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Translator: Tanya Cushman Reviewer: Peter van de Ven
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As a social-work educator and former practitioner,
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I'm interested in building and maintaining
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the emotional and mental capacity
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of those who do the hard work of helping others.
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Take, for instance, a day in the life of a social worker.
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I'll call her Kerry.
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A typical day for Kerry may start like this.
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In the morning, she checks her emails,
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and she's quickly interrupted
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because a client is in need of emergency shelter.
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She handles the client situation
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and begins the application process
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for a grant that will fund more beds for her agency.
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More beds means more veterans off the streets,
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more single moms and their children in a safe place to stay for the night.
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By midafternoon, she transitions and settles into group therapy,
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where she hears the emotional content and the stories of trauma and abuse
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of the women, who survived domestic violence.
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She offers the skills and interventions of a social worker,
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and she provides comfort and empowerment to the women
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in order to get them back up on their feet again.
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By the end of the day,
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she has seen many clients,
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she has heard many stories,
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and she's spent.
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She's emptied of herself.
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She's given over her skills and interventions,
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time and resources,
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the best that she could give.
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It's a busy day. It's stressful.
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And many days are like this for Kerry
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and for social workers in general.
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In fact, social workers suffer from burnout quite often.
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And though I realize that not all of you are social workers -
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and I can't fathom why -
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(Laughter)
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but you often, probably,
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experience intense periods of stress in your own life as well.
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So today, I want to talk to you about an ancient practice
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that you can use to further extend your capacity to deal with stress.
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It's called mindfulness.
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Mindfulness, in a short definition,
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is the ability to stay in the present moment.
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In fact, it is the ability to so focus your attention on the present
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that you're able to evaluate your thoughts nonjudgmentally.
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I also want to share with you three reasons why I believe
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mindfulness can extend and build your capacity to take on pressures,
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especially as you do the hard work of helping others.
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It can expand your ability to take on stresses
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in a more healthy way.
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I came into mindfulness practice
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because I experienced an intense period of stress in my life.
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I did not like the way I felt when I had this stress,
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I did not like the way I sounded to others,
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and I didn't like the way I reacted.
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Mindfulness gave me the tools to be able to calm and be present
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and be able to evaluate
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how I was acting, how I was feeling, how I was thinking.
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Take, for instance, this picture.
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It is a blurry something.
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This is how we feel when we 're under a lot of stress:
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a blurry mess.
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Our thoughts jump from thought to thought,
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and we're out of focus.
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Our life feels chaotic and unclear.
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What mindfulness does
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is it helps us to step out and zoom out of that blurry mess.
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Our life becomes more focused.
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Our thoughts start to come together.
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We're able to form a picture of our lives more clearly again.
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The first reason why mindfulness can extend and build your capacity
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to be able to help others,
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taking on their stress,
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is because it helps us experience our stress differently.
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Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn is a researcher from Massachusetts,
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and he was the first
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to westernize and secularize the practice of mindfulness,
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as it comes originally from Buddhist religious thought.
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Over eight weeks,
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he had patients who dealt with chronic pain due to medical conditions
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practice mindfulness.
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And after the eight weeks,
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these patients reported a decrease in pain
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and a decrease in intensity of that chronicity of pain;
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that pain, in general, was not so front and center anymore.
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Now, nothing changed in their medical condition,
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but their experience of pain did.
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In this ongoing study I'm a part of,
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I have created a six-week program
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that draws from Christian-based mindfulness practices.
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I've asked these students to listen to these modules that I've created,
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on their cellphones or their laptops,
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and report their levels of stress before and after this mindfulness program.
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They reported lower levels of stress
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as well as increased levels of mindfulness state.
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Their thoughts were more centered and focused
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as a result of the mindfulness practice.
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Mindfulness allows us to experience our stress differently.
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Things do not change.
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These students' lives were still impacted
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by the academic pressures and their personal lives,
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but yet their experience of pain differed.
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This leads me to my second reason
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why mindfulness can help you deal with stress:
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it helps you make better decisions.
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When we're assaulted with big situations
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where we need to carry the responsibilities of crises
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or we need to just simply make a step in the right direction,
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mindfulness can clarify our thoughts.
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Instead of a jumbled mess,
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we can prioritize our values,
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we can integrate whole parts of ourselves
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and act in a way that is congruent with who we are.
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Congressman Tim Ryan from Ohio understands this very well.
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As a policy maker,
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he understands good policy requires a sharp mind and a warm heart.
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And in his work, he actually leads mindfulness practices on Capitol Hill.
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Now just take a second and imagine that for a moment:
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Republicans and Democrats in the same room together
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in mindfulness bliss.
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It's a neat picture and so needed in our times.
