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What do you want me to show you? In your hands, in your hands, there's something. Where is it?
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I haven't got anything. Just do it. Stop it. Will... What?
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Don't cower like that, like you're scared.
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Where did you put it? Where is it?
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Do you want a smack again?
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Is that what you want? Is that what you want, Will?
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No, just... Do you want a smack?
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Lots of us would worry if we saw a man abusing
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a woman on the street, some of us might even intervene.
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However, what if the tables were turned
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and there was a woman abusing a man?
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So, this is Will.
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We're going to test this out in public
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and Will is going to start by being the aggressor,
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and he's going to verbally and physically intimidate me.
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Are you ready for this? I think so.
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Just show me!
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Just do that.
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Hey! Will...
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Are you all right? Thank you.
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She's fine, we just...
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Well, she's clearly not fine. Are you OK? Do you need any help?
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Yeah, thank you so much.
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So why did people react in the way they did?'
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I was shocked - I couldn't believe this was happening in the middle of Ealing Broadway,
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so I walked past her the one time and she flinched and I thought...
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..like, is this really happening? I carried on walking
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then I looked back at her and she must have flinched again I thought,
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No, I can't... "I can't walk away from this.
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Just pick it up and just hand over.
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You OK there? Is everything OK?
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I'm good. Thanks for helping me.
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She was flinching...
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And looked scared. It looked quite abusive.
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I don't have anything.
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Do it, come on. Stop it!
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Come on, just get in there and get it.
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Sorry, but don't put your hands on a woman.
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We're just having an argument, that's all.
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Will shouted at Eline for 1.5 hours. 7 people stopped to help.
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Are you OK? I know I'm interrupting, but I'm just saying, are you OK?
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The way it looked, it looked like she was expecting to get hit.
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So, that's where you've sort of... got to jump in, really.
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Her body language was so very obviously uncomfortable
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that I couldn't walk past without... saying something.
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Tell me!
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But then...we switched roles.
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Give it to me. I don't know where it is. Argh!
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This woman looks back, but keeps walking.
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I was surprised, I thought it was a bit aggressive....
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I wanted to say something, but then I was just like... No.
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Look at me. Stop! OK, all right. Don't hit, all right?
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What are you doing? OK...
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My thought was...
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he looks a bit soft.
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I feel bad thinking that, because it's a macho view,
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but I thought he looks a bit soft, letting her hit him like that.
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And I had the classic thing go through my head,
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I wouldn't let a girl hit me, and that's terrible, because...
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why do I think that?
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That's a kind of stereotypical view.
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I don't know what he's done to upset her,
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he might have said something really, really personal, upsetting.
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A mum and her daughters approach.
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Look at me! Look me in the FACE!
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And walked straight past.
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The thought did come to my mind
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to go and say, "What are you doing to him?
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Leave him alone.
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So, I thought that the man...
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I think the man done something to the woman, like, I don't know,
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touched her or something.
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That's why she got mad.
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And that's why... Yeah, that's why she got mad.
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So you think it could have been his fault? Yeah, that's what I thought.
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Eline shouted at Will for 1.5 hours. This time only 1 person stopped.
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Look, I... Do you want a smack? No! Do you want a smack, Will?
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What is it? Where is it?
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If he had been shouting at her,
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would you have stopped?
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Yes, I would have. I would have stopped.
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Unfortunately,
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we do have this kind of stereotype
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that a woman has less power than a man,
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but I've also unfortunately had friends who have been in...
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the reverse, physically abusive relationships,
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so it can happen both ways.
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They didn't class it as that, but they have been hit
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in argument situations, which is exactly the same thing, but he used
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to think it was OK because he was a big, strong guy, it didn't hurt him.
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But it's still physical. He was very embarrassed about it.
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In their lifetime, one in six men will suffer from domestic abuse.
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The number of women convicted of domestic abuse went up
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nearly four times between 2006 and 2016.