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  • - Hi we're Joel and Lia.

  • - And today is another episode of

  • Ask yourself,

  • which is our series where Joel and Lia go deep.

  • - Yeah.

  • - So,

  • (laughing)

  • It feels weird saying that.

  • - I've got itchy nose.

  • - Itchy mitchy.

  • - Itchy mitchy.

  • And yes, if you've noticed my voice is weird,

  • it's caused I've got acute briconters, broconters,

  • - Bronchitis!

  • What is broconters?

  • - Briconters

  • (laughing)

  • I've got broconters. I've got bronchitis.

  • - You're such a prince.

  • Joel in his Disney prince cottage in the Cotsworld,

  • being like, I've got acute bicohonters.

  • - Bicohonters. I've got acute pocahontas.

  • - That's so sweet.

  • - Anyway, I've got acute bronchitis so that's that.

  • - Yeah, when you go to the doctors next week,

  • please say it wrong,

  • - Yeah, I will.

  • - That will be amazing.

  • - I've diagnosed myself with pocahontas.

  • - Then just do a little cough.

  • For anyone who saw the last episode of this,

  • we finish every episode with the first question from

  • this episode. So,

  • - Which was,

  • - Do you prefer being around men or women?

  • Do your closest friends tend to be men or women

  • so is that all in one go?

  • - Interesting.

  • - Well, what do you think?

  • - I prefer being around

  • men, I think.

  • - Really?

  • - I have a few female friends and I treasure them like

  • when I find a female that gets on , we get on with each

  • other really well, finding each other really funny,

  • it's just like winner winner, chicken dinner. But,

  • I just don't really have many.

  • - No?

  • - No. I've got, I got female cousins, and family members

  • that I love being around but in general,

  • I'd say most of my friends are men.

  • - Yeah, yeah?

  • It's interesting I think it might, it could be our

  • generation as well because most of my close friends

  • are girls.

  • And again, when you meet a guy, someone of the same

  • sex as you that you get along with so well is like

  • amazing and you can't replace those relationships, but

  • there's something being around women,

  • I just find it more relaxing, like if you've put me in

  • a room with loads of women, I'll be like,

  • they're all gonna love me within like 5 minutes,

  • like they're gonna love me.

  • Whereas if you've put me in a room full of men

  • for 5 minutes, I'm like, they're all gonna hate me.

  • They're literally all gonna hate me.

  • - And I think that because that is an ingrained thing

  • in your mind, you now believe that that is what's true

  • moving forward.

  • And I kind of have left my, in the same for me, as well,

  • I'm like, me and women, like I just don't have many

  • female friends and that's why I don't have any

  • many more female friends cause I've said it to myself

  • so many times.

  • - Exactly, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy

  • all the time.

  • I think also for me being bullied at school,

  • it was always by the boys and a few girls,

  • but mainly boys so then I'm just always like,

  • yeah, they're just gonna hate me and they're just

  • gonna bully me so.

  • - It makes so much sense like, of course that,

  • that because that has happened, you're like, you know,

  • closer with girls.

  • - But you know what? It used to really bother me,

  • I was like, why do I have so many friends are girls

  • and not guys, but actually now, I'm just like,

  • I don't care like, I don't care if they're boy, girl,

  • whatever you're identified with, I'm like,

  • as long as I like you and you're a nice person

  • and you make me laugh, that's fine.

  • - That is so true, love that.

  • Okay, I think I wanna skip the next one,

  • - Okay, shall I read the next one?

  • - Yeah you go on

  • - So we'll skip that one.

  • Oh, okay, this is a long one so buckle up.

  • - Okay.

  • - Right, while on a trip to another city your spouse

  • or lover

  • whether you put a ring on it or not.

  • - In brackets, or lover.

  • - Meets and spends the night with an exciting stranger.

  • Given that they will never meet again

  • and that you will not otherwise learn of the incident,

  • would you want your partner to tell you about it,

  • and it roles were reversed, would you reveal what you

  • have done?

  • - Oh my gosh.

  • - I wanna know it all, I think I'd wanna know. Wouldn't you?

  • - I wouldn't wanna know.

  • - You wouldn't?

  • - Not want to know, no, I don't wanna know.

  • - So yeah your partner might never see those people again,

  • - Yeah.

  • - But it says something about their personality and

  • their character the fact that they cheated on you.

  • - Yeah, and I think that, that's their issue,

  • that's their problem that they cheated on me.

  • - Yeah, but do you still wanna be around them for

  • doing that? You still wanna keep someone in your life

  • that did that to you?

  • - I think if, maybe this is really controversial,

  • but I think if they were to deal with their own

  • fears, anxieties and whatever they like have to deal with

  • because they did that,

  • then I'll be willing to stay with them if they were to

  • willing to like learn from it, be a better person,

  • - Yeah, but you don't know any of this.