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Congressman Ryan uses mindfulness,
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and he spoke to Anderson Cooper about this in a 60 Minutes episode
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and said it has helped him prevent himself from burning out,
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that the stress and the pace of policy making is intense,
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and it's given him the ability to reach across the aisle
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and extend a hand to people that he doesn't agree with
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in order to craft good policy,
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anticipating how those policies will play out
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in the day to day lives of people it will affect.
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You see, mindfulness allows us to be more compassionate,
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to, instead of react, be more empathetic;
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instead of be in conflict, be more collaborative;
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instead of be self-centered, we're more self-aware.
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These are the gifts of mindfulness.
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And mindfulness builds compassion for others,
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and as we anticipate the needs of others,
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our decisions are not as focused on reaction,
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but we're able to anticipate how those decisions play out,
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how they help or hinder the healing process
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for society or organization or for relationships.
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So do me a favor
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and do this exercise with me for just a few moments
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so you can experience what I'm talking about.
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Close your eyes
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and take three deep breaths in with me.
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Take your first breath in and fill your lungs to capacity.
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Imagine that this air is very clean and good and pure,
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and allow it to nourish your body,
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and exhale.
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Take your second deep breath in,
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and allow that breath to travel through those tight parts of your body,
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maybe your gut or your shoulders or your neck areas,
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where it's often tight.
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And relax.
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And exhale.
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And on your third breath,
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do the same and assign your breath a color of purity.
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Allow that breath, again, to travel to those tight places,
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soothe those sore spots,
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take in that relaxation.
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Exhale.
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Continue to breathe in this way as I talk to you.
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There's nothing you need to do right now except to breathe.
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There's nothing that is asked of you.
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There's no task to be completed,
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except for you to simply just sit and breathe.
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You can put all the to-do lists away.
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You can let go of the worries of the day.
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Just sit and breathe.
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Thank you. You can open your eyes.
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I hope what this exercise showed you
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is just a little taste
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of what a mindfulness exercise could do for you,
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especially as you confront conflict or big situations
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or organizational places where you need to make big decisions.
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You can take a step back and breathe just for a moment
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and be present
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and be able to then renourish, rejuvenate yourself
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before you confront that situation
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or before you need to make that decision.
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Because what happens in mindfulness, as you sit in awareness,
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is the truth of reality that starts to come to fruition,
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which is this:
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The past cannot be changed.
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The future cannot be forced.
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All we have is the present moment.
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And in that present moment,
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we can make the best decisions we can in order to better the lives of others,
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but it takes some thought
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and it takes some congruence.
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It takes our ability
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to connect with our values and the things that we hold dear.
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So you, hopefully, have experienced
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that breath is a foundation of a mindfulness practice,
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which leads me to the third and final reason
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why mindfulness can extend and expand your ability to take on stress,
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especially as you help others,
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which is mindfulness fosters wellness.
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And what I mean by wellness
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is this ability to cope with stressors in our lives and bounce back.
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In fact, mindfulness is a tool of self-care.
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When we give of ourselves to a cause
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or we provide skills and interventions that will make a change in healing,
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we need to rejuvenate and we need to refresh the wells.
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Mindfulness allows us that space and time
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to refresh, to connect
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and to be able to access all different parts of ourselves.
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In a 2014 study by Shonin, Gordon and Griffiths,
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these researchers
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used a more religiously oriented mindfulness-based practice -
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it was more faithful to its Buddhist roots -
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and these researchers
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asked the participants how they felt after this six-week program.
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One participant said that they felt "cradled in comfort."
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In a study I conducted last year,
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I asked Christian psychotherapists who used mindfulness-based therapies
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questions like,
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How did you feel using this mindfulness-based therapy
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with your client?
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What worked? What didn't work?
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But they responded in a very interesting way,
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and they said
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that they felt a presence of the divine with them in that room
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as they work with their clients.
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In fact, that divine presence assisted them;
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it was a source outside of themselves that helped them in discernment,
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that helped them extend the healing process.
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It helped further the work that they did in healing their clients.
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These therapists understood
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that they could access a part of themselves,
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a spiritual side that was accessed through the practice of mindfulness.
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And when we can use spirituality, our body responds.
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And when our body responds, our mind responds.
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And when our mind responds, our spiritual selves respond again,
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so forth and so on in a virtuous cycle.
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Mindfulness allows us to extend the limits of our human capabilities
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by accessing all parts of ourselves.
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We don't have to compartmentalize those different aspects;
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we can all work in unison to confront a situation
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or to help us determine what the next step is.
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Mindfulness fosters wellness
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because we're caring for ourselves as we care for others.
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We use all spheres of our lives to attack the problem.
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So if you're interested in building a mindfulness practice,
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first start with your breath.