”

  • Marie: That's interesting!

  • Gabby: It's a good one right? So what happens is that synchronicity, that flow, that effortless

  • action that just sort of allowing, “Oh I was thinking about that and it just showed

  • up.” That is how life is supposed to be. We get in the way. Our negative belief systems,

  • our fears, our anxieties, our anger towards the past, that future tripping and projecting

  • all of that energy gets in the way of allowing all of the miracles to occur naturally.

  • Marie: So, this is awesome. So what I like to do on MarieTV which you know cause I know

  • you watch us every week is to take this idea or concept and really break it down and make

  • it super actionable. So if someone's never heard of manifesting or maybe they have been

  • quite a skeptic and are like this is BS or this stuff doesn't work. Can you break it

  • down like how to manifest? Like what's the first thing that we should be doing?

  • Gabby: So the first step of manifestation is to get very very clear and you know if

  • we are not clear on what we desire we can call in some really funky stuff.

  • Marie: Yeah this is big and I want to interrupt you for a moment because one of the biggest

  • things that I say again and again when I'm working with clients, I can help you get anything

  • you want, but you have to tell me what that is.

  • Gabby: Yeah! That's it!

  • Marie: You know clarity is really it's that secret key.

  • Gabby: Because you are like a manifestation can opener. If somebody gets clear about what

  • they want.

  • Marie: That's really funny!

  • Gabby: That's your new name.

  • Marie: That's my new title. I'm a manifestation can opener. Yes, go for it.

  • Gabby: It's true because if somebody is clear about what they want, your work is just releasing

  • all the blocks and all the disbelief and so you're clear. First and foremost you must

  • be clear.

  • Marie: Yup!

  • Gabby: And you must be clear because if you are unclear you'll start to call in some things

  • that are not really what you want, you'll be confused. The other piece is that once

  • you're clear, you can also then get clear about all the ways that you don't believe.

  • All of the limiting beliefs, all of the negativity that might be blocking you.

  • Marie: Oh! This is good. Let's use an example. Let's take it from the top. So I know for

  • both of us, this is something we share. You're a published author, I’m a published author

  • and I know many people in the world it's one of their dreams to have their own book out

  • on the shelf. So I know you must have gotten clear at one point: I am gonna be a published

  • author, right? So clarity, step number one. Number two, getting clear on everything that's

  • preventing that, right? Your limiting beliefs. Tell us some of yours when you first had that

  • clarity.

  • Gabby: Well, I often joke that I was a published author three years before I was actually a

  • published author because I believed so deeply but of course there was disbelief and there

  • was actually a period in my life where it was right when the recession hit, my stepfather

  • says to me, I'm telling him all about my book that I wanted to bring into the world, and

  • he said to me, “Well, you know it's a really a tough time, it's gonna be really hard because

  • we've got resistors you know people just having a hard time in the realities of the world.”

  • And saying, "Oh well you're gonna have a hard time getting your book published" and I looked

  • at him with so much conviction and so much faith and I said, "I believe in miracles.

  • I believe I am a published author." One month later, my first book was published. So that

  • faithfulness, that belief system is what allows us to come into the reality that we live but

  • what we must understand is that I had done quite a significant amount of work to release

  • all of the limiting beliefs that I had been holding on to. A limiting belief and I have

  • 8th grade English, I have never written anything beyond 8th grade. I had to teach myself how

  • to write. So the limiting belief which I am not a writer, I don't know how to write that

  • was a major one for me to overcome.

  • Marie: So this is great. So we have step one and step two and it's getting clear on what

  • you want and also having the courage to really look inside and see all the limiting beliefs

  • that can be holding you back from that, ok good.

  • Gabby: And clean them up!

  • Marie: And then clean them up! Ok, awesome! Tell me, so is that can that be as simple

  • as recognizing that it's a story you're telling yourself, it just simply doesn't have to be

  • the truth?

  • Gabby: Yes! The healing process of anything can just be the witnessing of okay that's

  • not working, that limiting belief that's holding me back and when we wake up to that call of

  • that's not working, that's when teachers like you come into our life. That's when books

  • fall off the shelf, that's when we land on MarieTV because we're tooling around Youtube.

  • Right? So we are led to what we need to heal so the first point is to recognize how you

  • are blocking yourself and trust that the universe will give you exactly what you need to heal

  • those limiting beliefs.

  • Marie: Awesome! Okay so we've got our two steps. Is there a third step? So now we are

  • in the process of healing our limiting beliefs. We're active, we're engaged, we're aware.

  • Gabby: We're getting into the know.

  • Marie: We're getting into the know. Ok, so step three, step three is getting into the

  • know.

  • Gabby: Know the universe has your back.

  • Marie: Love that!

  • Gabby: I think my mug says it. "The universe knows." Hehe.

  • Marie: Tell me more about what that means.

