Name: You must respect me. I am to be respected.
Uploaded: 2020-03-27T19:05:40.000Z
Duration: 11 min 53 s
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Why don't we talk a little bit about respect?

I want everybody to respect me all the time.

You know, you would imagine that someone off my level of success would be respected by everybody and that everybody should try to be like me.

And everyone should be demanding respect from everybody around them.

That is how you know you are becoming more successful.

And what we should be trying to do is treat everybody with respect and get to the point where if we think highly enough of ourselves, if we're not getting respected, we don't work.

This became clear to me in a recent incident where I went into the office at 7:30 a.m. One day.

Now the cafe does not open until 8 a.m. So I was going to burn 30 minutes of my time waiting for the food to be served.

I'm just going to go grab a simple bay, go put on some cream cheese, and then I'm going to get my day started.

You know, I really wanted to start working.

Earlier that day, I had a lot of things I wanted to do.

And so what happened was I went in, the bagels were all laid out, the cream cheese was out there ready to go, and I began grabbing it and nobody was there.

And then someone showed up and said, Hey, we're not open It was like, very politely.

I said, What can I just get this cream cheese?

And they said, No, it's like, Ok, so then I went on my way and I saw some bacon.

Bacon was all they're all set up, ready to go.

I went to try and pick up one or two slices, and then someone said again, We're not open and I couldn't get the big guns like can I just have one or two slices?

Now some people would say that I was disrespectful, one for going in before, hours before a M before the cafe officially opened and the other people like me might say that it was actually the cooking staff that were disrespectful to me because number one they spoke to me in a tone that was uncalled for.

Like I thought they were extremely route.

This is something my family would never do to me if I came.

And I wanted, like a bagel and cream cheese and saw there ready to go.

My parents, my family, my friends, anyone I personally knew who supported me would encourage me to e earlier so I could get my day started so I can support the company and build whatever I need to do.

Start solving bugs earlier, start strategizing earlier, start getting things done and ultimately contributed the success of the company.

Now the problem I have here is when I tell other people this story, they say that I need to show the cook some more respect.

And I think that's a very interesting thing to say, because nobody gets respect from the people that they serve.

Okay, if you think about me as a software engineer, I serve people, too.

I serve the hundreds of millions of users who may be using maps and, you know, I may be getting interrupted at all times of the day.

Every engineer is on car, and every engineer is working essentially 24 7 Any time there's a critical buck or critical issue, they could be called in on weekends in the middle of the night.

You know, when they're really tired and yeah, it's kind of rude to call an engineer in on the weekend to do a little bit of work to handle an emergency situation, but they don't just say, Hey, that's a little bit rude.

And that's why they're not necessarily asking for respect.

Even if you look at the C e o Cze like, say, Elon Musk, for example, there's a lot of people who respect him, but there's tons of people who disrespect him, and you'll find that that's his job.

His job is to manage that disrespect, to go in and to deal with lots of different people and different opinions, and to build consensus like my job is sometimes to go in and to deal with people who may not necessarily agree with what I have to say.

Maybe they're even a little bit hostile, a little bit rude in the technical discussions and You know, I just need to get everybody on board at the same time on the certain problem, and build that consensus so that we can move forward.

That part is managing the disrespect that could be happening.

And even if you look at doctors, maybe there's a patient who's in pain and screaming at the doctor to give him help given medicine.

The doctor doesn't just say, well, you weren't respectful to me, so I'm not going to help you.

The doctor's job is to manage a crisis, manage people who are screaming and shouting all over the place and to help that person.

He doesn't just say, you know, forget it, human like you weren't nice to me.

And if you were to look at, you know, janitors, the same rent, like you might literally people or poop somewhere and as somebody to clean that up for you, right and there's no way this can be respectful.

And yet it is the janitor's job he has paid to serve you.

He has paid to take care of this for you.

Now there's no need to necessarily be rude or mean to anybody.

I don't think anybody is being that way necessarily in a relationship where you have a customer who is asking something from you and you need to serve that customer, the customer may sometimes be in a hurry.

Maybe in some emergency thing may have certain needs may just simply not being the good mood on that certain day.

Your job generally should be to support that person.

Everyone is supporting somebody my job, maybe to support all the users of a nap.

The cooking job is also playing support there, supporting a different group of people instead of supporting the customers.

They're supporting the employees of a business, and their job should be to ensure that the employees are fed such that they can do their work.

And eventually we all contribute to a company's success, right?

Like if you have a soldier, the soldier does the fighting, which wins the battle and wins the war.

But the soldier also needs a bunch of support.

The soldier needs communications operations.

After is a cook, then the cooks primary job is to make sure that every soldier is fed and ready to go battle.

And so in this situation, I imagine myself as like a soldier, and I'm here to do my best work, to try to support the company, and then we have a cook.

The cook's mission should be to support me, to make sure that I'm fed, ready to go, ready to go out and do my best work.

What's the point in saying, Well, the food's there is all ready to go.

We're just not going to let people start eating it simply because we're going to make a rule that, um, you know, we just don't open until 30 minutes later.

We can get the company to be a little bit more successful, but just that much.

But we're just not gonna do it because, um, you know, that's the rule.

Everyone has their own things to deal with.

But in general, if somebody is only here to do the work, to get paid and to go home that is less respectable than somebody who is therefore a higher goal.

Those people who are here and actually believe in something they make it There go their mission to feed as many people as they can and to make sure that everybody is well fed all of their diet restrictions, allergies, vegetarian restrictions, whatever it is, everything should be taken care of And make sure they're fed and fed as often as they need to be fed.

And everyone this energized, healthy, ready to go if you simply come in and you put in the bare minimum amount of work And you're not really thinking about helping someone more than yourself helping the entire company succeed.

And then you go around asking that people respect you.

But just know that perhaps this was the person who was only respecting themselves.

You know, if they ever wanted to attain a higher level of respect than what they currently have, then they will up their game and bring themselves up.

If you know your mission and you know you're a go, then you will be able to better understand what you're trying to do.

Why you want respect from certain people and who from who you may not be asking respect for.

The doctor does not ask for respect from the patient's necessarily, especially those who are in high pain, right?