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  • hey guys what's up Stefanie the English coach here live on YouTube the very

  • first time so this is a new experience for me I am not sure what to expect I

  • hope this works just like Facebook live because I'm used to Facebook live I'm

  • comfortable with Facebook live this is like new territory you guys and anytime

  • you're in new territory it's so scary right? but that's good actually that's

  • okay because today in this video we are going to be talking about confidence

  • okay? and speaking English confidently even if you still make mistakes so let's

  • just make sure that this video is gonna work oh I have my first comment awesome

  • hi Mohammed this is great you guys I'm glad that the comments are showing up

  • unfortunately I'm having this thing flash at the top of my screen that says

  • very bad connection so I'm sorry do you guys hear me okay

  • hey Marcos what is up? good to see you here do you guys hear me okay? hi Sidra

  • oh my gosh look at you guys normally we're all on Facebook together now we're

  • on YouTube let's see if this works it still says very bad connection oh well

  • you know what I'm just gonna make this video we will make the most of it I

  • would love to see your commentary your comments and everything you know as I'm

  • making the video okay? and then please do me a favor and tell me in the comments

  • what kinds of videos you'd like me to make that are live videos because you

  • guys all know that I could talk for days about fluency and confidence and all

  • kinds of stuff right like the basics but there's so many other things we could

  • talk about I mean I could do like I hadn't thought of this before

  • I really hadn't thought of this you guys told me a year ago like Stefanie you

  • should get on you it took me so long to come here imagine

  • if I have been doing all of my you know live videos here I could have organized

  • them into classes and done all kinds of things and I think I can even share my

  • screen when I use my computer right now I'm just using my phone but normally I

  • can like share my screen on my computer so I can make slides I can make it like

  • actual classes I'm so excited so okay so I guess you guys can hear me well

  • because I have a mic on and you're interacting with me nobody said we can't

  • hear you so I'm assuming you can hear me okay good

  • because like I said this is the first video I'm making and I'm like nervous

  • that it's something's gonna go wrong but that's how life is right something

  • always goes wrong especially when it's the first time that

  • you're doing something cool so I see some people are in Brazil some people

  • are in Germany where else are you guys watching from this is so fun

  • okay so let me ask you guys a question when you're speaking English do you feel

  • confident? okay do you just open your mouth and speak you know even if your

  • sentences don't really come together well okay so to hear says I'm really

  • struggling in pronunciation and accent okay so that's something we could

  • definitely talk about Marcos says culture news and so on yeah hey we could talk

  • about that you know I'm thinking of you know really venturing out and talking

  • more about just life things because those discussions I think are fun and

  • they can really help you guys with you know learning new vocabulary and just

  • interacting in English so Marcos says I don't feel shy okay good so Marco what

  • about when you're in like a high stress situation like when you're giving you

  • know leading a meeting at work or when you are you know interviewing for a

  • position or something like that you know not just casual conversation but when

  • there's something at risk or at stake you know something you could lose so

  • Murph says I don't feel confident okay so the thing is oh and Kat says I don't

  • have issues with talking to someone in English but when it comes to specific

  • vocabulary then it gets scary well that's called jargon Kat and you

  • know what if you don't know specific jargon you know in English for something

  • specific then you don't know it like don't freak out for example if I go into

  • my dad's garage I don't know what half the things in there are called because

  • it has to do with like mechanics and stuff like that sorry guys I keep

  • looking there and there and there like there's comments flying around I

  • apologize so anyways yeah like I don't know all kinds of vocabulary about

  • everything either so if I don't know what something is called I just say that

  • thing or what's that or something like that so you know don't let that rob your

  • confidence okay cool so speaking confidently anytime that there you know

  • there's a few things that go on here right? some people it's just like they're

  • born with confidence you know you they just don't struggle with confidence they

  • can just speak say they're mind or whatever and then there's other people

  • who measure their words a lot more they really think before they speak and maybe

  • they think too much maybe they overthink things and they

  • don't you know say something even though they have a really good point to make

  • okay because they lack confidence now some people some of you even you're

  • probably maybe very confident when you speak your native language but then when

  • you speak in English all of a sudden you clam up and you're just like oh my gosh