  • Gabby: Okay so ah.. What happens when we get into the know is that we have released, we're

  • working on releasing that disbelief and that's a daily process and the more we let go of

  • that disbelief, the more begin to acquire the presence of what it feels like to be in

  • that manifestation. So the same way I was saying I was a published author, I felt like

  • a published author years before I was a published author. I felt abundant even when I was scrapping

  • to get by. I still felt the presence of abundance which has allowed abundance to come into my

  • life.

  • Marie: And I think that's probably the hardest part for all of us. I can almost hear our

  • audience members again, we are in 188 countries around the world so some people are going

  • like "okay that all sounds cool but if I don't have any money right? If I don't have any

  • resources? If people don't believe in me." What can I do on a daily basis? Is it just

  • a matter of saying I really know this and just honestly, having that leap of faith and

  • saying I've got to stay in this state?

  • Gabby: You cannot let your outside world dictate your internal condition. The outside world

  • will reflect your internal condition so you are letting the outside stuff tell you I'm

  • not good enough then you are manifestation mishap. You are not allowing yourself to co-create.

  • Marie: So I'm gonna pause there just for a second. A manifestation mishap which you guys

  • know I love cute phrases for things. A manifestation mishap would be thinking like oh I'm having

  • this clarity. I want to be a published author but what would the mishap be there if there

  • were?

  • Gabby: Well, but my outside experience is not reflecting that. How am I gonna get published,

  • I don't have enough. All that is like really not supporting your desire. So, the most important

  • point here is to not let the outside world dictate your internal condition. Your internal

  • condition will support your external experiences. So your work is to focus on the internal and

  • I've done that in many cases in my life. You know picking up quarters to pay my gas money

  • and in the presence of not having a lot of money I still felt abundant. I did all that

  • work to release my disbelief and in that presence of believing in my abundance, I've allowed

  • a tremendous amount of abundance to come into my life so we gotta hold the energy and let

  • the outside world reflect that amazingness inside.

  • Marie: Okay, so another piece of resistance that could be coming towards us right now

  • from the audience, from someone saying, “Hey! You know what? I've manifested before or I'm

  • in this process but you know, it's taking a long time. I've been in the knowing, I'm

  • affirming but it just ain’t here yet.” What would you say to someone like that who

  • is just going like when is it gonna come? When is this really gonna happen?

  • Gabby: The most important step in the manifestation process is patience. And there is another

  • beautiful line from the Course in Miracles which is, "Those who are certain of the outcome

  • can afford to wait and wait without anxiety."

  • Marie: I freakin' love this and I'm gonna make her say it again because it was that

  • beautiful. Gabs, say it one more time.

  • Gabby: Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety.

  • Marie: Love that.

  • Gabby: So when we have that presence of being certain that certainty, I am a published author,

  • that man is on the way, I am abundant. When we have that certainty, we can allow, we can

  • be patient, we can be in the know. And another manifestation mishap when you are not patient

  • is that you are controlling, you're grasping, you're manipulating, and you are therefore

  • blocking the natural order. You are blocking the positive energy to flow towards you because

  • you are vibrating a frequency of negative energy because you are in fear, you are controlling

  • and manipulating.

  • Marie: Love that! So this is all really good stuff. Can you give us a quick recap? Again

  • our little manifesting how-to for anyone out there who this is all new to them.

  • Gabby: First is clarity. Become very clear of what it is that you desire so you don't

  • call in some crazy crap.

  • Marie: Love it!

  • Gabby: Then next piece is to be clear about all the limiting beliefs that are blocking

  • you from believing and knowing that you are worthy of what you desire.

  • Marie: And that takes some courage.

  • Gabby: It takes courage, it takes some time. And that willingness, you just wake up and

  • say, "I'm willing, I'm ready to have that guidance come forward" and you'll be led to

  • teachers like Marie. And then the third step is to be in that presence, in that energy

  • of knowing that you are ready to receive. That you are in that presence of believing

  • and knowing I am a published author. I am abundant, I am exactly what you want.

  • Marie: And having the patience.

  • Gabby: And then finally step is the patience. To be really relaxed, released, and allow.

  • And stay in the know. Letting the universe bring you exactly what it is that you desire.

  • Marie: It's awesome! Really, really great stuff. I absolutely love this. And I actually

  • want to hear from you guys. Do you have a manifesting story that you want to share in

  • the comments below? Or perhaps you have a manifesting mishap that you want to tell us

  • about, we would love to hear from you. If you want to hear more from Gabby, she's got

  • so much great stuff. You can go to Gabbyb.tv and check her out.

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  • board. So, thank you so much! Thank you Gabby for being on marietv. It was really, really

  • great. Hope to catch you next time. Have an awesome day, and we"ll see you soon! Thanks

  • everybody. Bye..

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