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  • - Hi, we're Joel and Lia.

  • - And today's video is all about U.S.A vs U.K. parenting.

  • - So we're not parents, let's just get that straight--

  • - In the U.K. or U.S.A.

  • - Or the U.S.A.

  • We found this article from The Insider,

  • and we just wanted to discuss it because

  • although we're not parents, there's loads of things

  • about kids and stuff that we can vouch for

  • and say maybe isn't so true.

  • So we just to discuss it and go through with it,

  • and we also are really interested in your opinions

  • which we encourage you to leave in the comments.

  • - Yes, so let's get crackin'.

  • - So the first one is to do with maternity leave,

  • so when a woman has, when a mother has a child,

  • in the U.K., she can expect to get about 52

  • weeks of paid maternity leave.

  • So that means she can go and look after her child at home

  • and still be paid a salary from work.

  • - For a full year to raise the child, over that,

  • well for the first year of their life.

  • - And I believe that the company get paid maternity leave

  • back from the government or at least a percentage

  • of the money that they've spent

  • giving this employee the money to be away.

  • Whereas in the U.S., there's not.

  • - They are not guaranteed a single day

  • of maternity leave, well, like paid maternity leave.

  • - [Together] which is crazy!

  • - And even the U.K. has more maternity leave

  • than the rest of Europe,

  • apparently the rest of Europe has 14 weeks maternity leave,

  • we have like, one of the highest maternity leaves,

  • - which is crazy. - 14 weeks.

  • That's not long, is it?

  • How many months can fit into 14 weeks?

  • - Four, eight, 12, so

  • - [Together] three and a half months

  • - and then that's it.

  • - That's it, you're either not being paid

  • or straight back to work.

  • - It's crazy, I mean, - it is.

  • It's not something I've thought about as a man

  • but now I've seen that in this article, it's crazy.

  • - Yeah that is nuts, isn't it?

  • - So what do Americans do?

  • It says they're not guaranteed

  • a single day of maternity leave,

  • which means some people might get

  • lots of maternity leave,

  • but some people might not get any.

  • - So the second thing that's sort of up for discussion

  • in this article, is that apparently cursing

  • is more common in sort of, like

  • U.K. parenting compared to like U.S. parenting.

  • And I don't know how much I agree with this,

  • I think it completely depends on the family.

  • - Yeah, oh definitely.

  • My parents didn't allow any swearing,

  • and they still don't, even though we're adults.

  • (Lia laughs)

  • Like they don't stand for that at all,

  • but I know that that's maybe more of my family,

  • but I don't know.

  • - Yeah, my godsister's children,

  • so she's like in her thirties,

  • and she accidentally swore, like,

  • in front of the kids, or her husband did,

  • and they were both, like, oh my gosh.

  • And then the child was in the car

  • and then said that word back out loud,

  • and they were both, like, oh my God.

  • - What have we done? - It's mortifying

  • And they're scared that the kid would say that

  • at school or something,

  • so, like, I don't know, I think, Brits maybe

  • just laugh at it a bit more, like that's really funny

  • but also a bit shocking.

  • - Well, I think in general,

  • our attitude to swearing is a lot more relaxed

  • than in the U.S., I know that's the stereotype anyway,

  • don't know if it's definitely true.

  • But I know it's always like,

  • "oh you Brits are so foul mouthed."

  • Like it is something that Brits find swearing funny.

  • Not everyone, my mum doesn't find it funny

  • in the slightest, but most Brits find swearing funny,

  • and they just think it's part of who we are, I guess.

  • - Yeah, as a child, like, I definitely did not swear at all.

  • Like if I was caught swearing, I'd get a slap.

  • But yeah I don't, I can't really remember what age

  • did that became like a okay,

  • she's saying the S word or something.

  • Completely depends on the family, doesn't it?

  • - Yeah, so the next one is the fact

  • that it's not uncommon to find kids in pubs

  • and that is something that, normally pubs are divided.

  • I remember as a kid, you weren't allowed in certain areas,

  • you weren't allowed at the bar,

  • but you were allowed still in the pub.

  • But the weird thing is, Americans don't have pubs,

  • so why is this a thing?

  • - Pubs are so relaxed

  • and pubs are different vibe to a bar.

  • Of course, in America, you wouldn't just

  • take your kid to the bar.

  • But like, in the U.K., our equivalent of that is the pub,

  • and kids are more than welcome there,

  • and it's kid-friendly atmosphere.

  • - Some pubs even have kids' play areas.

  • - Yeah, yeah.

  • - They've got - It's sort of

  • - like a little creche. - it's a family vibe.

  • - I just think it comes down to the

  • whole attitude towards alcohol anyway.

  • So, like, if an American is in the pub

  • or the bar three times a week,

  • then they might be described as an alcoholic.

  • Whereas in the U.K., if someone's at the pub

  • three times a week they might be described as sociable.

  • - Yeah that is true. - You know what I mean?

  • So like the kids are there anyway, you're there,

  • it's, people from your town or people you know

  • from work and it's like, more of a

  • like a family get-together that which so happens

  • to have alcohol involved.

  • - Which, I think, the stereotype is that bars in America

  • maybe are filled with middle age men.

  • Whereas pubs are filled with families.

