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Is there something about you that you're embarrassed to talk about?
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Have you ever had a weird hobby that you've kept a secret?
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Or maybe there is a song or a TV show that you only watch when you're alone, because you don't want your friends to know about it.
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These are all things that would happen to me.
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And it's because I used to care deeply about what other people thought about me.
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But there was one moment in my life, where that feeling of caring just went away forever.
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And I'm gonna tell you about it right now.
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Back when I was living in Melbourne, Australia, I met this really popular YouTuber named Adrian Gee.
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And he would film these crazy YouTube pranks.
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And I remember one day, he asked me to help him film a video.
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And I said, "Sure."
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And he told me the title of the video was going to be "Making Inappropriate Noises In The Library Prank".
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Where he would basically pretend to talk dirty to his girlfriend in a public library.
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And even though I thought the video was silly, stupid and obnoxious, it taught me a really valuable life lesson.
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When he was making all of those noises, people obviously cared at first.
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But after a couple of minutes, people kind of just stopped caring.
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They would go back to reading their book, watching their YouTube video, or back to scrolling through Facebook.
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They would act as if nothing had happened.
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And at first, I was shocked by this.
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I couldn't believe it was happening.
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But after I started learning more about people and about human psychology, it actually started to make more sense.
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The average person is incredibly self-absorbed, and they don't really care about you.
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They are much more concerned with their plans for the weekend, or how many likes their last Instagram picture got.
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They're so wrapped up in their own world;
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That they don't have the mental bandwidth to think about anyone else but themselves for more than five minutes.
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And it's kinda funny, because I think, to some extent, we all kind of know this.
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Yet, we're still hesitant to go and ask out that person who we find attractive.
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Or just talk openly about some weird interests that we might have.
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And, I think, some of you are probably thinking, "Well, Mitch, I don't care about what random people think about me."
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"I care about what my family and my friends think about me."
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And here's my answer to that.
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If you're talking to a friend about a hobby that you're actually passionate about, and they're not open to it.
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Or they, I don't know, want to immediately end the friendship because of it.
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Then they probably weren't really your friend in the first place.
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So it's actually good to get rid of the wrong friends, to make room for the right ones.
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The less you care about what other people think of you, the more people will actually like you.
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It's why we're all so attracted to people who come across as authentic or real, and we're so turned off by fake people.
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And authentic and fake are just fancy words for people who are comfortable and not comfortable expressing who they really are.
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So, even though we consciously know this, it is still hard for us to be ourselves.
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And this is because we're all afraid of our true self getting rejected by the world, which will really hurt our ego.
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So, we would rather keep up our fake public persona.
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I've said this before, but my all-time favorite analogy for how you should live your life, is the songbird.
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Imagine you're walking down the street, and you hear a bird chirping, and you think to yourself, "Wow, this bird sounds amazing.
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"I love this bird."
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But your friend next to you thinks, "God, this bird sounds terrible, I hate this bird."
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That bird does not care about your love or your friend's hate.
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That bird is just gonna keep doing what he does best and sing his song.
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Be like the bird and keep singing your song.
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Not everyone is going to like the way you sound, but the ones who do like you, will like you for you.
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And the connection with those people will be real and meaningful.
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Check out my last video about the one habit that will make you happy and successful, and I'll see you there.