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  • Hey guys!

  • Sorry I didn't post a video last week.

  • If you follow my newly made snapchat you know that I was in Hawaii for a wedding.

  • And no, I'm not saying that just to plug my snapchat.

  • I hate it when people are constantly promoting their own.

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  • So yeah, I was in Hawaii for a wedding.

  • Kind of why I'm so dark right now.

  • So I apologize for not posting.

  • And also, I'm single.

  • But anyway!

  • Today I'm going to be talking to you guys about having to break bad news to people.

  • It's literally one of the hardest things you have to do in life.

  • Yet it's something that we all have to do.

  • I honestly think it's harder to deliver bad news to someone than it is to actually receive it.

  • And if you've been in that situation, you know exactly what I'm talking about.

  • Breaking bad news to people just sucks, it's one of the worst feelings ever.

  • Which is why I came up with this video, to not just help you but myself as well.

  • Here's some tips and techniques to make it a little easier on you guys the next time you have to break bad news to someone.

  • Take a look!

  • First up we got probably the most common technique that people use.

  • The good news and bad news technique.

  • If you have to deliver bad news to people.

  • You gotta give 'em some good news as well to cheer 'em up.

  • 'Cause no matter how bad the bad news is, there's always good news.

  • You just have to find it.

  • I got some good news and bad news.

  • What do you want to hear first?

  • Give me the bad news.

  • Well, you know how I just left to go get us lattes from Starbucks.

  • Yes.

  • Well, in the parking lot, I kind of hit a kid.

  • What? Are you serious?

  • I mean, I fled the scene, but they definitely have your license plate on file and they're probably on their way here now.

  • Are you kidding me right now?

  • But there's still good news!

  • How could there possibly be any good news?

  • I got the lattes!

  • Oh. Oh yeah that's right. They spilled when I hit that kid.

  • The fake out technique.

  • Now there's different levels of bad news.

  • Obviously some are worse than others.

  • For this technique, all you have to do is give fake terrible news right before you give the actual bad news.

  • So in comparison, the actual bad news is not that bad.

  • Hey G!

  • They're not making a Frozen 2.

  • Aww, well that sucks.

  • And also, I kind of ran over your dog on the way here.

  • What?

  • But wait, before you get mad.

  • They are making a Frozen 2.

  • Your dog's still dead though.

  • The cliché technique.

  • One of the worst ways you can break bad news to someone is by just surprising them.

  • With this technique you're going to give them a warning that bad news is coming so that they can mentally prepare for it.

  • All you have to do is start your conversation off with a very cliché line, such as.

  • Yeah, there's um.. there's no easy way to say this but...

  • Indubetabley.. Indubid- Indubidubly Indubuta? What is that word?

  • Indubitably.

  • Yeah, that.

  • It means uhh you know, to be without a doubt or for sure.

  • I know what it means but why are you trying to say it?

  • Oh because your girlfriend's cheating on you.

  • What?

  • Are you sure?

  • Indubi- bubly.

  • Indubita-

  • Hey! There really is no easy way to say that word!

  • The good news, bad news, and even worse news technique.

  • Sometimes when you have really, really bad news.

  • You don't want to overwhelm the person, so you're gonna want to break it up into pieces.

  • With this technique, you give it to them in parts.

  • So instead of giving them extremely awful news, you just give them bad news and even worse news.

  • And like we mentioned earlier, it doesn't hurt to sprinkle a little good news in there.

  • That wasn't a sprinkle. I don't know what that was.

  • So, I have some good news, some bad news, and some even worse news.

  • What would you like first?

  • The good news, I guess.

  • Well, the good news is that your son is still alive.

  • Oh my god!

  • Still alive? What happened?

  • Well that's the bad news. Do you want to know that now, or?

  • I thought you wanted the good news.

  • What does it matter? Tell me what happened.

  • Okay, well the bad news is your son has been hit by a car in a Starbucks parking lot.

  • Why didn't you tell me that immediately?

  • Well you asked for the good news first, not the bad news.

  • Saying he's still alive, without even knowing, isn't good news.

  • Well you haven't even heard the even worse news yet.

  • How could it be worse?

  • Well the even worse news is that I lied about the good news.

  • Huh?

  • He's dead.

  • Just have pun with it.

  • Now if you still can't figure out how to use these techniques.

  • I made it even easier.

  • I asked a bunch of you on twitter for some of the worst news that you ever had to break.

  • And judging by those tweets, I came up with some of the most common situations that people find themselves in when they have to break bad news.

  • Here's some pre-made examples that you guys can use when you're in that situation.

  • Like when grandma's tests come in.

  • We got your grandmother's test results back, and well.

  • She passed.

  • So she's going to be okay?

  • No.

  • But you just said she passed it, she got an A.

  • Yeah A weight.

  • A weight?

  • She passed a way.

  • The worst news you could possible break at a wedding.

  • And you Dana, do you take Gregory to be your husband?

