Who here has ever felt they didn't belong somewhere?

Raise your hands.

Well, this really is quite common.

And most of us have felt that way sometime before.

And as everything in our modern day lives, examples of this have looked into the Internet, and pictures like this one are very.

Is it terrifying?

But something that may slide off the radar and look at this picture is the cause of the normal girls this person used and why it would appear interesting for them to distance themselves from it.

So to look into what does it mean to be a normal girl, we first have to look into What does it mean to be a girl while I'm back in the 19 fifties?

This question.

Have a very direct answer, complete with a list of things every girl should attention and the seven kids add.

This guy's completely impressed.

Help Perfect.

This woman is just before he sees the her skirt is ensuing, which follows him a fencing her through.

This all the reasons why she's perfect.

Just buy.

Some decides she can cook.

Chicken says she can sing, and above it all she's smart.

Who could top that?

But then came second wave feminism different from the 1st 1 that across the civil rights, legal equality this way focused more on a change of the culture approach to manhood.

They wanted to question what it meant to be or to become a woman.

And to do that, they neglected her wants all traditional femininity with his radical way, this classic feminist.

Creating their conservative, patriarchal society, a new type of women closely associated with traditionally masculine traits.

They reflected the changes feminists wanted for the whole society.

So instead of changing the way society sell women, the movement ended up creating this different section of women that was radically different to what the ideal girls will be and with the rest of counterculture.

All through the sixties, seventies, eighties and nineties, this category not only applied to women that became important their fuels and start to win awards and became important for the whole world, but also with women that I'd like to femininity in the bunk and rock movements.

Yes, and over time, as most things do, examples of this migrating to Children's culture and if you were open, the 2002.

Probably familiar with characters like Jade, from Victoria's Sam from iCarly and Jen is from Ming Girls.

And if you're a bit younger or very into Children shows, you know characters like Go Go from Big Hero six.

They came out of 1000 14 and jail breaker from the emoji movie that came out as soon as 2017.

All these characters fit the stereotype that we're going to describe later and are often encounter positions.

Two characters like this, this R and I'll try to do this quickly, Carly for my currently toward from Victoria's Sugar Lemon from Big Hero six.

Gretchen from Ming Girls and Zoe from Zoey 101 But what's the problem with that?

The problems that all these characters here they're cute, awkward, don't dump ish and shy while appropriating all traditionally feminine things such as dresses, bank delicacy, et cetera.

Under your hand.

We have these characters that are fierce, powerful, intelligent, brave, while appropriating this election femininity that began in the 19 sixties.

They don't wear dresses, they're always in trousers.

They don't wear pink.

They're always in black and have a more careless attitude in the excellent distance themselves from women and say that they're not like other girls.

What was the problem with that?

Uh, girls grow up to be like this.

Imagine a little girl and all their role models, and your TV shows present you to bath.

We should follow.

It can.

It's just this side and be girly and Denk Lee and play around with other girls and put your hair up and go to parties and dance, etcetera.

But you can be very smart because that's not girly.

You can't play around with boys because that's also on a girl.

You can just sports because guess what?

And, God forbid, you're in kind of nervous.

Seven years.

It should be.

So they say.

Actually, no, I'm not interested in that.

I want to play around.

I want to be smart, to be fierce, and I have is many manners but also should be taken seriously.

I want to be like Jane is like Jade.

I go go like Sam.

There's Marjorie, fears or powerful.

If they can do it, why can't I?

Well, then you need to neglect no girlie things as they do.

You need to not show any emotions ever you can wear dresses because that's girl you can put on makeup because that's also girly.

And this girl's grew up to be like this girl's grew up with his examples and they grew up to say things like this.

And girls think that my dreams, this totally mundane thinks they're failing under role is a girl there for the first phrase, and I think it's clear to you the problem this creates if it is not.

Oh, explain This stance perpetuates a misogynistic view off women of you that says femininity and intelligence don't fit together of you, the beaches, girls against one another in order to fight for intention of you that your forces a system that oppresses men and women every day and most importantly of you, the fires hatred for all feminine things.

None of these girls are truly free.

But girls either side for the Nietzsche fit into a pattern to censor themselves in order to be part of something.

And these alternative girls are supporting and reinforcing a system that oppresses women every day because that has been presented to them as the only way off not suffering this oppression.

But I'm not here to poke my finger and laugh of this young women, as many people in the Internet have already done, even because I myself was like this for a very long time as a kid, those characters were my role models.

So I became a preteen that will recite Jug, has speech from Riverdale by heart and think that that was the true me.

That was weird, that I was a weirdo, that I couldn't fit in.

And I didn't want to fit in because that may be better than all the rest.

Because I saw all those influences around me saying, Girls are shallow, girls are weak ghost and your math There's only think about boys, et cetera.

Instead of saying that those were wrong.

I enjoyed this people and said True, but I am the only exception I was.

So that's performer Voice should be heard.

But I did not see an issue and pushing all other of my gender doll.

I suppressed my feelings for so long because I thought being emotional was girly under four bad, and I thought being thoughtful and delicate benefit me at all because, you know, I'm not really girl.

You're talking out with girls.

I'm just, like, more boyish.

And I'd like to do math and to read, which are totally thinks girls don't do the worst.

Part of it all is that it worked.

I made so much effort to isolate myself from everyone that again I made it.

I was isolated girls that want to hang out with me because I was annoying and mean to them for no reason.

Boys, no one check out with me because even though they saw me as a cool girl, I was still a girl.

So I surround myself with people that reinforces idea that I was better to everyone by saying things as no girlfriends good enough for you or that the people in my surroundings hadn't reached my level yet.

And I could not go on the whole Rambo of a story about how I was wrong.

But I was obviously wrong.

There's so many incredible people out there, and once you can break through your bubble of prejudices, you find out that the world has so much more to offer that society and all those little divisions and all these little sections are completely artificial.

The world isn't black and white.

But how could that be?

I had always believed that either did one thing.

Our daughter you could be smart without it could be confident without putting other people down.

That had impressed me.

So instead of looking up to these guys, I start to find examples off kind, intelligent and national women cartoons.

Actually, this is my fault.

And Juliet and books.

This is her mind and end of green Gables and films this my Children and special in real life.

These are Angela Davis, Michelle Obama and Malala Yousafzai.

But the list is so much longer I search, understand that things in life weren't excluded.

They're wearing dresses.

They didn't make someone's voice as worth being heard and that liking makeup didn't make anyone shallow and most importantly than the ones simple.

One of the most intelligent, the center of people I know is also the one the lecturer pink and the dreams of having a husband.

The girl that I used to think was completely childless has an emotion intelligence I dream of having.

So why can't girls get examples that breach these things and said, Well, they can and the better part.

The red exists these air the Rome Otto's.

The young women should be trying to replicate these air the people that they should be aspiring to be.

But if you're like me and you grew up in the two thousands or even words to grow up in the nineties or eighties when this stereotypes were even stronger, you, uh why don't we make ourselves examples that these women need to be a better future to make a better future?

Thank you.