Name: The Secret Formula To Find True Belonging | Radha Agrawal
Uploaded: 2020-03-23T05:30:50.000Z
Duration: 4 min 47 s
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what those ingredients that take you from community to true belonging.

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And so that's so That's so I talk about dose, but quite a bit in my book and not to get too scientific.

But we have these four happy brain chemicals, right?

Dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin and endorphins.

And I love that abbreviation, by the way, makes it so easy to remember does and the fact that no one has put that together because it's like that, Because does you think of medicine and drugs?

We could actually train your brain to release your natural dose of dopamine oxytocin, serotonin, endorphins if you actually have intention right to create experience that inspire that release.

So in other words, a day breaker, we actually designed our experiences to release your goes.

And I don't mean you get from Pleasure Award of waking up early in the morning.

Oh my gosh, I'm waking up at 4 a.m. It's dark outside.

I'm going to dance in the morning before going to work.

Were so people physically starved for affection Americans with number one porn viewer in the world.

And yet we A famous study showed that Americans touch it upwards of once in a conversation compared to Mexicans who touched each other upwards of 180 times with conversation.

So So we're physically we're replacing our need for touch with sex and pornography, right?

So oxytocin that daybreak were very, very focused on really connecting human form in American culture, there's this starvation for touch because we live in a religious world is a religious country where it's still it's still so forbidden and versus European culture where it's like free love and you know, so this country is still very pious, you know, So on because of it, way we are hiding still, you know, around around eso we replace on dso so in true communities does that save space that allows save people to get each other hugs.

And we're also very litigious in this country too.

So it literally I saw on the news the other day on employer just went like this to his employees, like, you know, like you'll get through it And she sued him for touching his leg and he had to end.

His whole career is down the tree down the drain, just just for touching her leg like that.

So we live in a deeply litigious world where everyone's afraid to touch each other.

We've had long discussions about this from different communities who had stepped out with sexual trauma, and they came to me and they said, Hey, here's how I want to be hugged at the door A breaker If you know right now, when someone hugs me and goes to hug me and say No, thank you Don't want a hug.

It's incentive feeling really sad and showing that which makes me feel bad.

They can just high five me and say Good job like way to know what you need, your boundaries, you know, stuff like that, right?

So just thinking about those little kind of know that's a really good idea.

I think we need to look into the mind Valley community.

And then when you come in, you were hugging.

Yeah, instead of because I used to be somebody want a hug for me, I'd be like, Oh, man, like, why not?

So serotonin is being released when you feel a sense of worth and a sense of gratitude and a sense of sort of this is bigger than me, right?

The serotonin dump you get from like, Whoa, I'm before in this idea that we're all one that we're all community, we all in community together, right?

And and our emcees we train across the world to tell our community members Hey, we're always together, you know, like way have so many different sort of one liners that we train our community.

Our emcees love how deliberate and scientific you are about.

Yeah, and it's important because people leave and they're like, Wow, it just feels so good in the final.

 And then the door friends, of course, you get from Runner's High, that workout sweating from dancing, dancing you're burning up four, 500. 