  • I do.

  • And by the power vested in me, I now pronounce you man and wife.

  • You may now kiss the bride.

  • Wait!

  • I have something to say.

  • I have terrible news.

  • There's no easy way to say this, so.

  • Ow!

  • The wife eye is down.

  • When she refuses to give Star Wars a chance.

  • What are you doing?

  • Well you know how I love Star Wars and I believe in the force.

  • Yes?

  • And ever since we've been married I've been trying to get you to finally watch it.

  • I'm still not going to.

  • Right. Which is why I believe this belongs to you.

  • What is that?

  • What?

  • May divorce be with you.

  • When you get her to break the bad news for you.

  • You can't just do the same move over and over!

  • I'm still winning!

  • Hey! You're cheating!

  • I really am, though.

  • When it's the highlight of his day.

  • The park is closed today.

  • (sad music)

  • When you're the boss.

  • Sir, what are you doing?

  • I'm going to light this ring around you on fire.

  • Why?

  • 'Cause I'm fire ring you.

  • What?

  • Okay obviously these are jokes.

  • I took it a little too far. You're not going to light someone on fire.

  • This video actually started off kind of realistic.

  • And then I had too much fun with it.

  • Sorry guys.

  • But anyway!

  • The truth is there is not easy way to break bad news to someone.

  • The best way you can do it is by just getting straight to the point.

  • Don't beat around the bush!

  • It's like ripping off a bandaid, you just do it one time really fast and get it over with.

  • And you also hope that you're not hairy 'cause that hurts more.

  • Look, I have to get back to work in ten minutes. What is it?

  • It'll be quick, I promise.

  • Okay, well then what's up?

  • So I have some bad news.

  • What is that?

  • Your newspaper, it got wet outside so it's pretty bad news now.

  • Oh! You scared me. For a second I thought that you really meant bad news.

  • Well, to be honest I actually do have more bad news.

  • From your neighbours lawns.

  • I don't know, do you want to give this to them or? Okay.

  • But listen, there is something I need to tell you and it's pretty upsetting.

  • Upsetting? What is it?

  • I just told you it's up sitting.

  • You're kind of slouching. You really should sit up 'cause your back, it's not good for your... back, you know.

  • Okay?

  • But anyway, the real reason why I called you out here is because, well, your parents.

  • It's not looking good.

  • My parents? What do you mean it's not looking good?

  • Your parents, they've definitely seen better days.

  • What happened?

  • It's just, your parents is just a bit messy.

  • Messy? Just tell me what happened, what is it?

  • Okay fine, it's your hair!

  • My hair? What does this have to do with my parents?

  • What are you talking about? Your hair has everything to do with your appearance.

  • I think it's your hair.

  • It could also be your posture. You're kind of slouching again.

  • Want me to tell you something up sitting again, so you'll remember to.

  • Are you kidding me?

  • Are you serious?

  • Well I mean that's... two different answers.

  • It's no and yes 'cause no, I'm not kidding you and yes, I am serious. You are still slouching.

  • Is this supposed to be funny to you?

  • Is this supposed to be a joke?

  • Breaking bad news is not supposed to be funny.

  • Well I know that. It's under drama.

  • Or is it thriller.

  • What?

  • Suspense.

  • Yeah, Breaking Bad.

  • I know it's not a comedy. It's not supposed to be funny. It's like a serious show.

  • And you do know the show is over, right, so there's no new episodes so it wouldn't be under the new category.

  • Are you done?

  • Wait, where are you going?

  • I'm going back to work!

  • I'm so over this. You made me worry for nothing, you made it seem like you were going to give me bad news and you didn't.

  • I mean, technically I did give you bad news, remember?

  • Your neighbours bad news too.

  • Goodbye.

  • Okay fine, G, just wait. Okay just. I really do have something important to tell you.

  • I swear to god Ryan, if this another-

  • No, it's not.

  • It's not, okay.

  • It really isn't. Look.

  • I'm sorry.

  • I guess I just made all these jokes because I just, I don't know how to break bad news to people.

  • I just hate seeing people get upset, especially people I actually care about.

  • It's part of life, Ryan. Everyone has to do it.

  • I know.

  • I can take it, you just have to be honest with me and stop with the joking around.

  • Okay, umm well...

  • Earlier in the video, it wasn't a joke.

  • I lied.

  • Something really happened to my parents?

  • Oh no, no not that.

  • Are you really cheating on me?

  • No, of course not.

  • Then, what is it?

  • Well there's good news and bad news.

  • The good news is I already talked to your boss and he said you don't have to go back in today.

  • Given the circumstances.

  • Okay, what are the circumstances?

  • Well, that's the bad news.

  • You know those bad newspapers from earlier.

  • What about them?

  • They weren't actually soggy from the rain outside.

  • Huh?

  • He's firing you.

  • What?

  • Teehee!

  • So thank you guys again so much for watching.

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