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  • How to attract women Hey it's Stephan here Stephan Erdman from Too Shy To Date Dot Com

  • thanks for joining me for this video

  • now i want to talk about this whole thing of

  • being nice

  • and should I be nice or should I be a jerk with women

  • or should I be a bad boy

  • and this and that

  • most people say nice kind of equals

  • giving lots of presents

  • trying to sort of like

  • cajole a girl into liking them

  • and that really doesn't work

  • doesn't work for one reason that nobody ever talks about

  • that seems to be a very important one

  • and for that i want to ask you something have you ever noticed

  • two people in the street meeting by accident

  • and lets say they are work colleagues and when they meet they will be like

  • they will sort of overcompensate

  • so they will go

  • hey how's it going

  • wow it's good to see you

  • hi yeah ahh

  • yeah

  • and they will both play this game

  • where they're both trying to reassure each other how much they like each other

  • but the second day split again

  • if you follow any of them

  • very often you notice that

  • because of this

  • over-the-top friendliness so i'm so excited to see you afterwards it's almost

  • like

  • you can tell that it was a pretend

  • uh...

  • session like a pretend moment of

  • hi I like you so much

  • when actually i don't

  • so be very aware that you never

  • never

  • get a girl to feel that she needs to pretend

  • to like you more

  • then she does

  • let me say this again be very aware that you never put a

  • girl in a situation

  • that she feels the pressure to pretend

  • to like you more than she does

  • because what you will get is this

  • realization in her mind that she's pretending because people always

  • know when they're pretending

  • that's the problem with giving a girl lots of things or like being a very

  • nice

  • guy that

  • nothing wrong with nice again i just using it the way other people use it

  • you know giving

  • giving a girl girl things making sure that she knows five times a day how

  • much you like her blah blah

  • it creates that pressure on her

  • to be nice back and it doesn't give

  • attraction

  • the chance to develop

  • attraction has to develop

  • in a pressure

  • free

  • vacuum

  • attraction

  • isn't a conscious thing that she decides on

  • attraction is something that

  • happens

  • that happens

  • after she has after it has happened she will notice it

  • and call it attraction

  • if she feels

  • she needs to be nice to you

  • in order to reciprocate

  • it's a powerful social mechanism

  • happens to all of us

  • somebody's nice to you

  • we wanna be nice back to them we will be feel the pressure to be

  • nice back to them

  • don't use that with women so much so what i would suggest is

  • be off the wall

  • you know be a bit outside of the convention

  • be

  • make sure

  • she knows that you how you like her but you don't

  • need her

  • or that

  • that you also tease her enough

  • to make sure that

  • she has that

  • uh...

  • that tension going on there which doesn't quite know what you want

  • whether you really

  • like her that way or whether you just like to hang out with her

  • important to have that

  • basically just to help her develop let her develop attraction for you

  • rather than her feel

  • that she has to

  • feel attractive to you otherwise you'll get disappointed or you'll be

  • frustrated or you know that you will feel that she's cheating you because you

  • gave her all those presents and took her for dinner and all that stuff

  • are you with me on this one it's a slightly more subtle slant on this whole subject but

  • the thing that's really the reason why

  • why it turns women off

  • and women are not only attracted to

  • jerks ok

  • whoever wants to tell you that

  • say thank you and move on

  • to some body who knows their stuff ok

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  • how to attract women why being to nice kills attraction

How to attract women Hey it's Stephan here Stephan Erdman from Too Shy To Date Dot Com

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How To Attract Women - Why Being "Too Nice" Kills Attraction

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