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I am reaching out to you because I need your help.
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We want to end gender inequality—and to do that we need everyone to be involved.
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This is the first campaign of its kind at the UN: we want to try and galvanize as many
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men and boys as possible to be advocates for gender equality.
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And we don't just want to talk about it, but make sure it is tangible.
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I was appointed six months ago and the more I have spoken about feminism the more I have
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realized that fighting for women's rights has too often become synonymous with man-hating.
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If there is one thing I know for certain, it is that this has to stop.
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For the record, feminism by definition is: “The belief that men and women should have
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equal rights and opportunities.
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It is the theory of the political, economic and social equality of the sexes.”
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I started questioning gender-based assumptions when at eight I was confused at being called
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“bossy,” because I wanted to direct the plays we would put on for our parents—but
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the boys were not.
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When at 14 I started being sexualized by certain elements of the press.
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When at 15 my girlfriends started dropping out of their sports teams because they didn't
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want to appear “muscly.”
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When at 18 my male friends were unable to express their feelings.
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I decided I was a feminist and this seemed uncomplicated to me.
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But my recent research has shown me that feminism has become an unpopular word.
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Apparently I am among the ranks of women whose expressions are seen as too strong, too aggressive,
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isolating, anti-men and, unattractive.
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Why is the word such an uncomfortable one?
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I am from Britain and think it is right that as a woman I am paid the same as my male counterparts.
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I think it is right that I should be able to make decisions about my own body.
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I think it is right that women be involved
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on my behalf in the policies and decision-making of my country.
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I think it is right that socially I am afforded the same respect as men.
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But sadly I can say that there is no one country in the world where all women can expect to
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receive these rights.
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No country in the world can yet say they have achieved gender equality.
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These rights I consider to be human rights but I am one of the lucky ones.
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My life is a sheer privilege because my parents didn't love me less because I was born a
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daughter.
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My school did not limit me because I was a girl.
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My mentors didn't assume I would go less far because I might give birth to a child
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one day.
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These influencers were the gender equality ambassadors that made me who I am today.
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They may not know it, but they are the inadvertent feminists who are changing the world today.
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And we need more of those.
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And if you still hate the word—it is not the word that is important but the idea and
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the ambition behind it.
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Because not all women have been afforded the same rights that I have.
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In fact, statistically, very few have been.
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In 1995, Hilary Clinton made a famous speech in Beijing about women's rights.
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Sadly many of the things she wanted to change are still a reality today.
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But what stood out for me the most was that only 30 per cent of her audience were male.
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How can we affect change in the world when only half of it is invited or feel welcome
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to participate in the conversation?
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Men—I would like to take this opportunity to extend your formal invitation.
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Gender equality is your issue too.
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Because to date, I've seen my father's role as a parent being valued less by society
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despite my needing his presence as a child as much as my mother's.
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I've seen young men suffering from mental illness unable to ask for help for fear it
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would make them look less “macho”—in fact in the UK suicide is the biggest killer
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of men between 20-49 years of age; eclipsing road accidents, cancer and coronary heart
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disease.
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I've seen men made fragile and insecure by a distorted sense of what constitutes male
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success.
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Men don't have the benefits of equality either.
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We don't often talk about men being imprisoned by gender stereotypes but I can see that that
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they are and that when they are free, things will change for women as a natural consequence.
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If men don't have to be aggressive in order to be accepted women won't feel compelled
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to be submissive.
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If men don't have to control, women won't have to be controlled.
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Both men and women should feel free to be sensitive.
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Both men and women should feel free to be strong…
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It is time that we all perceive gender on a spectrum not as two opposing sets of ideals.
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If we stop defining each other by what we are not and start defining ourselves by what
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we are—we can all
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be freer and this is what HeForShe is about.
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It's about freedom.
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I want men to take up this mantle.
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So their daughters, sisters and mothers can be free from prejudice but also so that their
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sons have permission to be vulnerable and human too—reclaim those parts of themselves
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they abandoned and in doing so be a more true and complete version of themselves.
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You might be thinking who is this Harry Potter girl?
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And what is she doing up on stage at the UN.
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It's a good question and trust me, I have been asking myself the same thing.
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I don't know if I am qualified to be here.
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All I know is that I care about this problem.
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And I want to make it better.
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And having seen what I've seen—and given the chance—I feel it is my duty to say something.
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English Statesman Edmund Burke said: “All that is needed for the forces of evil to triumph
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is for enough good men and women to do nothing.”
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In my nervousness for this speech and in my moments of doubt I've told myself firmly—if
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not me, who, if not now, when.
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If you have similar doubts when opportunities are presented to you I hope those words might
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be helpful.
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Because the reality is that if we do nothing it will take 75 years, or for me to be nearly
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a hundred before women can expect to be paid the same as men for the same work.
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15.5 million girls will be married in the next 16 years as children.
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And at current rates it won't be until 2086 before all rural African girls will be able
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to receive a secondary education.
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If you believe in equality, you might be one of those inadvertent feminists I spoke of
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earlier.
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And for this I applaud you.
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We are struggling for a uniting word but the good news is we have a uniting movement.
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It is called HeForShe.
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I am inviting you to step forward, to be seen to speak up, to be the "he" for "she".
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And to ask yourself if not me, who?
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If not now, when?
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Thank you.