  • like they're gonna hear my accent they're gonna hear my bad pronunciation

  • they're gonna hear me make a mistake yes Nishan over thinking totally kills

  • it so you guys have to understand that everybody struggles with a lack of

  • confidence in one way or another you know for you guys maybe it's with

  • English for other people it could be with you know public speaking in general

  • or who knows what maybe you know guy is like they lack confidence when they're

  • dating girls and they just are like I don't

  • know if I'm doing this right or saying the right thing or girls too if they're

  • dating guys maybe they're like oh my gosh what should I say what should I do

  • what is he expecting you know it can be really a frustrating thing but what we

  • have to realize about confidence is that usually it's all in our head

  • right? so if you don't speak English English confidently okay it's because

  • you probably have some kind of fear right? and your fear might be rational or

  • irrational you know like if you speak poorly at a job interview you might not

  • get the job that is a reality so you have that fear okay but if you're just

  • worried about you know strangers judging you 24/7 over your communication skills

  • and that's a little bit of an irrational fear because the truth is while you're

  • worried about what other people think of you other people are worried about what

  • you think of them right it's crazy how this works but you just have to remember

  • that so when you're sitting there you know talking to somebody in English and

  • you're just like is you know am i messing up what are they thinking of me

  • the person you're talking to is probably going oh my gosh do I look fat in these

  • clothes am I too tall am I too short so yeah Marcos says the only important

  • thing is that who listened to me would understand what I tell yes and that

  • should be our goal that is the goal of communication it should be about people

  • understanding you and you making your point clear I have seen people speak

  • English very badly with absolute confidence because they're just like I

  • don't care I'm learning I'm you know I just I don't care you know they don't

  • care that's the secret to speaking confidently you have to not care what

  • other people think about you or about your English you just have to speak it

  • when we when we lack confidence it's because we are overthinking everything

  • we're thinking too much about what other people think of us so yeah anyways I'm

  • just like rambling on and on about this idea it feels different doing a video on

  • YouTube then on Facebook I don't really know why

  • because maybe I'm just so much more comfortable with it on Facebook or maybe

  • because on my Facebook videos there's usually a lot more interaction so I just

  • jump in whenever I can with the comments but um another thing I wanted to say is

  • that improving your your confidence right like there's two parts there's the

  • practice part and then there is the just psychological component of confidence

  • right? sometimes you just have to tell yourself that everything is going to be

  • okay and I know that sounds like really generic advice but again you have to

  • analyze the thoughts that are going through your head are you having

  • rational fears or irrational fears what can you do about those fears and then

  • practice when you're good at something you feel confident like when you get

  • down to tie your shoes you're so confident when you tie your shoes that

  • you don't even think about tying your shoes because you're like yeah I tie my

  • shoes when you know you don't even think twice that's how you want it to be when

  • you speak English but in order to get to that level of course you have to make

  • sure that you're consistently practicing so let me ask you this what are you guys

  • doing to consistently practice your English with others okay active practice

  • active practice not oh hang on sorry I was trying to fix something there

  • active practice not passive okay so someone was asking for my Skype ID no

  • you guys come on there's so many of you there's one of me anyways so yeah what

  • are you guys doing to actively practice your English with other people now in

  • case you don't know or don't realize right here on this channel there's James

  • with the Deadpool accent awesome hi James

  • right here on this channel you know we have almost 3k people 3,000 people at

  • this point who are actively trying to improve their English you could easily

  • find a partner here just read the comments and then find somebody who

  • writes a decent comment you know and write something really nice and

  • thoughtful and then go hey you know that was really thoughtful comment and

  • then make a comment in return something equally as thoughtful and then say maybe

  • we could practice together what do you think okay because if you just go and

  • say hey want to practice with me you're not gonna find a good practice partner

  • mm-hmm Nishan says if I get to that level my

  • friends won't understand me and they'll treat me like an alien okay Nishan I'm

  • glad you brought that up okay because we're gonna talk about that

  • you guys if I miss your comments you can put it again it's hard to keep up with

  • all of them so I apologize but anyhow it's true friends put a lot of pressure

  • on you and I talked about this in another video - I'll have to link it up

  • here later but friends put a lot of pressure on you sometimes like you can't

  • win with them you know if you speak poorly in English they make fun of you

  • but if you sound just like a native speaker they go oh who do you think you

  • are who you're trying to sound like a native speaker you think you're better

  • than us right and honestly if those are the kinds of friends that you have maybe

  • you need to consider getting new friends I mean maybe that's kind of harsh but I

