Name: Coping with school when life is a bit too much [CC]
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Past simple

Last week my wife, Claudia, and I made a video about our very different school journeys:

her’s is a straight path whilst I wobbled around and then fell off the path for a while

and then got back on and then fell off it and… it was a whole thing.

- It was two years later than everyone else and I almost died doing it but I actually

made it through and that’s what matters!

Since I just pretty much summed up my educational background with a ‘hiking in the Lake District’

metaphor you don’t need to have seen that video to get this one but I’ll leave it

linked in the description and in a card above. I asked you for your top tips on making it

through school with a disability and I’ve thrown in some of mine to create this beautiful

list of “it’s hard but you can do it”

I believe in you, screw everyone who doesn’t.

- (these tips are school based but let me know if you want me to make a related university

slash college video because that’s obviously quite a different experience!)

Make sure you keep watching until the end to get all of the important tips and remember

if you’re new here to subscribe for more helpful videos with a smile.

Rather than building to it, I’m going to start with the number one most important tip:

Be open about your conditions and accept that you need help!

I know, it sounds simple and it’s actually really difficult to put into practice but

it’s vitally important. The most important thing in your life is maintaining yourself

The second most important thing is your education.

Far, far down on that list of importance is what idiotic teenagers you’ll never even see again after

you leave school think of you. If they want to think badly of you for using a wheelchair

then they’re clearly uneducated idiots who do not deserve your time of day or space in

You can’t get the most out of your education if you’re worried about social things.

I lost most of my friends when I became ill/disabled and I wasted a lot of hours on

those people that I could have spent broadening my mind or… sleeping or… watching Friends

reruns. People who let you down deserve less space in your brain than an episode of whatever

tv show you’re watching for the fifth time.

- Shut it down. Put yourself first! Accept the help.

Your school is legally obliged to educate you.

illness. If a doctor says you’re too ill to go to school then the local authority must

make provisions for your education. They might say they don’t but just drop in ‘should

I consult a lawyer about this?’ every so often and you’ll find they become remarkably

My mother loves to tell the story of how the head of my local education authority came

to a meeting at my school at the end of the working day and was really upetty and annoying

about me essentially ‘skiving school’, even loudly asking “Well is Jessica even

going to join us for this meeting?!”... to which she pointed out that I WAS that pile

of coats he’d stepped over to get a chair.

There should be a form of student support at your school and you can ask them to do

things like write to all of your teachers, exempting you from punishment for being late

or absent. Be upfront about what you’re going through and

- “Do I need to consult a lawyer?”  [suspense sfx]

If there isn’t a formal student support then find an ally- likely your favourite teacher.

Open up about what you’re going through and people will often bend over backwards

to help. I loved my Classical Civilisations teacher and she was such a sweetheart that

she came to my house in her own time to help me catch up on all of the classes I had missed.

(also really made me aware how much time was wasted by other people messing around

in class as we would cover four hours of lessons in one hour)

- I feel like these points are all really similar: communication is key!

On a slightly different topic: never be ashamed about how long it takes you to do something

or get to where you want to be. A Levels are meant to take two years but they took me four.

My university course was meant to take three years but it took me five.

Humans are complex beings and you’ll be amazed as you grow older how many people you’ll

meet who also have lives that have gone on some winding paths with a lot of twists and

turns. Try not to internalise ‘hustle culture’ that says you have to be constantly striving

to be the best and going to school whilst also doing extra curriculars and being your

own boss and making money on the side and constantly socialising and making your own

clothes and saving the world and always making the most ethical decisions at all times!

Honestly, the internet is a very busy place.

Don’t overstretch yourself by taking too many classes. Be aware of your limitations

If you can only study for 20 minute periods before needing a break then that’s what

you’re going to do! The school can just work around you. Screw them!

- I feel like I’m saying that a lot in this video, I’m just very passionate about education

It might be helpful for you to find a Facebook group or online board with young people who

are also struggling to get through school- maybe even a real life group of people! They

don’t need to be going through exactly the same things as you though.

When I became ill and lost the aforementioned friends I actually made friends with other

people who weren’t necessarily ill but had ‘stuff’ going on- maybe they have an ill

parent, a disabled sibling, they’ve lost someone close to them or they’ve had some

big life experiences (moving countries for example).

real life is much bigger than just school life. They make a great support system.

Actually, you know I said earlier that education is more important than your social life? Well

if you only have a little bit of energy and using that on socialising is going to get

you through to the next day, then you do that. Do what works for you. We’re all different.

If you want to push yourself to do something then don’t let me stop you, don’t let

anyone stop you. It’s your energy to do with what you want.

Related: It’s okay if you need to stop. If you need to drop out entirely even.u

You can come back. It doesn’t mean you’re lazy or say anything about your character.

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