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Now, most people have a pretty good idea of whether they're an introvert or an extravert.
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So, here's an easy question for you: are you an introvert or an extravert?
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Whatever you replied, I'm sure you're right, but there's a little bit more to it.
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Within introversion and extraversion you have a lot more detailed personality traits.
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And understanding more about these can help improve your well-being: particularly if you're introverted.
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In the west, we live in a world designed for extroverted behaviour.
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To get ahead in a typical workplace, for example, you have to survive an open plan office, attend conferences and their networking mixers and do presentations to rooms full of people.
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In her book Quiet, Susan Cain calls this The Extravert Ideal - the belief that the ideal self is gregarious, highly social and comfortable in the spotlight.
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Even studies have found that extroverted people land more frequently in leadership positions and enjoy higher levels of happiness.
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A lot of these findings are based on broad definitions, where extroverts are sociable, outgoing and assertive and introverts have a more reserved demeanour.
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But there are many nuances of your personality.
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A 2017 study looked at which detailed personality traits indicate high levels of well-being.
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They found that higher enthusiasm predicted positive relationships, self-acceptance and life satisfaction.
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Those with more intellectual curiosity experienced more personal growth, which is probably good news for everyone watching this video!
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And more industrious people were more likely to be satisfied with their purpose in life and experience positive mood.
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Even if these personality traits aren't well-developed right now, they can evolve over the course of your life.
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You can aim to be more enthusiastic or industrious over time.
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But it is a slow change.
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Another line of research looks at how you feel in your environment right now.
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This feeling of how well you fit into your surroundings, whether that be your school, workplace or social settings, is known as person-environment fit.
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A lot of people in the west who are more introverted feel like they don't fit in, so then they fake being extraverted, and this leads to lower self-esteem.
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This was the basis for a 2018 study, where researchers looked at the relationship between a person-environment fit, introverts and well-being.
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Participants were asked how introverted or extraverted they were and then how introverted or extraverted they wanted to be.
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The majority of participants wanted to be more extraverted, particularly those who were introverted.
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This was largely because they live in a society that values extraversion.
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More than 80% of the participants said they felt like it was necessary to show extraverted characteristics in just going about their daily life.
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Now researchers called this desire to be more extraverted than you are your extraversion-deficit belief.
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And it highlights the importance of self-acceptance in your beliefs.
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For example: this study found introverts who were self-accepting and comfortable with their introversion experienced higher levels of well-being, closer to those experienced by extraverts.
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And well-being didn't come from people having a particular personality trait, it came from how their beliefs about themselves interacted with those traits.
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So becoming more accepting of your introversion and your place on the introversion-extraversion continuum – is essential for introverts to increase their well-being.
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Luckily your beliefs can be changed.
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For starters: Remember that schools and workplaces in the West are often geared towards extraverts.
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Feeling uneasy in these situations doesn't mean that you don't fit in, it means that they weren't designed for you.
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Focus on your strengths and situations where you can use them.
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Know that not all introverts are the same.
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Some are shy, some are anxious, some are reflective and others just prefer quiet time.
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A good task is to add a qualifier to how you are introverted, so you can understand more about how you will respond to a specific environment.
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And don't force yourself to be someone you're not!
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More than one third of people fall on the more introverted side of the spectrum.
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You can try to mould your personality traits to be more enthusiastic or intellectually curious or industrious over time.
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And this may lead to increased wellbeing.
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But the biggest thing that leads to happiness is accepting that being an introvert is okay.
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It's normal.
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And practicing self-acceptance leads to the greatest boost in well-being.