- And today is another episode of

Ask yourself,

which is our series where Joel and Lia go deep.

- Yeah.

- So,

(laughing)

It feels weird saying that.

- I've got itchy nose.

- Itchy mitchy.

- Itchy mitchy.

And yes, if you've noticed my voice is weird,

it's caused I've got acute briconters, broconters,

- Bronchitis!

What is broconters?

- Briconters

(laughing)

I've got broconters. I've got bronchitis.

- You're such a prince.

Joel in his Disney prince cottage in the Cotsworld,

being like, I've got acute bicohonters.

- Bicohonters. I've got acute pocahontas.

- That's so sweet.

- Anyway, I've got acute bronchitis so that's that.

- Yeah, when you go to the doctors next week,

please say it wrong,

- Yeah, I will.

- That will be amazing.

- I've diagnosed myself with pocahontas.

- Then just do a little cough.

For anyone who saw the last episode of this,

we finish every episode with the first question from

this episode. So,

- Which was,

- Do you prefer being around men or women?

Do your closest friends tend to be men or women

so is that all in one go?

- Interesting.

- Well, what do you think?

- I prefer being around

men, I think.

- Really?

- I have a few female friends and I treasure them like

when I find a female that gets on , we get on with each

other really well, finding each other really funny,

it's just like winner winner, chicken dinner. But,

I just don't really have many.

- No?

- No. I've got, I got female cousins, and family members

that I love being around but in general,

I'd say most of my friends are men.

- Yeah, yeah?

It's interesting I think it might, it could be our

generation as well because most of my close friends

are girls.

And again, when you meet a guy, someone of the same

sex as you that you get along with so well is like

amazing and you can't replace those relationships, but

there's something being around women,

I just find it more relaxing, like if you've put me in

a room with loads of women, I'll be like,

they're all gonna love me within like 5 minutes,

like they're gonna love me.

Whereas if you've put me in a room full of men

for 5 minutes, I'm like, they're all gonna hate me.

They're literally all gonna hate me.

- And I think that because that is an ingrained thing

in your mind, you now believe that that is what's true

moving forward.

And I kind of have left my, in the same for me, as well,

I'm like, me and women, like I just don't have many

female friends and that's why I don't have any

many more female friends cause I've said it to myself

so many times.

- Exactly, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy

all the time.

I think also for me being bullied at school,

it was always by the boys and a few girls,

but mainly boys so then I'm just always like,

yeah, they're just gonna hate me and they're just

gonna bully me so.

- It makes so much sense like, of course that,

that because that has happened, you're like, you know,

closer with girls.

- But you know what? It used to really bother me,

I was like, why do I have so many friends are girls

and not guys, but actually now, I'm just like,

I don't care like, I don't care if they're boy, girl,

whatever you're identified with, I'm like,

as long as I like you and you're a nice person

and you make me laugh, that's fine.

- That is so true, love that.

Okay, I think I wanna skip the next one,

- Okay, shall I read the next one?

- Yeah you go on

- So we'll skip that one.

Oh, okay, this is a long one so buckle up.

- Okay.

- Right, while on a trip to another city your spouse

or lover

whether you put a ring on it or not.

- In brackets, or lover.

- Meets and spends the night with an exciting stranger.

Given that they will never meet again

and that you will not otherwise learn of the incident,

would you want your partner to tell you about it,

and it roles were reversed, would you reveal what you

have done?

- Oh my gosh.

- I wanna know it all, I think I'd wanna know. Wouldn't you?

- I wouldn't wanna know.

- You wouldn't?

- Not want to know, no, I don't wanna know.

- So yeah your partner might never see those people again,

- Yeah.

- But it says something about their personality and

their character the fact that they cheated on you.

- Yeah, and I think that, that's their issue,

that's their problem that they cheated on me.

- Yeah, but do you still wanna be around them for

doing that? You still wanna keep someone in your life

that did that to you?

- I think if, maybe this is really controversial,

but I think if they were to deal with their own

fears, anxieties and whatever they like have to deal with

because they did that,

then I'll be willing to stay with them if they were to

willing to like learn from it, be a better person,

- Yeah, but you don't know any of this.

