Name: Every Step of My 8 Year Journey With Infertility and Surrogacy | Glamour
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My name is Candace, and at 27 my husband and I were trying to conceive.

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In 1999 I was a sophomore college, and I was diagnosed with graves disease.

Hey, you might have some issues with the fertility.

As a college student, it's not something that you really pay attention to.

I worked in a restaurant industry tryingto make ends meet and get us through college.

I think it was about a year into us being married.

Hey was diagnosed with a brain tumor and kind of our whole world stopped When I walked into the room and I saw my husband on and I see you, he looked up and he reached for my hand.

But at that moment I knew that life was really short.

And as a young couple, you never know what tomorrow is gonna bring.

And I didn't know that tomorrow we wanted Children.

And so that kind of put us on the faster path to want to try to conceive.

And so we did what anybody else any any other couple would do.

We, you know, brought in some of our slow jam CD's brought in some line and, you know, stop the birth control and we waited and we waited, waited and we waited and we tried.

And then it really started to just not become enjoyable anymore.

And it was all about when I'm opulent ing again.

It was crying because my trash can was filling up with nothing but a population kits in pregnancy tests that were negative.

We're spending in ungodly amount of money on just ovulation kits.

After you are ovulating, we were trying to conceive naturally.

Try unprotected sex for at least one year.

I went to the Giants and we've been trying to conceive for a year.

I think we did about two or three rounds of climate right out the gate and then after that that wasn't responding to it.

And then she started with an I U I Protocol, which is intruder insemination.

It is basically, they take the male sperm, they separate the semen from the actual sperm, and then they injected into the woman's uterus.

Pass the cervix into exactly where it needs to go When you start in II treatment.

That two week wait would start starting from the time that you've had your procedure to win, you can actually test.

If you see your two week wait on the 18th that's when you test.

That time is so incredibly hard because it's a roller coaster of hope and disappointment.

When it came to my husband, he had a referral.

Thio urologist come to find out he also had a very low sperm count.

Did it another time with more medications.

Now that failed and we ended up doing six.

Um, I you guys all ended up in failure, all with my O b g y n when I probably should have been going to a fertility specialist at the time.

Hey, I think this is a good time to stop.

We need to move forward with more aggressive treatment.

We need to send you to a fertility clinic, and you need to see what's called an Ari I, which is a reproductive endocrinologist.

Everything that I had done at our O B g y n was pretty much scrapped, he said.

You know, we're going to start over again because I need fresh eyes on this.

They were checking for Peyton, see in my tubes with the history of Champagne.

What they dio with an H S G is they actually shoot dye into your fallopian tubes to see if they're blocked.

Comes to find out we were given a 5% chance, have been able to conceive naturally on her own, and that's not a really good percentage.

The next approach, our fertility doctor at the time said, Okay, we need to kind of move forward with IVF, which is in vitro fertilization.

And what they're doing is they're trying to make your body produces many egg follicles as possible so that they can have the best chances at fertilizing as many eggs as they possibly can.

They picked the best of his boys the best of my eggs, and they injected the sperm in each one.

So you start ramping up your medication protocol, you start taking start taking.

These wonderful estrogen patch is usually you wrap up with, like one, and then you all of a sudden have like three or four on your abdomen, and that's that's a lot of estrogen.

Then you take vaginal estrogen called s trees.

Then you take other medications, which are injectables rejected them into your stomach daily.

I think at one point I had up to about 4 to 5 shots a day.

You have to take these shots at a specific time every day and so there were times when we're at a wedding and I we have to sneak off into a back room and he asked, Give me a shot.

So my husband is a lot like me, and we like to try to find ways to make, you know, just turn a situation positive.

And so every single round that we did, we, um we would put a bead one for each shot that we did through IVF.

Our whole life revolved around shots in a calendar and nothing else mattered.

We would pay anywhere from 3 to $5000 just on medications, and that's no insurance.

And then you go into the actual IVF round in that averages anywhere from 10 to 15,000.

So, September 2010 we had our first IVF treatment.

It's supposed to work all this money, thousands and thousands of dollars that we just spit.

This is going to work two weeks later, and a lot of tests we get a phone call.

Come back when in when you're ready and we'll talk about, you know, next steps.

We knew that there was a probability that the first IVF wouldn't work.

Kind of knew that it may take a couple of rounds, but we did have a lot of hope thinking that it was gonna work for us.

And when it didn't work, it was crushing.

Our fertility specialist said, You know it, we're gonna We're gonna look around.

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