Name: SPILLING MORE TEA! | Lydia Elise Millen
Uploaded: 2020-03-20T00:22:50.000Z
Duration: 25 min 41 s
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Hi, everyone, and welcome back to my channel on Welcome back to another video In today's video, I kind of wanted to do the same kind of thing I did a couple of weeks ago on dhe.

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I answered a number of the questions that I felt that maybe I'd avoided on DDE.

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Not really shed much light on and just kind of hoping gave you a bit more of an insight into me as a person on dhe things in the past, things in the present on dhe.

I actually really enjoyed that video, and I enjoyed filming it, and at the end of it was that she had that felt like therapy on.

Even when I watched it back, I Aiken ready.

I enjoyed it, and it seems like a lot of you did as well.

I think there was one comment that that I usually give you a hard time.

I liked you in this, and I was like So I thought that there's got to be more questions that I probably didn't get around answering in that because I enjoy filming it so much, I thought that I would do another one.

Hopefully, it's not gonna be as long winded that one, because that basically did include my entire life story.

Almost so I hopefully we'll have this one down a little bit.

But I have a couple of questions, probably about five, that I thought that I would go through with you now.

So here we are with my second spilling the tea on myself video.

Let me know in the comments on what you thought.

And also, if you have any questions that you feel like I haven't answered before, then please don't hesitate in the comments because it's always good for me.

Looking back at stuff like this, I'm able to be, like, okay that I could maybe answer in another video so good.

So without further ado, let's get into the first question.

So the first question is, how do you deal with the criticism on negativity on?

I feel like I've answered before, but I maybe haven't answered in the way that I should answer.

What I enjoyed about that video I feel before was that I was just honest, and I just answered in the only way I knew how to.

When I must ask this question about negativity and correct criticism, I often feel quite defensive on dhe.

I often feel like I have to keep up a front on, make it seem like it doesn't hurt me and make it seem like, you know, it doesn't affect me on DDE.

Um, I've had some time over the last few weeks and months to reflect on the things that have happened with me being on the Internet.

From when I spoke about needing a photographer on trips to the hush pajama event on dhe, I have kind of I realize that I don't need to put up a front with those with the way that I feel about negativity anymore on how I deal with it, To be perfectly honest with you, I didn't deal with it.

I had some really, really horrible times with it on DDE.

I I would act like online that I wasn't having those times on.

I thought that this was a really good question to give you some insight into how the difficult times that I've had the played out means that have affected me.

So if we go way back Thio when I tweeted about how brand sometimes invite me away on trips and want me to create the same content.

But I can't take a person with me I received.

I received four days off constant trolling.

That's a word I use is not trolling opinions.

I received a received four days of opinions on the topic from other creators in the industry, some of them laced with Well, I felt to be unnecessary, like animosity towards me in it.

It was difficult because when I tweeted that I never felt like, you know, I didn't feel like I was.

I've been speaking to a creative that was on a trip, and she was explaining how upset she was to be in a beautiful place on.

She couldn't capture any content because she was by herself on I felt her.

I felt her on a real level there because I've been in that situation and it is frustrating, especially if that's the kind of online created that you are.

When you create content with someone else, it can be quite difficult.

I mean, since that tweet I have, I did have brands retail to me and say that we actually take what you what you tweeted onboard and it makes perfect sense.

So although I had hard time with it, I am I realized that no, everyone is always gonna take what you're saying in the way that you intend it on a snow is that your intentions are good.

Then I think that that's kind of the main thing from that.

Obviously I had other other times since that.

But I've learned to trust my intentions, Maur than what?

So as long as I meant well, then I think that that's kind of the main point in terms of what happens online.

I know that there are obviously forums and there are people that kind of spill out of those forms onto my home.

On the Internet, I saw tatty mention, Actually, this is my home and that was that Tonight's wave had to describe it in the sense that it's her home.

And you know she's inviting you into her home on its no okay for people to be unnecessarily abusive.

Now I'm the first person to say that abuses subjective, I think, like I mean, it's a difficult subject, isn't it?

You might not think that swearing and calling someone names and things like that you might not see that is abusive because that might be your normality.

But for someone like me, that's quite a difficult thing to take.

So when comments are friend as constructive but have underlying tones off spite, that right was probably the right way to use.

Despite on dhe, Narcisse is quite difficult to take the constructive criticism from that because it's really hard to take a constructive criticism that feels like a personal attack.

So if I was going to constructively criticize someone, so say with my videos, I've been struggling with the sound and all those behind the scenes.

Not a lot of people want to tell me what a good microphone is not have looked, but it's, um I would probably say someone I love your videos because I'm evidently watching them.

However, it might be an idea to look a sound because it was quite difficult to watch that video because the sound was really bad.

Maybe that would be my kind of constructive criticism approach.

I don't necessary, you know, because this is who I am and I'm putting myself on the Internet.

I can't necessarily take constructive criticism against the person I am because that is who I am on DDE.

I'm quite fond of who I am is a great qualities.

So taking negativity criticism is quite difficult because we don't ask for it on Dhe.

It's not something that it was never as bad as it is now.

I think I've seen a lot of creators speaking about this.

I felt like I was quite alone for a while, and then I felt like I was like the most hated um, you TBA because I received so much negativity.

But I think it's it's kind of spreading now, and I see a lot of people speaking about a lot of people struggling on Dhe.

When I was drugged me with it, I was really nothing tohave Thio really big, created his kind of give me a little bit of insight and understanding and a little bit of a few tips on it.

She was just she just sit into Deanna's and she was like, This is what's happening it This is why it's happening.

And this is kind of how you can digested a little bit better.

And then I had another U K created that basically explained to me that is normal, to feel the need to have someone help you work through being online on DDE.

So now whenever I see someone else speaking online about their struggles on the Internet with the criticism in the negativity, I slide into that diems on.

I tried to offer them my experiences on my advice on dhe just to know that they're not alone, because the hardest thing for me was feeling like I was the most hated person on the Internet on DDE, that I was the only one that was going through it.

So I tried to make sure that no matter what, no one feels like that So, Yeah, that's my little rumbly kind of take on criticism and negativity, but I know I feel like I need to put up a front on that like it doesn't bother me.

I am able to acknowledge what is a constructive comment on what isn't a constructive comment on anything that just, I just feel is an attack on me is basically no allowed in my space anymore.

It's not for you to tell me what isn't is or isn't constructive.

If you're worried about your comment being taken that way, possibly read, read it a couple of times.

And I think if it was said to you on, then it might be able t o help you get your point across in a backs away.

I saw Lily Pebbles say something on Twitter the other days that you shouldn't have to know what someone is going through.

You should just be kind to people, no matter what.

To be honest, I really took that onboard.

So yeah, that's my approach now, so I'm know I'm done pretending like the negativity doesn't affect me because it has done.

But I'm now in a space where I'm able to kind of see it what it is on DDE.

It doesn't hurt me as much when I read nasty comments about myself, sometimes I can have a laugh and a joke about it and not take it as that's who I am because I think that's what I was doing.

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