  • Like, there are some pubs that have that stereotype as well,

  • being filled with middle aged men,

  • but it is more of a family vibe

  • so it wouldn't be weird to bring

  • your child to a pub in the U.K..

  • - It's just not out of the ordinary,

  • like if you walked into a pub and saw families there

  • and children running around, it's,

  • and maybe dogs as well, depends on the pub really,

  • loads of pubs are dog-friendly.

  • - So the next one is about child proofing,

  • not sure if we agree with this one,

  • but then we don't have kids, so not sure.

  • But it says that the U.S. is a lot more intent

  • and safety-conscious when it comes to kids,

  • they child proof their homes like there's no tomorrow

  • 'cause they don't want their child to even get a scratch.

  • Whereas in the U.K., it says they're more relaxed

  • and they see, like, falling over and getting scratched

  • is just being character-building.

  • - In a way, I do know British families

  • that are like say that their kid like

  • falls over or has injured themselves

  • they're just like, well it's just a little scratch.

  • Like or I've heard of stories, like

  • "oh, one time that I fell on my head,

  • "and my mum didn't take me to A and E,

  • "accident and emergency hospital,

  • "'cause she was just, like, yeah, I'll be fine."

  • And which, I thought it was hilarious

  • 'cause my family is complete opposite,

  • like, everything was like,

  • "Ah, what's the matter dear, everything okay?"

  • Like, very much, kind of, like, there'll be things

  • on the corners of stuff so I didn't bang my head,

  • and there'd be baby gates.

  • - I can't even remember anything about my childhood really,

  • I definitely can't remember whether there was

  • - child proofing anywhere. - Child proofing.

  • So next one is about summer holidays or summer vacations.

  • So kids in the U.S. tend to get longer holidays,

  • apparently you guys get, like,

  • 12 weeks holidays in the summer,

  • - What a dream.

  • - but less interspersed the rest of the year.

  • Whereas we get six weeks for holiday,

  • which to us, is, like, amazing,

  • but then we get lots more different holidays

  • throughout the year, like a week here, two weeks there--

  • - Easter holidays, half term, things like that.

  • But when you hear about American summer vacations,

  • and they seem to be off for forever.

  • - ages, yeah.

  • - We're just, like, uh, what you're doing, like,

  • when did they break up, when did they go back to school?

  • Yeah, in the U.K. it's much shorter,

  • but as Joel said, we'd get, like maybe two weeks off

  • at Easter, and also it completely depends on

  • whether the school is public or private.

  • Often private schools get given more holiday, so.

  • So the next one's to do with baby showers,

  • which is a completely, sort of, new thing

  • that's just started coming over here from the U.S.

  • We never used to have baby showers,

  • however, in the last year,

  • I've been invited to three baby showers,

  • - I'm so sorry.

  • - and I've attended two of them

  • and brought presents for all of them.

  • - Must be awful.

  • - It's an extra added expense, so we tend to not do it,

  • it's completely taken from the U.S.

  • So when you have a party before the baby's born.

  • - Well, they know, they're Americans, yeah.

  • - For anyone who doesn't know, it's madness.

  • - Well, it's just, like, we keep doing that

  • with proms, with all these different things

  • that are coming over from the U.S.

  • that we're now adopting as our own,

  • it's just another U.S. import, basically.

  • Black Friday that we now do,

  • and now it's baby showers,

  • but I can't think of anything worse,

  • but luckily it's mainly a female thing.

  • So I probably will never have to go to one.

  • - You won't; I'd invite you to one if I did one,

  • I'd invite you - and I'd turn it down,

  • but no, for you I wouldn't (laughs).

  • - Oh Joel!

  • - No, I wouldn't for your kids, obviously.

  • - Obviously, the godfather couldn't be here today,

  • unfortunately, sorry.

  • - Unfortunately, he couldn't be

  • - [Together] Bothered

  • - He's drinking Prosecco - Prosecco

  • - I'm kidding.

  • Next one is to do with midwives.

  • So, after you've given birth in the U.K.,

  • About 10 days later, your midwife will come to your house,

  • and it's meant to be, to sort of check that you're okay,

  • sort of like with the baby and how things are going.

  • My mom told me, the midwives like to come over,

  • check the house, she's like,

  • yeah, they like to come over, check the house is clean,

  • and in order, and check that you're, you know,

  • that the baby is in an okay state,

  • that you've not brought it back to a sort of

  • chaotic, unclean home. - I didn't know that.

  • - So, this is provided through the NHS.

  • This is a free service.

  • And check out our video in the cards,

  • all about the NHS, which is a free healthcare service

  • which is available to everybody in the U.K.

  • It's not free; the taxpayer, we all pay for it,

  • and we all use it over the course of our lives,

  • whether we see a doctor, dentist,

  • accident and emergency, emergency services.

  • So, yeah, midwives will come to your house,

  • whereas in the U.S., it costs a lot of money to have a baby.

  • It can cost like thousands of pounds,

  • whereas over here, it's just all covered.

  • - So another thing is that childcare

  • is slightly cheaper in the U.S.

  • I've heard from lots of you guys in comments

  • that childcare is still quite expensive where you are,

  • but trust me, it's more expensive in the U.K.

  • I think for that reason.

  • Do people send their kids to nursery a bit more?

  • Like if you had someone in your home