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Lust has a reputation for being the flame we jump into!
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Think of Fifty Shades of Grey or your classic bad boy or bad girl, who's all games in danger with no strings attached.
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But according to leading love expert Dr. Helen Fisher- lust is the essential first stage of love.
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Without the desire of wanting someone first, we cannot experience intimacy.
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So, how do we know if we're still stuck in the initial stage of attraction or ready to transition into something more meaningful and long-lasting?
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Here are 6 Key Differences Between Lust versus Love.
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One, lust is driven by physical connection, but love comes from emotional connection.
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It all comes down to our brain.
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Which areas are being activated when you hang out with your partner?
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Research shows that lust lights up the regions associated with reward and motivation whereas love stimulates the areas that help you empathize.
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Lust happens when you and your partner don't have much to talk about but have great sex.
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This is common for two people who haven't been dating for too long.
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But love on the other hand happens when you appreciate your partner for more than just their looks, and can spend meaningful time with them.
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This is what ultimately forms the start of a deep and serious relationship.
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Two, overtime love grows stronger, whereas lust becomes weaker.
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Psychologist and sex therapist Shannon Chavez states that as attachment and bonding grow over time, so does love.
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But lust is more temporary and fades when sexual desire fades away.
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If a relationship is based solely on lust, there is inevitably no foundation to fall in love with each other.
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Lust feels like an exciting roller coaster, but can only be sustained by physical pleasure.
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When the real work kicks in, the dynamic either transitions into love or the relationship begins to fall apart.
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Three, lust is based on fantasies.
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Love however operates on the ground of reality.
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Have you ever looked back on past relationships and wondered how on earth you two got together?
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I don't know about you, but I sure do.
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Imagination can come in handy when life gets mundane, but more often than not it's like a double-edged sword.
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When you like the idea of someone more than who's actually in front of you, it can cause you to miss a lot of red flags.
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Relationship experts state that there is only so much time before reality sets in, and it makes you realize that your partner has faults just like you.
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And that your expectations were unfair.
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Four, in lust, you are romantic partners, but in love, you're lifelong friends.
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Psychiatrist Judith Orloff discovered that people in lust are just lovers, but true love is built on the foundation of a strong friendship.
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Sure!
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Two people can agree to be in a relationship, go on fun dates, and even meet each other's family.
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But if they lack compromise, communicate poorly, and fail to understand each other.
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The prospect of having a future together is very low.
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Five, lust is all about thrill seeking whereas love is the pursuit of stability.
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Researchers have looked at MRI scans of people in lust, and found that their brains look similar when an addict gets a fix of cocaine.
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Sounds intense, right?
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But that's why infatuation is not likely to last as long as love.
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The drug effects wear off when you can no longer satiate your sexual desires.
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Whereas lust is about instant gratification, love is the relentless search for stability.
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Six, lust is selfish but love comes from a selfless place.
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When you love someone, you focus more on helping them reach their goals and care about their health and well-being.
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Lust, on the other hand, is all about your own wants, like boosting your ego when you're next to your attractive partner or simply fulfilling your sexual desires.
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In order to move from the initial stage of lust to love, you must determine whether you could see yourself doing favors or making sacrifices for your partner.
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Do you think you're in lust or in love?
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We hope that this video helped you differentiate between the two.
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Remember that just because you might only be experiencing lust, doesn't mean that your feelings can't develop into love.
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