  • am kind of like an all-or-nothing kind of girl like I would not appreciate my

  • friends doing that now I know that I think that tends to happen more in

  • circles of men and guys but I haven't seen it happen too much with women and

  • girls but if I had friends that were putting me down and making fun of a goal

  • that I was trying to reach I wouldn't put up with that I'd be like I'd give

  • them the middle finger and I'd say peace out so ya know but you have to choose

  • your friends wisely you have to surround yourself with people that are like you

  • know have the same ambition and stuff that you do anyhow guys I'm gonna like

  • turn this next part into a Q&A because I decided that it's too hard to stay on

  • topic you guys are bringing up some really great points and stuff so if you

  • guys have questions let me just turn this into a Q&A and we can just talk

  • about some random random stuff so Elver says I

  • realize that actors speak excellently fluently because they practice over and

  • over again the same lines yes but in their real life ah where's that comment

  • but in their real life they also struggle sometimes remembering

  • vocabulary and hesitate yes all over a great point so exactly you guys when

  • you're trying to learn with like a TV show or something those actors practice

  • those lines hundreds of times that's why they say it the way they do this video

  • if you watch it and compare it to my other youtube videos it's gonna be

  • really different I'm gonna say you know a lot more because that's a filler word

  • that I use I shouldn't but I do and my husband when he edits my videos

  • he always has to say oh my gosh she said you know like 50 times in this video and

  • he has to edit that and take it out so regular speech you guys is different I'm

  • speaking spontaneously right now I'm being repetitive I'm using fillers I'm

  • pausing to think about what I'm gonna say it's not you know the same thing as

  • giving a speech that you've prepared for or doing lines and acting and something

  • that you've prepared for so you have to know that and you have to know that you

  • know when you mess up with your English you have permission to do that Kat yes I

  • have a husband and I mentioned that in many times in other videos but maybe

  • you're new here so that's okay Merve says the difference between them

  • is easy it depends where you live for instance one of them is used in the USA

  • one of them is used in British I don't know if you're responding to someone

  • else there Murph because I wasn't talking about that and then at least the

  • most like I don't know I'm confused have you ever been to India?

  • Nishan no I haven't but it is on my list of places to go actually I mean I

  • want to go everywhere you guys but yeah I have so many places I want to go I

  • have here I'll tell you where I have been okay I have been what I was I'm

  • from California born and raised there my first international trip was to Mexico

  • and

  • it says like very bad connection again hopefully this is hopefully this is

  • working and all the comments went away anyways um hopefully hopefully this is

  • working so anyways my first international trip was to Mexico and

  • then I went to Argentina I lived there for four years and then I traveled

  • abroad to the UK Ireland Switzerland Denmark and Italy no I haven't been to

  • Turkey yet Merve I want to go there though I want to go there definitely

  • Marcos says I've been at home same I think you meant that you've only ever

  • been in your country right? Brazil so in English we would say I've never been out

  • of the country or out of my country do you speak French? no not at all Oh Marcos

  • they're speaking talking about the difference between cookies and biscuits

  • yeah you guys there's so many different words when I was in the UK and Ireland I

  • was like I don't understand what these people are saying so

  • Elver it says I don't like to lose completely my accent because I guess oh

  • hang on because I guess sounds exotic like when Gringos speak my language

  • Spanish but I want to speak excellent good yeah uh-huh I think that's really

  • great because you know some people they want to sound exactly like a native

  • speaker and I think that's a good goal to but a lot of times it's because

  • they're trying to hide their own accent and I say you know why are you trying to

  • hide your accent you should be proud of where you're from be proud that you

  • learned English don't try to cover your accent let it be let it exist you know

  • but at the same time you know you want to make sure you're speaking clearly

  • some people have such strong accents it's like you can't understand what

  • they're saying okay Yazdan have you been to Brazil? not yet

  • I really want to go to Brazil it's been on my like to do

  • for years and I was in Argentina for four years so I was so close I could

  • have gone but it just never worked out so okay I'm gonna reply to Ronnie

  • Ronnie's in North Korea it's kind of hard to find a practice here Ronnie

  • watched the video that I did on how to practice with native speakers okay I

  • made a video about that you can use the same strategies there to practice with

  • non-native speakers okay use the internet it does not matter where you

  • live as long as you have the internet you can practice and I will link a guide

  • in the description later I made a guide on how to find practice partners okay

  • it's on my website EnglishFullTime.com Erin says I saw your interview with

  • that person her name is Hadar and who was not a native speaker of English but

  • now she speaks like a native and is an accent coach yeah she's awesome you guys

  • should definitely subscribe to her Channel