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I am an introvert and I love it.
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And I'm not alone.
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Introverts are everywhere, and our quiet approach to life, our need for solitary time, isn't a flaw, it's a gift.
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But as an introvert, it's not always easy to realize how wonderful you are.
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The world feels like a place that rewards extroverts.
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Where being loud is mistaken for being confident and happy.
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Where everyone has something to say, but nobody listens.
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A world of open-plan offices, networking parties, and big personalities.
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For those who speak softly, it's easy to feel left out.
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As a child, I blended into the background.
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Many thought that I had little to say or that I simply didn't like others.
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But that wasn't true.
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People often think that introverts are shy, or antisocial.
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But these are misconceptions.
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Introverts, like anyone, can find socialising fun.
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But while parties leave extroverts energized, after some time, introverts need to recharge, away from everyone.
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There is a scientific theory for this.
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There are two important chemicals found in all our brains—dopamine and acetylcholine.
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Dopamine is like a hit of energy when we take risks or meet new people and it makes extroverts feel great.
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But introverts are more sensitive to dopamine and get quickly overstimulated.
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That's why we prefer the more slow-burn feeling we get when our brains release acetylcholine.
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That happens when we concentrate, read, or focus our minds.
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It makes us introverts feel relaxed, alert and content.
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But it barely registers with extroverts.
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Of course, like anything, it's a sliding scale.
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You can lean one way or another or be a bit of both, known as an ambivert.
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Now I understand myself better, I am deeply grateful for how I am.
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Instead of filling up space with small talk, I listen patiently and make my words matter.
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I have few friends but our connection is deep.
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I love spending time alone.
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It's where the chaos of a long day can finally settle.
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I can reflect and listen to my thoughts, and eventually reconnect with myself.
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Only after that am I ready to share with the world again.
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I have learnt strategies for finding comfort in our noisy world, from using music to create bubbles of peace, to escaping to a quiet park at lunchtime.
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I adore the intensity and chaotic beauty of the world.
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But it's in quiet spaces where I feel truly at home.
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If introversion were more valued by society, it could make a massive difference to our collective future.
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The unique attributes of introverts really are a deep, quiet strength.
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And as Gandhi put it, "In a gentle way, you can shake the world."
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