  • - I know, I think that's also me protecting myself from it,

  • like if they were to do it, and then like, how would I know?

  • Great, I think like ignorance is bliss.

  • I'd rather not know.

  • - I'd rather the bliss was ruined and that relationship

  • ended and then move on with someone else,

  • I just think it's unforgivable.

  • I would never, ever forgive anyone that ever cheated

  • on me.

  • - That's good, yeah, I mean. I think I would, but,

  • I don't think,

  • I'm not saying I have like a partner that would,

  • I really, really, really trust who I'm with but

  • if it was to happen, I just wouldn't wanna know,

  • I know it would bother me,

  • I think it would damage me so, so much,

  • but if I was to know, I would obviously end it.

  • But I think if I wanted to stay in something and have it

  • like a strong forever, I would rather not know.

  • How funny that we're just, I just would rather not know,

  • but I would want that person to go and deal with their,

  • do you know what I mean, I look after my half,

  • you look after your half.

  • Together we're great but you've done something

  • and you've messed up,

  • - Yeah

  • - I'd rather not know.

  • - Wow, interesting. Would you tell if you'd done it?

  • Would you tell or would you keep a secret?

  • - Yeah, I would tell because I think if it was my beef,

  • I'd have to end that relationship.

  • - See I think, we're completely different,

  • cause now I think I would probably keep it a secret,

  • after what I've said like, I'll never forgive anyone,

  • I'll be like, I'll just keep it a secret.

  • If I'm never gonna see them ever again, and I'm like,

  • I don't wanna ruin what I've got,

  • I'd probably would just be like,

  • I'm not gonna say anything, which is really hypocritical.

  • - You know it's true though because I see where you're

  • coming from because what good will it do to that person

  • to know?

  • Like what good would I do to my partner to inflict this

  • information on them that's gonna probably ruin their life.

  • - I know.

  • - If they were that into me.

  • - Yeah.

  • - It's so tough, what do you guys think? Let us know.

  • If I'm not sort of Joel's

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  • - Okay, are there people you envy enough to want to

  • trade lives with them? Who are they?

  • Are there people you envy enough to want to trade

  • lives with them?

  • - Definitely people I envy and like I'm jealous of

  • what they've got in their life and but,

  • yeah I'd never wanna trade lives because I'd wanna

  • be me in their position, I wouldn't ever wanna just

  • be them.

  • - Yeah, I agree.

  • There's only one Joel Wood, and that's you.

  • There's only one, there's only one person with these

  • fingerprints and that's me.

  • - And that's me.

  • - Yeah, and I also like, I think a lot of envy or

  • jealousy comes from like, other people's achievements

  • or other people stuff that they've like smashed it,

  • but surely so much of that is from experiencing it

  • yourself.

  • Do you know what I mean? Like so much like that you gave

  • from that.

  • - That you've worked from it rather than just being

  • given it.

  • - Yeah. Imagine just swapping lives I mean like,

  • Ah, this is amazing like I fly, I'm in a private jet.

  • - Yeah, no exactly.

  • - It's not gonna be fun is it?

  • - Right next one, okay. Sorry, this is really funny.

  • - What is it?

  • - For an all-expense paid one week vacation anywhere

  • in the world, would you be willing to kill a beautiful

  • butterfly by pulling off its wings, what about stepping

  • on a cockroach?

  • Absolutely, of course. I'm sorry butterfly and cockroach

  • but yeah, I would.

  • - That is hilarious.

  • - Isn't that funny?

  • - I mean obviously like when you get the butterfly in

  • your hand, you're gonna be like, oh it's so pretty,

  • like you don't really wanna pull its wings off

  • - But then I'd be, all-expenses holiday

  • - All-expenses, bye.

  • - I've already done that, I know I'm a horrible human

  • being, loads of you are probably gonna unsubscribe

  • because I'm admitting to this, but when I was a child,

  • I used to love catching those flying daddy long legs,

  • you know the ones that are flying spiders almost,

  • I don't know if you call them the same thing,

  • and I used to catch them, pull of their wings,

  • pull off each leg and just leave them as a wriggling

  • body.

  • Awful, isn't that awful?

  • - I can't believe you were one of those kids,

  • only the bullies in my school did that and you aren't

  • a bully.

  • - I've never hurt any animals but insects,

  • I was just like, you deserve to die.

  • Apart from wood lice, I love wood lice.

  • - That's so bizaare.

  • - Isn't it weird? It's so horrible.

  • - Don't like you, you're a spider, you deserve no legs.

  • - Oh I hate spiders.

  • - Okay would you be willing to murder an innocent person

  • if it would end hunger in the world?

  • The classic like

  • - Which is never gonna happen, so why are we discussing it?

  • I don't think I would, I'd feel really guilty.

  • - You can't imagine

  • - Imagine the guilt you'll live with,