- I know, I think that's also me protecting myself from it,

like if they were to do it, and then like, how would I know?

Great, I think like ignorance is bliss.

I'd rather not know.

- I'd rather the bliss was ruined and that relationship

ended and then move on with someone else,

I just think it's unforgivable.

I would never, ever forgive anyone that ever cheated

on me.

- That's good, yeah, I mean. I think I would, but,

I don't think,

I'm not saying I have like a partner that would,

I really, really, really trust who I'm with but

if it was to happen, I just wouldn't wanna know,

I know it would bother me,

I think it would damage me so, so much,

but if I was to know, I would obviously end it.

But I think if I wanted to stay in something and have it

like a strong forever, I would rather not know.

How funny that we're just, I just would rather not know,

but I would want that person to go and deal with their,

do you know what I mean, I look after my half,

you look after your half.

Together we're great but you've done something

and you've messed up,

- Yeah

- I'd rather not know.

- Wow, interesting. Would you tell if you'd done it?

Would you tell or would you keep a secret?

- Yeah, I would tell because I think if it was my beef,

I'd have to end that relationship.

- See I think, we're completely different,

cause now I think I would probably keep it a secret,

after what I've said like, I'll never forgive anyone,

I'll be like, I'll just keep it a secret.

If I'm never gonna see them ever again, and I'm like,

I don't wanna ruin what I've got,

I'd probably would just be like,

I'm not gonna say anything, which is really hypocritical.

- You know it's true though because I see where you're

coming from because what good will it do to that person

to know?

Like what good would I do to my partner to inflict this

information on them that's gonna probably ruin their life.

- I know.

- If they were that into me.

- Yeah.

- It's so tough, what do you guys think? Let us know.

If I'm not sort of Joel's

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- Okay, are there people you envy enough to want to

trade lives with them? Who are they?

Are there people you envy enough to want to trade

lives with them?

- Definitely people I envy and like I'm jealous of

what they've got in their life and but,

yeah I'd never wanna trade lives because I'd wanna

be me in their position, I wouldn't ever wanna just

be them.

- Yeah, I agree.

There's only one Joel Wood, and that's you.

There's only one, there's only one person with these

fingerprints and that's me.

- And that's me.

- Yeah, and I also like, I think a lot of envy or

jealousy comes from like, other people's achievements

or other people stuff that they've like smashed it,

but surely so much of that is from experiencing it

yourself.

Do you know what I mean? Like so much like that you gave

from that.

- That you've worked from it rather than just being

given it.

- Yeah. Imagine just swapping lives I mean like,

Ah, this is amazing like I fly, I'm in a private jet.

- Yeah, no exactly.

- It's not gonna be fun is it?

- Right next one, okay. Sorry, this is really funny.

- What is it?

- For an all-expense paid one week vacation anywhere

in the world, would you be willing to kill a beautiful

butterfly by pulling off its wings, what about stepping

on a cockroach?

Absolutely, of course. I'm sorry butterfly and cockroach

but yeah, I would.

- That is hilarious.

- Isn't that funny?

- I mean obviously like when you get the butterfly in

your hand, you're gonna be like, oh it's so pretty,

like you don't really wanna pull its wings off

- But then I'd be, all-expenses holiday

- All-expenses, bye.

- I've already done that, I know I'm a horrible human

being, loads of you are probably gonna unsubscribe

because I'm admitting to this, but when I was a child,

I used to love catching those flying daddy long legs,

you know the ones that are flying spiders almost,

I don't know if you call them the same thing,

and I used to catch them, pull of their wings,

pull off each leg and just leave them as a wriggling

body.

Awful, isn't that awful?

- I can't believe you were one of those kids,

only the bullies in my school did that and you aren't

a bully.

- I've never hurt any animals but insects,

I was just like, you deserve to die.

Apart from wood lice, I love wood lice.

- That's so bizaare.

- Isn't it weird? It's so horrible.

- Don't like you, you're a spider, you deserve no legs.

- Oh I hate spiders.

- Okay would you be willing to murder an innocent person

if it would end hunger in the world?

The classic like

- Which is never gonna happen, so why are we discussing it?

I don't think I would, I'd feel really guilty.

- You can't imagine

- Imagine the guilt you'll live with,