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  • Good morning. It's Melody Brooke, again. What is forgiveness? You know a lot of the faiths

  • that we have tell us to embrace forgiveness. But what is forgiveness? Forgiveness is about

  • letting go of the anger and resentment we feel inside toward someone else. Its not about

  • saying what they did is okay. Because, often times it's not. I've certainly had to forgive

  • people in my life that did things that were unforgivable I had to forgive them because

  • to forgive them meant letting go of something that was tearing me up. and it wasn't doing

  • any harm to them it was just tearing me up. So I was finally able to let go and forgive.

  • in order to Moving into forgiveness its important to recognize that without letting go of the

  • anger first, its impossible to truly forgive. So you have to find a way to release the anger

  • if you want to truly forgive. I used to have an anger room in my office and I recently

  • discovered there is a place in Dallas called The Anger room where you can go and break

  • things up, I'm not big on breaking things up, but I like that idea, the idea of releasing

  • that anger in a safe way. I used to have a punching bag in my room where you could punch

  • it or kick it, and a wall where you could throw clay balls against it and you could

  • scream and holler and let all that stuff out. Once you've released the anger, then, and

  • only then, can you truly forgive. And I want to talk about that in the context of relationship.

  • Because the reality is that to stay married to somebody, in order to stay with someone,

  • you have to maintain that commitment, you have to continually forgive. you have to continually

  • let go of things you might not really want to let go of, and you but don't forget, but

  • you do forgive, you don't keep holding on to that resentment. If you are continuing

  • to hold on to that resentment you have to find a way to get that anger out in a way

  • that doesn't destroy your partner so that you can continue to stay connected.

  • So that's my tip for today. My book is called Oh Wow This changes everything and its available

  • on audible and kindle. Talk to you later! Oh, you can find out more about me at melodybrooke.com

Good morning. It's Melody Brooke, again. What is forgiveness? You know a lot of the faiths

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